Crazy little thing called love (45)
Lok_Simpson: Been Keen on a friend for a little bit now , and i can honestly say , its been a very long time since I've felt this way , very "smitten" by her. She is a bit younger than me , has a 9 y.o son who i get along with really well ( thats always a good start ) , and last night i took her and another friend to a work function i organized.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
morning Lok , fine way to start a Sunday , count yourself lucky as you might have dodged a bullet .Bet the process will be repeated with the new guy sooner or later . Let us know if either of them turn up on this site as both look a bit cleaver .So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
Lok_Simpson: Been Keen on a friend for a little bit now , and i can honestly say , its been a very long time since I've felt this way , very "smitten" by her. She is a bit younger than me , has a 9 y.o son who i get along with really well ( thats always a good start ) , and last night i took her and another friend to a work function i organized.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
Now hang on, don't be so quick to look for the off switch! How long were they away for? If they went out on the balcony for a chat and, who knows, maybe a smooch, is that so bad?
On the other hand if they were gone for much longer, I suppose you suspect they had "a quickie" and you wouldn't want a woman who is so "easy". Right?
Don't be too quick to judge; keep up the pressure until you find out what happened and what she is really like. Don't let this other guy get the jump on you.
JMO.
Obscuritan: Now hang on, don't be so quick to look for the off switch! How long were they away for? If they went out on the balcony for a chat and, who knows, maybe a smooch, is that so bad?
On the other hand if they were gone for much longer, I suppose you suspect they had "a quickie" and you wouldn't want a woman who is so "easy". Right?
Don't be too quick to judge; keep up the pressure until you find out what happened and what she is really like. Don't let this other guy get the jump on you.
JMO.
On the other hand if they were gone for much longer, I suppose you suspect they had "a quickie" and you wouldn't want a woman who is so "easy". Right?
Don't be too quick to judge; keep up the pressure until you find out what happened and what she is really like. Don't let this other guy get the jump on you.
JMO.
Totally agree Obs!
Lok says he is smitten by this girl, but does she know that or is she regarding what is going on between them as just a friend thing??
Women generally like confident men, so go sweep her off her feet Lok, take her breath away!
If something is important to you, then damn well fight for it I say!
just be yourself, an observer, just observe your feelings as you watch her activities, let her go and maybe she will come back, maybe not, doesn't matter, if your happy within simpson and not grasping outside your self for happiness and taking responsibility for your own actions then you'll feel ok and whats right for you will prevail
stay cool
stay cool
One question comes to mind- why men and women cannot be just friends? I guess you will always find a real answer on a dating site.
Lok_Simpson: Been Keen on a friend for a little bit now , and i can honestly say , its been a very long time since I've felt this way , very "smitten" by her. She is a bit younger than me , has a 9 y.o son who i get along with really well ( thats always a good start ) , and last night i took her and another friend to a work function i organized.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
AgentAjax: One question comes to mind- why men and women cannot be just friends? I guess you will always find a real answer on a dating site.
Because you don't get a bonk that way, that's why, and that, my friend, is the major difference
Once people become lovers a whole new dimension opens up and the shared intimacy excludes others which is why it's called a relationship
Simple really innit
Her and another freind to a work function...mmmh
CuspofMagic: Her and another freind to a work function...mmmh
Yeah well it doesn't scream 'date' or 'romance' does it
Cuspy
serene56: Because you don't get a bonk that way, that's why, and that, my friend, is the major difference
Once people become lovers a whole new dimension opens up and the shared intimacy excludes others which is why it's called a relationship
Simple really innit
Once people become lovers a whole new dimension opens up and the shared intimacy excludes others which is why it's called a relationship
Simple really innit
Im sure I had one or two disagreements with one or two people on here why men and women cannot be just friends. Obviously the disagreement wasn’t between me and you and you and me!
CuspofMagic: Her and another freind to a work function...mmmh
That’s what I thought…strange.In response to: Been Keen on a friend for a little bit now , and i can honestly say , its been a very long time since I've felt this way , very "smitten" by her. She is a bit younger than me , has a 9 y.o son who i get along with really well ( thats always a good start ) , and last night i took her and another friend to a work function i organized.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
I find this an interesting post .
Reading between the lines I have a feeling that you didn't actually tell her you were interested in her !!
If this is correct you can not really blame her . As you didn't tell her !!
And I have been smitten by so many women way younger than my 50yrs and no I wouldn't say a word to them re romance !! Reason being most of them are married !!
Oh and being nice to one of these married co-workers well that was me being me. Another female co worker came up to me and told me off for trying to pick the other one up !!! .As she is married don't do that !!
And I swear I was being nice just nice no malice no intentions other than being nice . Yep told the other co worker that and still waiting to find out if I'm going up on a charge for being nice !!
So did she know you liked her ?
In response to: Been Keen on a friend for a little bit now , and i can honestly say , its been a very long time since I've felt this way , very "smitten" by her. She is a bit younger than me , has a 9 y.o son who i get along with really well ( thats always a good start ) , and last night i took her and another friend to a work function i organized.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Mate where is it implied that she has to have feelings for You? from what You describe the two of You are only friends (though You have feelings for her) Is she aware that You would like to be more than friends? Have You told her how You feel and are those feelings reciprocated? By the looks of it I would say not. She's an adult who is single and is entitled to have a relationship with who ever she chooses, if that's You, all well and good if not try to accept it with grace and move on, we can't make people want us no matter how we feel towards them. Don't give up though, You'll find someone eventually, try to be positive and project confidence and happiness, being possessive and negative sure as hell won't do it for You! Good luck mate.
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Mate where is it implied that she has to have feelings for You? from what You describe the two of You are only friends (though You have feelings for her) Is she aware that You would like to be more than friends? Have You told her how You feel and are those feelings reciprocated? By the looks of it I would say not. She's an adult who is single and is entitled to have a relationship with who ever she chooses, if that's You, all well and good if not try to accept it with grace and move on, we can't make people want us no matter how we feel towards them. Don't give up though, You'll find someone eventually, try to be positive and project confidence and happiness, being possessive and negative sure as hell won't do it for You! Good luck mate.
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
Well I don't know what happened there! my post is in the middle somewhere, and I don't drink that much either.....lol
I'm sorry to hear that . But your a smart man and no doubt your honest as well . Sadly some people will do anything to have a night out or be in a situation where they can meet others ... It seems she was doing this ... Don't despair , there are many beautiful women out here , but one suggestion I'd like to make is , stick to women your own age as they have had experiences which might dissuade them from doing what younger girls do ....
All the best
Daisy
All the best
Daisy
Hang on a minute folks, there seems to be an undercurrent of opinion that this lady has done something wrong, Who are we to judge her? It's called freedom of choice, nowhere was it stated that she was in a relationship with Lok, Simply because he invited her to a work function doesn't give him implicit rights to her attention or affection she has done nothing more than to exercise her right to decide whom she want's to be involved with, I don't see any malice on her part, so maybe just back off a little guys and try to be a bit more objective in Your views.
Lok_Simpson: Been Keen on a friend for a little bit now , and i can honestly say , its been a very long time since I've felt this way , very "smitten" by her. She is a bit younger than me , has a 9 y.o son who i get along with really well ( thats always a good start ) , and last night i took her and another friend to a work function i organized.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
So Lok... it was not a date.. you invited a couple of people.. and one of them found someone else to spend time with..
and sadly, your aspirations were not met.. but .. really. apart from leaving your company, you have no control on how , where, what she does..
She did not do anything wrong in my book... she did what she thought a good friend provided... a night out, and a opportunity to go and enjoy herself.. sadly tho.. if you had feelings for her, then you should have made it clear.. and then accepted the answer..
She may have then made the decision to not go... sorry Lok..
PS.... don't listen to me tho... I am hopeless when it comes to stuff like that..
I have always done whatever I want... no matter with whom I am..and always told ... go enjoy yourself..go meet others.. go dance with whoever...
in other words.. don't let me being here, stop you from doing what you want...
and I never minded... thought it was the normal...
Comes from being on your own for ages...
I have always done whatever I want... no matter with whom I am..and always told ... go enjoy yourself..go meet others.. go dance with whoever...
in other words.. don't let me being here, stop you from doing what you want...
and I never minded... thought it was the normal...
Comes from being on your own for ages...
Lok_Simpson: Been Keen on a friend for a little bit now , and i can honestly say , its been a very long time since I've felt this way , very "smitten" by her. She is a bit younger than me , has a 9 y.o son who i get along with really well ( thats always a good start ) , and last night i took her and another friend to a work function i organized.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.
Sounds like you were not "direct" enough with her. Come on, as much as modern media and supposed "feminism" doesn't condone direct machoism, most ladies actually secretly really like directness. They like to feel attractive to men, and they like a man who will be direct with them about it.
So many are psychologically screwed up in confusion and fear, that when an opportunity presents itself, they doubt the signs and signals and just don't act in time. So many ladies will accept the advances of another male who is not filled with so much caution and fear. And what has a guy really got to lose? Rejection?
A woman can either say yes or no, or nothing. You don't know until you give it a go.
I just had to take a "leap of faith", and throw my hat in the romantic ring with my fiance. It worked. The risk was great, but so is the reward I have received for taking that risk.
Cowards (the fearful) will always be trumped by the courageous. That is life and rule of life. Courage is becoming vulnerable and taking that risk despite potential hurt to feelings, or to body....
We must communicate honestly when we have the chance. Let it go, and the results speak for themselves....
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So the night is going well , i keep the drinks coming , conversation is good , then some guy who is friends with one of my workmates starts chatting with her , long story short they disappear for a while , then come back hand in hand etc.
Finally i felt something , only to have it ripped away again..
Had to vent , and i know , if she is willing to do that , then not worth it. So now i have to find the "off" switch and go about life in a semi normal way.
Sometime i wish i wasnt me.