To be or not to be.... or doobeedoobee do (74)
Sorry, gotta work.... 
and by-the-by, as I have matured in life, I think it is better to give love..... than receive. Seems to make me happier.
and by-the-by, as I have matured in life, I think it is better to give love..... than receive. Seems to make me happier.
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JeanKimberley: Maybe this is more of a poll - I saw this thread before and I liked the question. Which is - Is it better to give love or receive love?
Of course Ideally it is the best to have both - but if you had to live your life doing more of one than the other?
Give or receive?
Of course Ideally it is the best to have both - but if you had to live your life doing more of one than the other?
Give or receive?
Hiya JK
Of course, in a perfect world, a balance of both would be perfect. Looking back on my life, I can honestly say I've given more than I've received and although it has been a "feel good" kinda thing, I wouldn't mind some payback. 
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JeanKimberley: Maybe this is more of a poll - I saw this thread before and I liked the question. Which is - Is it better to give love or receive love?
Of course Ideally it is the best to have both - but if you had to live your life doing more of one than the other?
Give or receive?
Of course Ideally it is the best to have both - but if you had to live your life doing more of one than the other?
Give or receive?
If one is incapable to receive love one is not capable to give love.
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Maus19: If one is incapable to receive love one is not capable to give love.
Hiya Maus
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I'll go for both.
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The greatest pleasure in life is to give to the one you love,without expecting anything back.
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rebel2: The greatest pleasure in life is to give to the one you love,without expecting anything back.
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rebel2: The greatest pleasure in life is to give to the one you love,without expecting anything back.
Ditto!!!! Blue Eyes
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i vote give... it pleases me to give love, give attention, give pleasure. it makes me happy when i make my gf/wife happy. 
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rebel2: The greatest pleasure in life is to give to the one you love,without expecting anything back.
but don't you get the Pleasure when you see their Eyes light up?------ This thread is Archived ------
rebel2: The greatest pleasure in life is to give to the one you love,without expecting anything back.
i think you're on to something...
and if they are never satisfied?
do you still enjoy giving?
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jono7: i think you're on to something...
and if they are never satisfied?
do you still enjoy giving?
and if they are never satisfied?
do you still enjoy giving?
I think you're onto something too...
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“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” - Lao Tzu
Well, my answer goes in the same direction of been “vulnerable” or not. Before we love someone, we must learn to love ourselves - being real, true to who we are, know our “mistakes”, confront our pains and accepting our fears.
It is as easy/difficult to receive or give if we don’t know ourselves”…. and “it takes two” to dance…. if you put more effort in just one side it’s going to be a terrible feeling of frustration, and pain… so, for me I need both, ....but learn about ourselves first.
“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” - Lao Tzu
Well, my answer goes in the same direction of been “vulnerable” or not. Before we love someone, we must learn to love ourselves - being real, true to who we are, know our “mistakes”, confront our pains and accepting our fears.
It is as easy/difficult to receive or give if we don’t know ourselves”…. and “it takes two” to dance…. if you put more effort in just one side it’s going to be a terrible feeling of frustration, and pain… so, for me I need both, ....but learn about ourselves first.
“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” - Lao Tzu
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Bogart_1960: “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” - Lao Tzu
Well, my answer goes in the same direction of been “vulnerable” or not. Before we love someone, we must learn to love ourselves - being real, true to who we are, know our “mistakes”, confront our pains and accepting our fears.
It is as easy/difficult to receive or give if we don’t know ourselves”…. and “it takes two” to dance…. if you put more effort in just one side it’s going to be a terrible feeling of frustration, and pain… so, for me I need both, ....but learn about ourselves first.
“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” - Lao Tzu
Well, my answer goes in the same direction of been “vulnerable” or not. Before we love someone, we must learn to love ourselves - being real, true to who we are, know our “mistakes”, confront our pains and accepting our fears.
It is as easy/difficult to receive or give if we don’t know ourselves”…. and “it takes two” to dance…. if you put more effort in just one side it’s going to be a terrible feeling of frustration, and pain… so, for me I need both, ....but learn about ourselves first.
“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” - Lao Tzu
Perfect
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In response to: Maybe this is more of a poll - I saw this thread before and I liked the question. Which is - Is it better to give love or receive love?
Of course Ideally it is the best to have both - but if you had to live your life doing more of one than the other?
Give or receive?
Of course Ideally it is the best to have both - but if you had to live your life doing more of one than the other?
Give or receive?
Women love the men who love them less.
It is a compassionate restraint to allow her to take the leaps of love for him. He only needs to be the inspiration.
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Obstinance_Works: Women love the men who love them less.
It is a compassionate restraint to allow her to take the leaps of love for him. He only needs to be the inspiration.
It is a compassionate restraint to allow her to take the leaps of love for him. He only needs to be the inspiration.
Can't say I'd agree with that speaking for myself of course.
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Bogart_1960: “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” - Lao Tzu
Well, my answer goes in the same direction of been “vulnerable” or not. Before we love someone, we must learn to love ourselves - being real, true to who we are, know our “mistakes”, confront our pains and accepting our fears.
It is as easy/difficult to receive or give if we don’t know ourselves”…. and “it takes two” to dance…. if you put more effort in just one side it’s going to be a terrible feeling of frustration, and pain… so, for me I need both, ....but learn about ourselves first.
“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” - Lao Tzu
Well, my answer goes in the same direction of been “vulnerable” or not. Before we love someone, we must learn to love ourselves - being real, true to who we are, know our “mistakes”, confront our pains and accepting our fears.
It is as easy/difficult to receive or give if we don’t know ourselves”…. and “it takes two” to dance…. if you put more effort in just one side it’s going to be a terrible feeling of frustration, and pain… so, for me I need both, ....but learn about ourselves first.
“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” - Lao Tzu
hiya Bogart sounds like good advice.
i'm certainly guilty of intellectualizing about love. but i've come to realize...i'd rather feel love than think love. i find it easy to give, but i am learning that loving myself is a good place to start.
i also think that terms like 'controlled love', or 'tough love' are intellectualizing love, not feeling it, and really aren't about love at all...
curious to know your thoughts on this.
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2intrigued: Hiya Maus Surely you aren't referring to yourself are you?
The one who wants to receive in life is in general the one who is perceived the more selfish.
Those who wants to give, spread their wealth, the more selfless.
The magnanimous giver, the greedy taker. Simple.
With the question ' Is it better to give love or receive love' I don't see its simplicity stack up so easy.
Being willing to receive love is being willing to be vulnerable, is being willing to let one's heart be touched.
For that, one needs to take the defences down and take the armour off.
To much 'giving' of loving kindness is perceived as giving love.
As I see it, giving love also is a willingness to be vulnerable, is a willingness to let one's heart be touched.
Giving kindness and giving love are all to often regarded as one and the same.
For me they are not, while both are nice to receive and give.
In one case all is laid bare, open and vulnerable, ready to be painfully stabbed or gently being touched.
With the other one stands in full armour, out of reach and without risk.
Being capable to give love or receive for me demands the ability to take one's armour down.
If one can not, the giving or receiving becomes irrelevant.
As for your question, 'I want to meet life's powers weaponless'.
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jono7: i think you're on to something...
and if they are never satisfied?
do you still enjoy giving?
Yes, true love is unconditional,and if i chose to remain with her,then i would continue to give,from my heart.and if they are never satisfied?
do you still enjoy giving?
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Of course Ideally it is the best to have both - but if you had to live your life doing more of one than the other?
Give or receive?