A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN ( Archived) (105)

Jun 24, 2013 3:12 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
lalasierra
lalasierralalasierralos angeles, California USA147 Threads 67 Polls 935 Posts
Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?

Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!

There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.

On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?

Hmmm???
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Jun 24, 2013 3:18 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
Boban1
Boban1Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Posts
1.If there is chemistry between us
2.I just wanna bang her a few times
3.How should I know if she is my soul-mate if I don`t give it a chance
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Jun 24, 2013 3:19 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
mijas36
mijas36mijas36Mijas Costa, Andalusia Spain313 Posts
Do you fancy a quick one before I go shopping?
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Jun 24, 2013 3:20 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
mijas36
mijas36mijas36Mijas Costa, Andalusia Spain313 Posts
mijas36: Do you fancy a quick one before I go shopping?

Not you boban...I was talking to lala!!laugh
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Jun 24, 2013 3:49 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
Boban1
Boban1Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Posts
mijas36: Not you boban...I was talking to lala!!

Damn, I was just about to shave my legs ...uh oh
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Jun 24, 2013 3:54 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
lalasierra
lalasierralalasierralos angeles, California USA147 Threads 67 Polls 935 Posts
mijas36: Do you fancy a quick one before I go shopping?


wave I thought you were hooking-up with your ex-girlfriends mom?

laugh
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Jun 24, 2013 3:58 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
lalasierra
lalasierralalasierralos angeles, California USA147 Threads 67 Polls 935 Posts
Boban1: Damn, I was just about to shave my legs ...

rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing

Now don't get jealous, Boban.comfort
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Jun 24, 2013 7:38 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
BB_snickers
BB_snickersBB_snickersNarnia, Ontario Canada56 Threads 3,755 Posts
lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?

Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!

There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.

On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?

Hmmm???


People become separated from themselves and their own innate vulnerability that they try to hide from others. This makes them dishonest with themselves and that's not good in any relationship. Unfortunately society frowns on being vulnerability with phrase likes 'don't let anyone take advantage of you'.

Drama comes from someone who has had trouble reconciling their vulnerability with the social stigma of avoiding it as a 'weakness'. Sadly for enduring relationships, vulnerable is required and when it's perceived as a weakness it gets buried by the ego.

So, some people don't give themselves a chance.
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Jun 24, 2013 10:12 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?


Definitely nothing serious. UNless she's going through the divorce and there's a Maserati or a Porsche up for grabs.
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Jun 24, 2013 10:24 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
bodleing
bodleingbodleingGreater Manchester, England UK238 Threads 8 Polls 13,810 Posts
We all become separated at birth, from that moment on we are free to choose...despite any labels.
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Jun 24, 2013 10:24 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
bodleing: We all become separated at birth, from that moment on we are free to choose...despite any labels.

Tell the Judge that. laugh
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Jun 24, 2013 10:32 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
lalasierra
lalasierralalasierralos angeles, California USA147 Threads 67 Polls 935 Posts
MADDOG69: Tell the Judge that.


rolling on the floor laughing Yeah, no doubt!rolling on the floor laughing

That's a good one! thumbs up
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Jun 24, 2013 10:33 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
langleygirl
langleygirllangleygirlWestlock, Alberta Canada70 Threads 8,202 Posts
Dated one guy who was separated .... realized I was wasting my time as he wasn't in a place where he'd worked through everything, even though some time had passed from his separation. His wife wasn't coming back, but he wasn't healed enough to look towards the future. I think in hindsight he was lonely and wanted to spend time with someone.

After that, I made a point of not involving myself with anyone that wasn't ready to enter a relationship if that was the direction that we both wanted to go.
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Jun 24, 2013 10:39 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
Waterbearer63
Waterbearer63Waterbearer63Edmonton, Alberta Canada27 Threads 27 Polls 232 Posts
lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?

Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!

There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.

On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?

Hmmm???

Definitely would not ever date someone who is separated.Too much baggage,too much drama nonsense.
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Jun 24, 2013 10:39 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
Waterbearer63
Waterbearer63Waterbearer63Edmonton, Alberta Canada27 Threads 27 Polls 232 Posts
lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?

Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!

There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.

On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?

Hmmm???

Definitely would not ever date someone who is separated.Too much baggage,too much drama nonsense.
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Jun 24, 2013 10:44 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
bodleing
bodleingbodleingGreater Manchester, England UK238 Threads 8 Polls 13,810 Posts
MADDOG69: Tell the Judge that.


I'm sure a judge would look at every case and decide on merit.

The same should perhaps be applied with any future partner...everyone's situation is different even though the labels may be the same.
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Jun 24, 2013 11:36 AM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
Straight answer heck no.
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Jun 24, 2013 1:22 PM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
Glatlol
GlatlolGlatlolDublin, Ireland2 Threads 5,358 Posts
lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?

Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!

There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.

On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?

Hmmm???



Along with "does size matter" this has to be one of the most frequently asked question in here.

My opinion is the same as always. Divorce is only available here since 1996 therefore there where countless couple who were in second relationships with any divorces.

You have to be living apart 5 years to apply for a divorce so yes I would date someone who was seperapted, I was 11 years seperated before I divorced, I simply wasnt bothered, I was no longer married in my heart and the divorce was just a piece of paper to say what I already felt.
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Jun 24, 2013 1:24 PM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
Glatlol
GlatlolGlatlolDublin, Ireland2 Threads 5,358 Posts
Waterbearer63: Definitely would not ever date someone who is separated.Too much baggage,too much drama nonsense.



And getting a divorce changes that how?
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Jun 24, 2013 1:28 PM CST A "SEPERATED" MAN OR WOMAN
venusenvy
venusenvyvenusenvyCalgary, Alberta Canada27 Threads 20,003 Posts
Depends on the circumstances. Have they been separated for a long time? Theres a big diff between 10 years or 10 weeks. The former I would have no prob with. The latter I wouldnt touch with a ten foot pole. wine
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