Love at matured age (54)
Tiger1974Delhi, India3 Threads 12 PostsIf a couple in late fifties is attached to each other for long time having their individual domestic life, grown up children and still feel uneasiness for each other. Should they continue with this state of affair or they should abstain now?
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Tiger1974: If a couple in late fifties is attached to each other for long time having their individual domestic life, grown up children and still feel uneasiness for each other. Should they continue with this state of affair or they should abstain now?
I wouldn't even wait till the kids are grown. If the love is gone... why waste each other's time and deceive each other? Life is too short.
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Tiger1974: If a couple in late fifties is attached to each other for long time having their individual domestic life, grown up children and still feel uneasiness for each other. Should they continue with this state of affair or they should abstain now?
Each relationship is unique and very complex to give a precise answer that would fit every case scenario. Often couples stay together even though they may still feel uneasy because on some level there must be a pay off in it for them of some kind. Rather than there be a right or wrong way in dealing with relationships in this state, it would be more appropriate to say it would be more about the process of either improvement or further deterioration cuz nothing ever stays the same over a period of time IMO.
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Life is what you make it. It will pass you by while you sit on the fence deciding what to do with it...
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venusenvy: Life is what you make it. It will pass you by while you sit on the fence deciding what to do with it...
Agreed!
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I'm not quite sure what you mean by uneasy.
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Whatever happened to the time when people tried to "fix" things instead of discarding them? We live in a disposable society. Marriages are thrown away in the same fashion one would toss an old pair of shoes. We are looking for a quick fix, something that can satisfy our needs and if those needs aren’t satisfied some feel it is easier to toss the spouse and move on to the next relationship. If the marriage becomes hard and requires a little attention and work it is easier for some to discard the marriage than to hunker down, roll their sleeves up and go to work. Then again, each and every relationship is unique, and generalizations should not be assigned....
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A_Non_A_Moose: Whatever happened to the time when people tried to "fix" things instead of discarding them? We live in a disposable society. Marriages are thrown away in the same fashion one would toss an old pair of shoes. We are looking for a quick fix, something that can satisfy our needs and if those needs aren’t satisfied some feel it is easier to toss the spouse and move on to the next relationship. If the marriage becomes hard and requires a little attention and work it is easier for some to discard the marriage than to hunker down, roll their sleeves up and go to work. Then again, each and every relationship is unique, and generalizations should not be assigned....
I wonder that myself, however I was married to a sociopath. Life is much better for my children and myself now. Can't help anyone that efuses to admit they have a problem now can you? Some relationships can and should be saved, some are lost causes.
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michael63ca: I wonder that myself, however I was married to a sociopath. Life is much better for my children and myself now. Can't help anyone that efuses to admit they have a problem now can you? Some relationships can and should be saved, some are lost causes.
My ex husband wasn't a sociopath but you're right about both people admitting there is a problem, accepting responsibility for the part they played, and both have to be willing to do what it takes to repair the relationship.
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michael63ca: I wonder that myself, however I was married to a sociopath. Life is much better for my children and myself now. Can't help anyone that efuses to admit they have a problem now can you? Some relationships can and should be saved, some are lost causes.
That is true and why I disclaimed my opinion by stating I, or others, should not generalize,...for each person and relationship is unique and complex and requires its/their own "set" of rules, skills, and decisions.
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venusenvy: Life is what you make it. It will pass you by while you sit on the fence deciding what to do with it...
What if the fence is well equipped ... with ....
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Many my age has been divorced not only once. Sometimes your thoughts head back and think if it was worth it. Every couple is unique but love can only bind them together. If that spark is not there; it is gone.
Takes two to tangle, if one doesn’t know how to dance the other will teach. One may take one step, keep the rhythm and follow or lose it and walk away. When there is harmony the music just sweeps you away.
A relationship is not only to fell tickles in your stomach, takes patience, understanding, and commitment and endless is the list.
Every generation had there ways of seeing marriage and as they age be wiser in their own lives.
Takes two to tangle, if one doesn’t know how to dance the other will teach. One may take one step, keep the rhythm and follow or lose it and walk away. When there is harmony the music just sweeps you away.
A relationship is not only to fell tickles in your stomach, takes patience, understanding, and commitment and endless is the list.
Every generation had there ways of seeing marriage and as they age be wiser in their own lives.
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Tiger1974: If a couple in late fifties is attached to each other for long time having their individual domestic life, grown up children and still feel uneasiness for each other. Should they continue with this state of affair or they should abstain now?
It is never easy to have a relationship, at least not one that includes commitment.
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Tiger1974: If a couple in late fifties is attached to each other for long time having their individual domestic life, grown up children and still feel uneasiness for each other. Should they continue with this state of affair or they should abstain now?
Perhaps it's time to do a deep and serious review of what there is between the two and go from there.
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Tiger1974: If a couple in late fifties is attached to each other for long time having their individual domestic life, grown up children and still feel uneasiness for each other. Should they continue with this state of affair or they should abstain now?
Judge the relationship when things are going badly, not when they are good.
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In fact there is some misconception or I have failed to express my content correctly. The word " uneasy" that I have used depict emotion of love that two individuals feel when they are physically away from each other but at the heart they are highly attached emotionally. It is actually story of two individuals in love coming accross the age spans but have also their separate family lives and have fulfilled their responsibilities towards their children and other social obligations.
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So an nice cheese one, and a matured grape? does not take your fancy? Why uneasiness??
You have to be attractive to each other.
Abstain? That is a personable connection"
Whether you have a road of children love, then when you are at an age at you say in 50's do you not think maybe there is a look some where?
You have to be attractive to each other.
Abstain? That is a personable connection"
Whether you have a road of children love, then when you are at an age at you say in 50's do you not think maybe there is a look some where?
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Am I correct in understanding that this "uneasiness" is because neither one will commit to leaving their family or lifestyle they already have??
I have met many people who have found 2nd, 3rd or even fourth partners and obviously there are families to consider. It may well be that they don´t like your choice, but if they love you, they will accept it. There is no need, in this day and age, for any feelings of abandonment with all the means of communication at our disposal.
Or even if the couple themselves cannot make that final ccommitment, there is no reason why the relationship cannot continue with frequent meetings. It´s all down to choices, no-one can make them for you.
I have met many people who have found 2nd, 3rd or even fourth partners and obviously there are families to consider. It may well be that they don´t like your choice, but if they love you, they will accept it. There is no need, in this day and age, for any feelings of abandonment with all the means of communication at our disposal.
Or even if the couple themselves cannot make that final ccommitment, there is no reason why the relationship cannot continue with frequent meetings. It´s all down to choices, no-one can make them for you.
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Tiger1974: In fact there is some misconception or I have failed to express my content correctly. The word " uneasy" that I have used depict emotion of love that two individuals feel when they are physically away from each other but at the heart they are highly attached emotionally. It is actually story of two individuals in love coming accross the age spans but have also their separate family lives and have fulfilled their responsibilities towards their children and other social obligations.
Sorry but I'm finding your explanation confusing as you state that they are "physically apart" but "emotionally attached" ........ are you referring to two people who are in different relationships or a married couple who are simply not physically intimate with each other? 
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Tiger1974: If a couple in late fifties is attached to each other for long time having their individual domestic life, grown up children and still feel uneasiness for each other. Should they continue with this state of affair or they should abstain now?
What is the uneasiness between this couple
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