Love (20)
Love is a load of bollix!! What does bj stand for in your name???
You know it's Love . .
. . when you choose to be with them rather than be with your friends, when their the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing at night, when you give them your last rolo
seriously, you find yourself putting them before yourself, when yer apart, all your thinking of is when ye will be together again, i'm sure there's other things too but basically, in my opinion, if you have not ever felt, been or done any of those things above, then i think you were not in love with that person at all and it still awaits you 
. . when you choose to be with them rather than be with your friends, when their the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing at night, when you give them your last rolo
seriously, you find yourself putting them before yourself, when yer apart, all your thinking of is when ye will be together again, i'm sure there's other things too but basically, in my opinion, if you have not ever felt, been or done any of those things above, then i think you were not in love with that person at all and it still awaits you 
bettybj: It's been a while since I popped in here so hey folks.
Had this discussion with a friend recently, how do you know when it's love?
I was seeing someone for a bit and my friend kept saying he just wasn't right for me. I'd love to know how she knew when I didn't, she must know me better than I know myself.
He used to do stuff that really annoyed me, could be very childish or so I thought at times but I convinced myself that I felt more than I did for him.
I'm on a bit of a rant by looks of it but that's not the case, maybe I've never been in love so just don't know what it is or am I a rare breed that will never settle down with anyone long term.
Had this discussion with a friend recently, how do you know when it's love?
I was seeing someone for a bit and my friend kept saying he just wasn't right for me. I'd love to know how she knew when I didn't, she must know me better than I know myself.
He used to do stuff that really annoyed me, could be very childish or so I thought at times but I convinced myself that I felt more than I did for him.
I'm on a bit of a rant by looks of it but that's not the case, maybe I've never been in love so just don't know what it is or am I a rare breed that will never settle down with anyone long term.
Maybe your friend's view influenced you more than you think, is that possible? Would you still be with him if she had said he was great?
In response to: It's been a while since I popped in here so hey folks.
Had this discussion with a friend recently, how do you know when it's love?
I was seeing someone for a bit and my friend kept saying he just wasn't right for me. I'd love to know how she knew when I didn't, she must know me better than I know myself.
He used to do stuff that really annoyed me, could be very childish or so I thought at times but I convinced myself that I felt more than I did for him.
I'm on a bit of a rant by looks of it but that's not the case, maybe I've never been in love so just don't know what it is or am I a rare breed that will never settle down with anyone long term.
Had this discussion with a friend recently, how do you know when it's love?
I was seeing someone for a bit and my friend kept saying he just wasn't right for me. I'd love to know how she knew when I didn't, she must know me better than I know myself.
He used to do stuff that really annoyed me, could be very childish or so I thought at times but I convinced myself that I felt more than I did for him.
I'm on a bit of a rant by looks of it but that's not the case, maybe I've never been in love so just don't know what it is or am I a rare breed that will never settle down with anyone long term.
No love in Carrick-on Shannon :) And no love in law enforcement either.... Sorry Betty.
there4u80: You know it's Love . .
. . when you choose to be with them rather than be with your friends, when their the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing at night, when you give them your last rolo seriously, you find yourself putting them before yourself, when yer apart, all your thinking of is when ye will be together again, i'm sure there's other things too but basically, in my opinion, if you have not ever felt, been or done any of those things above, then i think you were not in love with that person at all and it still awaits you
. . when you choose to be with them rather than be with your friends, when their the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing at night, when you give them your last rolo seriously, you find yourself putting them before yourself, when yer apart, all your thinking of is when ye will be together again, i'm sure there's other things too but basically, in my opinion, if you have not ever felt, been or done any of those things above, then i think you were not in love with that person at all and it still awaits you
If that's the case I have been in love once
and my heart broke once 
Right back to my book the Silverthorn, been saving this read until I had few days off
bettybj: It's been a while since I popped in here so hey folks.
Had this discussion with a friend recently, how do you know when it's love?
I was seeing someone for a bit and my friend kept saying he just wasn't right for me. I'd love to know how she knew when I didn't, she must know me better than I know myself.
He used to do stuff that really annoyed me, could be very childish or so I thought at times but I convinced myself that I felt more than I did for him.
I'm on a bit of a rant by looks of it but that's not the case, maybe I've never been in love so just don't know what it is or am I a rare breed that will never settle down with anyone long term.
Had this discussion with a friend recently, how do you know when it's love?
I was seeing someone for a bit and my friend kept saying he just wasn't right for me. I'd love to know how she knew when I didn't, she must know me better than I know myself.
He used to do stuff that really annoyed me, could be very childish or so I thought at times but I convinced myself that I felt more than I did for him.
I'm on a bit of a rant by looks of it but that's not the case, maybe I've never been in love so just don't know what it is or am I a rare breed that will never settle down with anyone long term.
Love is when you can't imagine your life without that person being in it...
mcattack: Love is when you can't imagine your life without that person being in it...
ummm interesting, not sure that thought process ever entered my head but then again I was not thinking ahead only of the present.
WittyandWise: ummm interesting, not sure that thought process ever entered my head but then again I was not thinking ahead only of the present.
Well it's obviously far more complex than that...it's just a small way of putting it i suppose
mcattack: Well it's obviously far more complex than that...it's just a small way of putting it i suppose
Certainly thought provoking
bettybj: It's been a while since I popped in here so hey folks. 
Had this discussion with a friend recently, how do you know when it's love?
It's either there or not, if you have to think about it it's probably not.
I was seeing someone for a bit and my friend kept saying he just wasn't right for me. I'd love to know how she knew when I didn't, she must know me better than I know myself.
Fair play to you for asking and your friend forbeing honest.
I had people telling me afterwards what they thought of my ex - yeah, big help.
He used to do stuff that really annoyed me, could be very childish or so I thought at times but I convinced myself that I felt more than I did for him.
It's called "wearing pink glasses" where I come from - join the club.
I'm on a bit of a rant by looks of it but that's not the case, maybe I've never been in love so just don't know what it is or am I a rare breed that will never settle down with anyone long term.
Each to their own, if that's what you want just do it and don't do anything just to do someone else a favour.
Had this discussion with a friend recently, how do you know when it's love?
It's either there or not, if you have to think about it it's probably not.
I was seeing someone for a bit and my friend kept saying he just wasn't right for me. I'd love to know how she knew when I didn't, she must know me better than I know myself.
Fair play to you for asking and your friend forbeing honest.
I had people telling me afterwards what they thought of my ex - yeah, big help.
He used to do stuff that really annoyed me, could be very childish or so I thought at times but I convinced myself that I felt more than I did for him.
It's called "wearing pink glasses" where I come from - join the club.
I'm on a bit of a rant by looks of it but that's not the case, maybe I've never been in love so just don't know what it is or am I a rare breed that will never settle down with anyone long term.
Each to their own, if that's what you want just do it and don't do anything just to do someone else a favour.
there4u80: You know it's Love . .
. . when you choose to be with them rather than be with your friends, when their the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing at night, when you give them your last rolo seriously, you find yourself putting them before yourself, when yer apart, all your thinking of is when ye will be together again, i'm sure there's other things too but basically, in my opinion, if you have not ever felt, been or done any of those things above, then i think you were not in love with that person at all and it still awaits you
. . when you choose to be with them rather than be with your friends, when their the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing at night, when you give them your last rolo seriously, you find yourself putting them before yourself, when yer apart, all your thinking of is when ye will be together again, i'm sure there's other things too but basically, in my opinion, if you have not ever felt, been or done any of those things above, then i think you were not in love with that person at all and it still awaits you
Can this also not be lust leading to obsession?
Like Bunny Boilers, Stalkers?
Genuinely interested in responces...
there4u80: You know it's Love . .
. . when you choose to be with them rather than be with your friends, when their the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing at night, when you give them your last rolo seriously, you find yourse
lf putting them before yourself, when yer apart, all your thinking of is when ye will be together again, i'm sure there's other things too but basically, in my opinion, if you have not ever felt, been or done any of those things above, then i think you were not in love with that person at all and it still awaits you
. . when you choose to be with them rather than be with your friends, when their the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing at night, when you give them your last rolo seriously, you find yourse
lf putting them before yourself, when yer apart, all your thinking of is when ye will be together again, i'm sure there's other things too but basically, in my opinion, if you have not ever felt, been or done any of those things above, then i think you were not in love with that person at all and it still awaits you
When I read this post I thought awww........
..cynical in me said needy. Maybe it's an age thing I would have felt all that way back , now realise at my age one thing I desire, is silence just now and again....constant texting dose my poor head in. Seriously do people need to text 24/7. I know getting to know you is fun, can't mean chatting all day every day. I've chatted and met nice men from here. Bunny boiler texting has to stop. HMO
there4u80: You know it's Love . .
. . when you choose to be with them rather than be with your friends, when their the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing at night, when you give them your last rolo seriously, you find yourself putting them before yourself, when yer apart, all your thinking of is when ye will be together again, i'm sure there's other things too but basically, in my opinion, if you have not ever felt, been or done any of those things above, then i think you were not in love with that person at all and it still awaits you
. . when you choose to be with them rather than be with your friends, when their the first thing you think of when you wake up and the last thing at night, when you give them your last rolo seriously, you find yourself putting them before yourself, when yer apart, all your thinking of is when ye will be together again, i'm sure there's other things too but basically, in my opinion, if you have not ever felt, been or done any of those things above, then i think you were not in love with that person at all and it still awaits you
love is when this what there4u80 described becomes less obsessive and more relaxed and like the sea..it has it storms and calms but it moves perfect for the body of matter it is in itself.. when the "falling in love" era passes, love is left.
When you feel love and loved you never question it..each and every little experience that happens during this falling in love period creates the love that is formed..
Its when they see the ugly and show you theirs, its when you can love all their little quirks and oddities cos its what makes them who they are.., its when you want to show them your weaknesses and indulge in discovering theirs..(for to back them up when weak..not to tear them down or apart during a conflict) ..to be your strength when you cant, Love is remembering each and every day why you love them and making them feel safe and loved and wanted.
And everybody deserves to feel this..but a lot of people wont ..sadly some because they are afraid to open to it..and worst still some because they are too selfish to give it, somehow cos someone affected them and their ability or never gave them the opportunity to do it right in their past or other reasons.
I think OP has 
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Had this discussion with a friend recently, how do you know when it's love?
I was seeing someone for a bit and my friend kept saying he just wasn't right for me. I'd love to know how she knew when I didn't, she must know me better than I know myself.
He used to do stuff that really annoyed me, could be very childish or so I thought at times but I convinced myself that I felt more than I did for him.
I'm on a bit of a rant by looks of it but that's not the case, maybe I've never been in love so just don't know what it is or am I a rare breed that will never settle down with anyone long term.