Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
Hmmm???
People become separated from themselves and their own innate vulnerability that they try to hide from others. This makes them dishonest with themselves and that's not good in any relationship. Unfortunately society frowns on being vulnerability with phrase likes 'don't let anyone take advantage of you'.
Drama comes from someone who has had trouble reconciling their vulnerability with the social stigma of avoiding it as a 'weakness'. Sadly for enduring relationships, vulnerable is required and when it's perceived as a weakness it gets buried by the ego.
Dated one guy who was separated .... realized I was wasting my time as he wasn't in a place where he'd worked through everything, even though some time had passed from his separation. His wife wasn't coming back, but he wasn't healed enough to look towards the future. I think in hindsight he was lonely and wanted to spend time with someone.
After that, I made a point of not involving myself with anyone that wasn't ready to enter a relationship if that was the direction that we both wanted to go.
lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
Hmmm???
Definitely would not ever date someone who is separated.Too much baggage,too much drama nonsense.
lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
Hmmm???
Definitely would not ever date someone who is separated.Too much baggage,too much drama nonsense.
lalasierra: Would you date someone who is seperated from his wife or her husband?
Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
Hmmm???
Along with "does size matter" this has to be one of the most frequently asked question in here.
My opinion is the same as always. Divorce is only available here since 1996 therefore there where countless couple who were in second relationships with any divorces.
You have to be living apart 5 years to apply for a divorce so yes I would date someone who was seperapted, I was 11 years seperated before I divorced, I simply wasnt bothered, I was no longer married in my heart and the divorce was just a piece of paper to say what I already felt.
Depends on the circumstances. Have they been separated for a long time? Theres a big diff between 10 years or 10 weeks. The former I would have no prob with. The latter I wouldnt touch with a ten foot pole.
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Some things that are obvious to be considered: Are you willing to invest your time, energy and emotions to someone who MIGHT get back together with their husband or wife? Are you up for the competition? What if you've fallen in love with this person? What if the one you're with isn't the one who wanted the seperation and would jump at the oppportunity to go back if the spouse decided to take them back and try to salvage their marriage. You COULD be dropped like a hot potato!
There are a few scenario's to be up against with someone who is seperated. The word "unstable" comes to mind.
On the other hand, he/she may NOT have any intention's on going back but their spouse wants to buy time, thinking they may change their mind and return to the marriage. So the word "seperated" may be hindering this individual from dating because the word "seperated" is an automatic red flag to people. They may feel that there is too much bagagge/drama and not even give the seperated person a chance?
Hmmm???