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Britishmalteser: I have a 5 year old, and i am single. when i do go out with men i end it within a few months because i compare the love i have for my daughter and for them and it never even comes close.
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
I felt the same way. I dated but never with the intent to get serious for two reasons. In case the relationship didn't work out I didn't want her to see another relationship go bad since she was very young. And, I didn't want anyone bossing her around. There was no way I would be able to accept his authority over her.
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Glad someone replied :) People have told me if i were to settle down then i would have to let my partner at the time have some sort of say in how to raise her.
that will never happen.
thats why i will most likely remain single until my little one grows up and i am ok with that :)
that will never happen.
thats why i will most likely remain single until my little one grows up and i am ok with that :)
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Britishmalteser: Glad someone replied :) People have told me if i were to settle down then i would have to let my partner at the time have some sort of say in how to raise her.
that will never happen.
thats why i will most likely remain single until my little one grows up and i am ok with that :)
The love for a child is a differant kind of love that you would have for a partner.that will never happen.
thats why i will most likely remain single until my little one grows up and i am ok with that :)
I understand your thoughts and if you feel this is the right thing for you and your daughter,i wish you the best of luck,and future happiness.
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Britishmalteser: I have a 5 year old, and i am single. when i do go out with men i end it within a few months because i compare the love i have for my daughter and for them and it never even comes close.
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
I understand why you feel this way. I am a mother and my first instinct is to protect my children at all cost. You know some men don't want a say in parenting someones child. Yet they don't mind spoiling them either. They just don't want the bad role. Maybe someone like that will catch your eye and your heart. You will know if it is right. No rush. Enjoy your life. I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
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Britishmalteser: I have a 5 year old, and i am single. when i do go out with men i end it within a few months because i compare the love i have for my daughter and for them and it never even comes close.
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
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maybe you didn't meet the right guy.
I think the right would be good for your child
and be there for you both.
I think the right would be good for your child
and be there for you both.
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The only time I ever introduced my Daughter to a woman, was if I saw accidently saw her in the store. I never allowed any woman I dated to have any kind of relationship with my Daughter.
Whenever I had a chance to spend time with my Daughter, the date was over.
My Daughter is 19 now, the time went by so fast... I'm thankful for every minute I had with my Daughter, and don't regret ever leaving a woman, without a kiss goodbye, everytime I could spend time with my little girl.
Now, we are very close, she waited till she was my19 to introduce me to her boyfriend... she made sure he was special, and she could brag about him treating her good; and he treats me with lots of respect too.
I am glad I made sure she knew I loved her; I think it helped her keep from having lots of boyfriends (she's Beautiful!), and wait on a good guy.
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The only time I ever introduced my Daughter to a woman, was if I saw accidently saw her in the store. I never allowed any woman I dated to have any kind of relationship with my Daughter.
Whenever I had a chance to spend time with my Daughter, the date was over.
My Daughter is 19 now, the time went by so fast... I'm thankful for every minute I had with my Daughter, and don't regret ever leaving a woman, without a kiss goodbye, everytime I could spend time with my little girl.
Now, we are very close, she waited till she was my19 to introduce me to her boyfriend... she made sure he was special, and she could brag about him treating her good; and he treats me with lots of respect too.
I am glad I made sure she knew I loved her; I think it helped her keep from having lots of boyfriends (she's Beautiful!), and wait on a good guy.
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The only time I ever introduced my Daughter to a woman, was if I saw accidently saw her in the store. I never allowed any woman I dated to have any kind of relationship with my Daughter.
Whenever I had a chance to spend time with my Daughter, the date was over.
My Daughter is 19 now, the time went by so fast... I'm thankful for every minute I had with my Daughter, and don't regret ever leaving a woman, without a kiss goodbye, everytime I could spend time with my little girl.
Now, we are very close, she waited till she was my19 to introduce me to her boyfriend... she made sure he was special, and she could brag about him treating her good; and he treats me with lots of respect too.
I am glad I made sure she knew I loved her; I think it helped her keep from having lots of boyfriends (she's Beautiful!), and wait on a good guy.
.
The only time I ever introduced my Daughter to a woman, was if I saw accidently saw her in the store. I never allowed any woman I dated to have any kind of relationship with my Daughter.
Whenever I had a chance to spend time with my Daughter, the date was over.
My Daughter is 19 now, the time went by so fast... I'm thankful for every minute I had with my Daughter, and don't regret ever leaving a woman, without a kiss goodbye, everytime I could spend time with my little girl.
Now, we are very close, she waited till she was my19 to introduce me to her boyfriend... she made sure he was special, and she could brag about him treating her good; and he treats me with lots of respect too.
I am glad I made sure she knew I loved her; I think it helped her keep from having lots of boyfriends (she's Beautiful!), and wait on a good guy.
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Britishmalteser: I have a 5 year old, and i am single. when i do go out with men i end it within a few months because i compare the love i have for my daughter and for them and it never even comes close.
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
all u need ,is a decent guy who will love ur child as his and make u happy.otherwise stay single.I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
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Britishmalteser: I have a 5 year old, and i am single. when i do go out with men i end it within a few months because i compare the love i have for my daughter and for them and it never even comes close.
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
What if they've got a point?
I'm speculating, but from the way you're centring your life around your daughter I predict another drone set for the cubicle farm, or, perhaps another half-arsed toilet paper degree from Manchester Ring Road University. Yes, she's your child and the most important thing in the world to you, but you are the parent and you are in command.
The alternate scenario is that this is all a cover story to disguise an inability to extract commitment from the kind of men you find desirable because you have a kid. I suspect this to be the case because you're more than happy to have a string of lovers for 'abit of fun' which imo doesn't sound like you're that sensitive towards outside influences upon your daughter. I grew up in a single parent home and I wouldn't have thought very highly of my mum if she had a different lover every month.
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I do understand exactly how you feel and why there is no love greater than the love for a child. Frankly said I haven't dated anyone since me and my ex separated but I am not interested in short term or fun only type of relations either. I am a happy woman and I am not desperately looking for a man. If I meet the Right guy that will be great but if I don't it won't make any difference to my life.
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In response to: anyone else felt the same way??
I don´t feel that way. And I don´t get it ... And I don´t know if this thread has actually anything to do with children.
Why is getting to know somebody closer or letting somebody in your life a threat for your love to your child?
Why is it necessary to emphasize that no other kind of love is like the love to your child?
How is it possible to put such a big burden on a childs soul, also through giving it authority over an adult? It´s your child and not your partner.
My daughter is nearly nine years old. I left her dad when she was 2. The communication between her and me has been always quite good, I think. I cannot imagine that she would be thankful or happy if she would find out in nine or ten years that I would have remained single pretending having it done only for her.
I think the person who comes really close to you and your child (regarding any kind of relationship or friendship) is from the beginning somebody who is totally okay for you and fits to you and your life (otherwise none of the involved persons would have wanted to come close). And when it is like that, your child understands immediately why you like, love, respect the person and does it, too. It´s as simple as that.
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Britishmalteser: I have a 5 year old, and i am single. when i do go out with men i end it within a few months because i compare the love i have for my daughter and for them and it never even comes close.
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
Wanna hear a Knock Knock Joke???
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Britishmalteser: I have a 5 year old, and i am single. when i do go out with men i end it within a few months because i compare the love i have for my daughter and for them and it never even comes close.
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
I understand You. I would have never allowed any man to interfere with my child's upbringing. Sometimes, not even their biological fathers have a clue how to go about it. Then again, a decent man who would have had children himself and knew how to raise them properly, with discipline and respect, would never come between you and your child.
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my child is 5 and she has only ever seen 2 of my exes, It takes a really great guy for me to introduce him to my daughter.
By having fun, i ment having fun with friends and if i by any chance meet a guy that night we would have a chat etc but i respect my self way too much to let it go any further.
The whole point of the post was to say
I know i aint ready for a serious relationship
cos my daughter will always come first before
any guy at all :) and most men just want to interfere
which aint gonna happen... not in my home.
By having fun, i ment having fun with friends and if i by any chance meet a guy that night we would have a chat etc but i respect my self way too much to let it go any further.
The whole point of the post was to say
I know i aint ready for a serious relationship
cos my daughter will always come first before
any guy at all :) and most men just want to interfere
which aint gonna happen... not in my home.
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Obstinance_Works: What if they've got a point?
I'm speculating, but from the way you're centring your life around your daughter I predict another drone set for the cubicle farm, or, perhaps another half-arsed toilet paper degree from Manchester Ring Road University. Yes, she's your child and the most important thing in the world to you, but you are the parent and you are in command.
The alternate scenario is that this is all a cover story to disguise an inability to extract commitment from the kind of men you find desirable because you have a kid. I suspect this to be the case because you're more than happy to have a string of lovers for 'abit of fun' which imo doesn't sound like you're that sensitive towards outside influences upon your daughter. I grew up in a single parent home and I wouldn't have thought very highly of my mum if she had a different lover every month.
I'm speculating, but from the way you're centring your life around your daughter I predict another drone set for the cubicle farm, or, perhaps another half-arsed toilet paper degree from Manchester Ring Road University. Yes, she's your child and the most important thing in the world to you, but you are the parent and you are in command.
The alternate scenario is that this is all a cover story to disguise an inability to extract commitment from the kind of men you find desirable because you have a kid. I suspect this to be the case because you're more than happy to have a string of lovers for 'abit of fun' which imo doesn't sound like you're that sensitive towards outside influences upon your daughter. I grew up in a single parent home and I wouldn't have thought very highly of my mum if she had a different lover every month.
Why do you always pigeonhole people? You don't know the OP at all and couldn't possibly given the scant information she has chosen to divulge. How would you feel if someone made similar comments about your mother given that she too was a single mum as you have told us?
You say you are speculating, but you're not really are you because the majority of your posts I've read have been in a similar vein. When I read your posts I often think how sad such a very young man has such a blinkered and blighted view of life.
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Okay, we already know that women are technical and extremely complex
Hardly ever having a current man but numerous X
Waiting on Mr. Right from Mount Everest
Until old age introduce them to Mr. Natural Death!
Potarick
Hardly ever having a current man but numerous X
Waiting on Mr. Right from Mount Everest
Until old age introduce them to Mr. Natural Death!
Potarick
Britishmalteser: I have a 5 year old, and i am single. when i do go out with men i end it within a few months because i compare the love i have for my daughter and for them and it never even comes close.
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??
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I have lived with women with children (still friends with some of those now grown children). Here is my thought. If I am living in their house (something I have never done) they can make the rules. If they have come to live in my house, well then, I make the rules. This means I get to decide it is not okay for the kid to scribble on my walls with magic marker. If momma wants to plan little Suzy or Tommy's birthday party, or help with their homework that is fine. Alternatively, I will (and have) pinch hit if asked to. If the kid is being a brat and I decide to order it to go to his/her room, momma will back me up. If not, they can both go outside. I am either the Lord of their Manor, or they have no business being IN my Manor. It is as simple as that. I do not see that as interference or staking a claim.
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I doubt i will ever manage to settle down, well not til she has grown up and left the nest.
if i dated someone and they thought they had a say in my parenting i would dump them.
I am happy this way though :) serious relationships are not for me, but i dont mind abit of fun.
anyone else felt the same way??