montemonte: I felt the same way. I dated but never with the intent to get serious for two reasons. In case the relationship didn't work out I didn't want her to see another relationship go bad since she was very young. And, I didn't want anyone bossing her around. There was no way I would be able to accept his authority over her.
It seems to me that you're making sure that the only love your child has is for you and you alone. My girlfriend kids introduced she and I. Back in July, my girlfriend daughter and I were talking, and I asked her a question about something that she would get bullied for here in the states and her reply was no daddy. To add to that, every night before her and her brother went to bed, they would give me a hug and kiss and say good night and I would get the same in the morning when they got up. When I left to come back to the states, my girlfriend daughter refused to come out of the room, because she didn't want to see me leave. I love my kids and I don't have to be the biological father to give them the best life possible. All of my kids are my world and I don't try to dictate their rearing. When my 4 year old did her lying in the floor of a store fit to get her way, she only did it once, and when I asked her aunt if she left her there and she said yes, my only reply was good. Open your mind, then you can open your heart. The kids of my girlfriend are my kids too as well as my kids being her kids and our kids act like they have know each other all their lives. Before you end a relationship, ask your kids what they think, what they think should be your determining factor.
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It seems to me that you're making sure that the only love your child has is for you and you alone. My girlfriend kids introduced she and I. Back in July, my girlfriend daughter and I were talking, and I asked her a question about something that she would get bullied for here in the states and her reply was no daddy. To add to that, every night before her and her brother went to bed, they would give me a hug and kiss and say good night and I would get the same in the morning when they got up. When I left to come back to the states, my girlfriend daughter refused to come out of the room, because she didn't want to see me leave. I love my kids and I don't have to be the biological father to give them the best life possible. All of my kids are my world and I don't try to dictate their rearing. When my 4 year old did her lying in the floor of a store fit to get her way, she only did it once, and when I asked her aunt if she left her there and she said yes, my only reply was good. Open your mind, then you can open your heart. The kids of my girlfriend are my kids too as well as my kids being her kids and our kids act like they have know each other all their lives. Before you end a relationship, ask your kids what they think, what they think should be your determining factor.