Emotional Style (11)
We are all wired differently snags which is a good thing ... I am an empathetic person and can often feel other peoples grief or pain ... I was bought up to believe real men don't cry and that it is wrong for a man to express himself emotionally ...
I am affectionate by nature and sometimes I do get upset and it can consume me and get the better of me ... A friend just reminded me that a real man can feel all this and still manage to hold it together within himself ... something I shall work on ...
we all are who we are ans should not have to be apologising for being ourselves and nor should we have to accept more than we want to bare
I am affectionate by nature and sometimes I do get upset and it can consume me and get the better of me ... A friend just reminded me that a real man can feel all this and still manage to hold it together within himself ... something I shall work on ...
we all are who we are ans should not have to be apologising for being ourselves and nor should we have to accept more than we want to bare
PrOwLeR_: We are all wired differently snags which is a good thing ... I am an empathetic person and can often feel other peoples grief or pain ... I was bought up to believe real men don't cry and that it is wrong for a man to express himself emotionally ...
I am affectionate by nature and sometimes I do get upset and it can consume me and get the better of me ... A friend just reminded me that a real man can feel all this and still manage to hold it together within himself ... something I shall work on ...we all are who we are ans should not have to be apologising for being ourselves and nor should we have to accept more than we want to bare
I am affectionate by nature and sometimes I do get upset and it can consume me and get the better of me ... A friend just reminded me that a real man can feel all this and still manage to hold it together within himself ... something I shall work on ...we all are who we are ans should not have to be apologising for being ourselves and nor should we have to accept more than we want to bare
I am not apologising for who I am nor do I expect others to either. I love that we are all unique and different and what some people lack, others pick up the slack and I think that is how we get by in life. I have always been a rock for a lot of people and being emotionally 'hard' is, I suppose, a coping mechanism because if I had to take on board everyone else's stuff, I would fall to bits. I am quite empathetic myself, but I fail miserably at being sympathetic. I am good at being plain old pathetic sometimes too.
snagsmoore: Yes, I agree. I also believe that we are created with a personality, not just a body that makes us who we are, nor just defined by our experiences. We have different temperaments, some people are more tolerant than others, some are patient, some are helpers or teachers, some leaders, some followers. I think that our life experiences do help or hinder some of those traits.
I have come to the realisation that I can be my own worst enemy ...
PrOwLeR_: I have come to the realisation that I can be my own worst enemy ...
I think we all can. My brutal honesty gets me into trouble all the time. Sometimes I wish I was more compassionate, other times I am glad I am not.I am empathetic and able to cope with people when they are grief ridden and in a bad way but I am unable other than to comfort them with a cuddle give rational help. So I think that there' may well be times when your brand of rational help for a person who is distressed may be more constructive. I guess those who know love and value you, will understand where they can get a clear view of their situation and sometimes this is a lot more help than a cuddle. I lack that clear sighted ability and often need when I get into the emotion of a problem to be set straight. So would myself value that in you.
snagsmoore: I think we all can. My brutal honesty gets me into trouble all the time. Sometimes I wish I was more compassionate, other times I am glad I am not.
Me too ditto
such is life nothing wrong with being strong I think you are a compassionate lady and a loving mom you have a lot to offer and when you meet the right man you will shine 
snagsmoore: After reading a few posts and knowing people are upset, it made me stop and think what sort of an emotional response I give and frankly, I am a bit of a cold fish. I find I don't respond well to people when they are emotional and I am not the type who gets all emotional either. I find it very confronting when people cry and I have to be a comforter. I am terrible company if all anybody needs is a good hug and a friendly ear. I am fine if people come to me for advice in a rational state but as soon as there is any sign of a quivering lip or a tear, I want to run and get away. I don't of course, but I really feel uncomfortable. It is completely opposite of everything else in my life. I am quite an accomplisher in everything else, I can do anything I want and do it well but I can't seem to deal with the human side of people.
So now you all know that I am a complete weirdo, what is your emotional style?
So now you all know that I am a complete weirdo, what is your emotional style?
Don't worry Snags old mate I'll still be your friend
I was once trying to date a lady . All went well for a couple of weeks !! And while sitting in her living room she got a phone call . Now she said it was an online guy she had never met
no ide how he got her number . And he was calling her from a strip joint !! She wanted to meet him to see what he was like .Stunned Micky was saying ok .
And she changed personality wise and she had enough of me and wanted a full on argument !!
I didn't respond the way she though she wanted a full on fight !!
I'd been sleeping over cough cough picked up my bag of sleep over stuff. and said no worries I'll go home . She had to let me out a gated community and she kept saying whats your problem you don't like confrontation !!!!
That's right I don't I just put the shutters up and go home
Confused the hell out of the woman she sent some txt your Mr right at the wrong time !!
snagsmoore: After reading a few posts and knowing people are upset, it made me stop and think what sort of an emotional response I give and frankly, I am a bit of a cold fish. I find I don't respond well to people when they are emotional and I am not the type who gets all emotional either. I find it very confronting when people cry and I have to be a comforter. I am terrible company if all anybody needs is a good hug and a friendly ear. I am fine if people come to me for advice in a rational state but as soon as there is any sign of a quivering lip or a tear, I want to run and get away. I don't of course, but I really feel uncomfortable. It is completely opposite of everything else in my life. I am quite an accomplisher in everything else, I can do anything I want and do it well but I can't seem to deal with the human side of people.
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So now you all know that I am a complete weirdo, what is your emotional
style?
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So now you all know that I am a complete weirdo, what is your emotional
style?
its ok to be like that snags
i think sometimes if we have had such a hard life we tend to shut off emotionally. you have compassion where it matters,,, and thats your kids i tend not to trust people for a while until i believe they can be trusted, i get emotional over children but not adults that have caused their problems. it takes me ages to cry, but every now and then its good to have a good cry. depends how i feel at the time i suppose. but you know what, i trust animals more than humans, always feel people have hidden agendas
always think they take take take and because im a giver, i feel used at times.but theres nothing wrong with you, that a nice honest trustworthy handsome guy cant help
mickyj63: Don't worry Snags old mate I'll still be your friend
I was once trying to date a lady . All went well for a couple of weeks !! And while sitting in her living room she got a phone call . Now she said it was an online guy she had never met no ide how he got her number . And he was calling her from a strip joint !! She wanted to meet him to see what he was like .
Stunned Micky was saying ok .
And she changed personality wise and she had enough of me and wanted a full on argument !!
I didn't respond the way she though she wanted a full on fight !!
I'd been sleeping over cough cough picked up my bag of sleep over stuff. and said no worries I'll go home . She had to let me out a gated community and she kept saying whats your problem you don't like confrontation !!!!
That's right I don't I just put the shutters up and go home
Confused the hell out of the woman she sent some txt your Mr right at the wrong time !!
I was once trying to date a lady . All went well for a couple of weeks !! And while sitting in her living room she got a phone call . Now she said it was an online guy she had never met no ide how he got her number . And he was calling her from a strip joint !! She wanted to meet him to see what he was like .
Stunned Micky was saying ok .
And she changed personality wise and she had enough of me and wanted a full on argument !!
I didn't respond the way she though she wanted a full on fight !!
I'd been sleeping over cough cough picked up my bag of sleep over stuff. and said no worries I'll go home . She had to let me out a gated community and she kept saying whats your problem you don't like confrontation !!!!
That's right I don't I just put the shutters up and go home
Confused the hell out of the woman she sent some txt your Mr right at the wrong time !!
Crazy lady some people just do not know when they are well off Mickey.
snagsmoore: After reading a few posts and knowing people are upset, it made me stop and think what sort of an emotional response I give and frankly, I am a bit of a cold fish. I find I don't respond well to people when they are emotional and I am not the type who gets all emotional either. I find it very confronting when people cry and I have to be a comforter. I am terrible company if all anybody needs is a good hug and a friendly ear. I am fine if people come to me for advice in a rational state but as soon as there is any sign of a quivering lip or a tear, I want to run and get away. I don't of course, but I really feel uncomfortable. It is completely opposite of everything else in my life. I am quite an accomplisher in everything else, I can do anything I want and do it well but I can't seem to deal with the human side of people.
So now you all know that I am a complete weirdo, what is your emotional style?
So now you all know that I am a complete weirdo, what is your emotional style?
I used to be like you snags
...Cold, unemotional ... I'm joking!!
However as time has gone by and I've had my share of horrible experiences, deaths, and grief of various proportions I've found I have much more empathy toward others who are going through a tough time.
I like this quality that has grown in me, and I find it does help me to be genuinely supportive to people - they seem to be able to feel that and trust me when they need to talk or a shoulder to cry on.
I've realised that's it's mostly about listening and I can do that
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