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jasmine64Itty Bitty, Nebraska USA2 Threads 30 PostsWould you continue to date or want to be in a relationship with man/woman that tells you they are on many different dating sites? This is told to you after you have been dating 4 months or so. 
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If he made it a point to tell you this after four months of dating it seems likely he's looking to push you to walk away, instead of him taking the onus of saying "I want out."
I would directly ask the guy I'm dating what his point is lol, although it seems relatively obvious.
Good luck to you.
I would directly ask the guy I'm dating what his point is lol, although it seems relatively obvious.
Good luck to you.
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jasmine64: Would you continue to date or want to be in a relationship with man/woman that tells you they are on many different dating sites? This is told to you after you have been dating 4 months or so.
No, would be my first answer. But there is always a but,
I could not and would not expect my partner to give up all friendship created before I arrived on the scene.
I do expect a 100% commitment. Still on a dating site searching for other dates would nullify that commitment.
All depends on how it is used but waiting four months to inform does not inspire confidence.
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Maus19: No, would be my first answer. But there is always a but,
I could not and would not expect my partner to give up all friendship created before I arrived on the scene.
I do expect a 100% commitment. Still on a dating site searching for other dates would nullify that commitment.
All depends on how it is used but waiting four months to inform does not inspire confidence.
I could not and would not expect my partner to give up all friendship created before I arrived on the scene.
I do expect a 100% commitment. Still on a dating site searching for other dates would nullify that commitment.
All depends on how it is used but waiting four months to inform does not inspire confidence.
I like your answer Maus
Of course there is no need to give up friendships made before two people get into a relationship.But as for me IF I am in a relationship I will no longer be on dating sites. The friends I made will have my personal e-mail, phone number etc. to keep in contact. JMO
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jasmine64: Would you continue to date or want to be in a relationship with man/woman that tells you they are on many different dating sites? This is told to you after you have been dating 4 months or so.
And they still logon to every one???? Yeah, I would think that might be a bit of a problem after 4 months dating.
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hoolet: And they still logon to every one???? Yeah, I would think that might be a bit of a problem after 4 months dating.
It sure would be hoolet
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jasmine64: It sure would be hoolet I would say it is time to move on.
well......ya could ask WHY he thinks he should continue.......or ya could log on to all of them yourself!!!!!!!!!!! Depends on how much you value the relationship!!!!!!!
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i would walk away from that kind girl.
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jasmine64: I like your answer Maus Of course there is no need to give up friendships made before two people get into a relationship.
But as for me IF I am in a relationship I will no longer be on dating sites. The friends I made will have my personal e-mail, phone number etc. to keep in contact. JMO
But as for me IF I am in a relationship I will no longer be on dating sites. The friends I made will have my personal e-mail, phone number etc. to keep in contact. JMO
Good point, but it may also depend on what s/he does on the sites. Ideally, once hooked, you should stay away from the site. Some people come on CS to read the forums and drop or share opinions there; not really looking for partners. I don't think they have to leave, unless they feel "challenged" by potential partners on the sites.
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Crucible: Good point, but it may also depend on what s/he does on the sites. Ideally, once hooked, you should stay away from the site. Some people come on CS to read the forums and drop or share opinions there; not really looking for partners. I don't think they have to leave, unless they feel "challenged" by potential partners on the sites.
I think that is true here on CS but not so much on other sites. There are many who are here for the blogs, forums, chat rooms, and games.
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jasmine64: Would you continue to date or want to be in a relationship with man/woman that tells you they are on many different dating sites? This is told to you after you have been dating 4 months or so.
I can see your point and NO I would not be happy with that either!
You gotta ask yourself though....why are you still on a dating site even though you are dating 4 months!
If he was on one (like you are) then that might work....but to be on multiple ones is a red flag!
Good luck if you decide to kick him to the curb
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jasmine64: Would you continue to date or want to be in a relationship with man/woman that tells you they are on many different dating sites? This is told to you after you have been dating 4 months or so.
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jasmine64: Would you continue to date or want to be in a relationship with man/woman that tells you they are on many different dating sites? This is told to you after you have been dating 4 months or so.
depends upon how serious the "dating" is or has been with you.
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purr4mance: depends upon how serious the "dating" is or has been with you.
I can agree with this to a point, but surely after 4 months one knows whether they want to be exclusive or not. I think that it breeds uncertainly and truly doesn't allow a relationship to grow as one will hold back. If you are investing your time and energy .... wouldn't it be wise to invest it into someone who was of the same attitude? I wouldn't take someone seriously who was dating multiple people.
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langleygirl: I can agree with this to a point, but surely after 4 months one knows whether they want to be exclusive or not. I think that it breeds uncertainly and truly doesn't allow a relationship to grow as one will hold back.
If you are investing your time and energy .... wouldn't it be wise to invest it into someone who was of the same attitude? I wouldn't take someone seriously who was dating multiple people.
If you are investing your time and energy .... wouldn't it be wise to invest it into someone who was of the same attitude? I wouldn't take someone seriously who was dating multiple people.
And so you're looking for relationship commitment rather than dating.
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jasmine64: Would you continue to date or want to be in a relationship with man/woman that tells you they are on many different dating sites? This is told to you after you have been dating 4 months or so.
I depends on the person, and the reasons. Here I am still on this dating site being engaged to a wonderful woman that I met right here. She also is still "active" on this site.
Does that mean that we are separating? No. It means that we have made friends that we contact through this site.
If your found out your partner was secretly still on dating sites and didn't tell you, then I think that would be highly suspicious activity.
The fact that your partner is honest with you might be a positive thing. It depends on the reasons why your partner is still on many dating sites.
I'm still on a couple of dating sites. Am I actively looking for someone else. No. I just haven't cancelled by subscriptions on other dating sites.
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jasmine64: Would you continue to date or want to be in a relationship with man/woman that tells you they are on many different dating sites? This is told to you after you have been dating 4 months or so.
sounds like if I was in that situation, I would accept the fact that he was just not that into me. sounds like a guy that is in for it for the thrill of the chase.
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jasmine64: Would you continue to date or want to be in a relationship with man/woman that tells you they are on many different dating sites? This is told to you after you have been dating 4 months or so.
It would depend first on how I felt about it.
Wether it created distrust of insecurity,
and then wether I trusted those feelings or not.
It guess the simple answer is, maybe.
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Ocee102: It would depend first on how I felt about it.Whether it created distrust of insecurity,and then wether I trusted those feelings or not.It guess the simple answer is, maybe.
That's what I like - a decisive man....
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I'm on two or three dating sites which I joined about six years ago, maybe more. However, I don't use them, and haven't done so for hmmmm let me see, about six years! I very quickly became disillusioned with online dating and only remained here because the forums are sometimes a good way to unwind and communicate with folk as friends.
The point I'm making is that I've never deleted my profiles on the other sites, partly because I tried once with one of them and found it impossibly difficult, and partly because I've been too lazy to do so. I don't think I could remember my login info now anyway!
I'm not saying the same scenario applies here, but isn't it possible? Here on CS there are many people in relationships who still contribute to the forums and I wouldn't worry if I were in a relationship with someone with an active profile on a dating site, particularly after only four months. Perhaps CS is different though in this respect compared to other dating sites.
The point I'm making is that I've never deleted my profiles on the other sites, partly because I tried once with one of them and found it impossibly difficult, and partly because I've been too lazy to do so. I don't think I could remember my login info now anyway!
I'm not saying the same scenario applies here, but isn't it possible? Here on CS there are many people in relationships who still contribute to the forums and I wouldn't worry if I were in a relationship with someone with an active profile on a dating site, particularly after only four months. Perhaps CS is different though in this respect compared to other dating sites.
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