dating and the biological clock (11)

Sep 9, 2013 5:43 PM CST dating and the biological clock
jed123
jed123jed123naas, Kildare Ireland3 Threads 1 Polls 32 Posts
fascinating thread on boards.ie and you thought women were the only ones to get broody!?laugh personally i find alot of women in their late 30s/40s very attractive/turn on ...but i dont look at them as "keepers" in that i probably wont get the time to form a stable relationship, settle down and have a couple of kids...is it a big factor in dating esp when you get into your 30's?thoughts?


Dating and the Biological Clock


Lately I have found myself realising that at some point in the coming years I would definitely like to have children (I am 32). Up until very recently it was always something I was open to, but not completely decided on.

More so, like most blokes it was probably something I always figured would be 'one for the future', as in a topic that would arise naturally down the line, once I'd met someone, etc.

I do a fair bit of dating, and meeting one or two girls in their mid-30s (say 34+), it's something that I am really thinking of now - the fact that if something serious was to develop, would it realistically be a bit late for having a family by the time we'd get to that stage. This is leading me to look more at women in their 20s and early 30s, and somewhat 'rule out' those in the mid-30s upwards range.

So it's kind of like if you were 32/33, and you met a girl who was a bit older, -say going on 35 - and you wanted 2-3 kids, by the time you'd get to the marriage / let's start a family stage, she'd be approx 38-ish trying for or having the first. So it seems late for sure, considering fertility declines sharply around the 35 mark, the risks (albeit I know they can be 'managed', etc).

Do you ever think about this kind of thing?
Sep 9, 2013 5:45 PM CST dating and the biological clock
Glatlol
GlatlolGlatlolDublin, Ireland2 Threads 5,358 Posts
jed123: fascinating thread on boards.ie and you thought women were the only ones to get broody!? personally i find alot of women in their late 30s/40s very attractive/turn on ...but i dont look at them as "keepers" in that i probably wont get the time to form a stable relationship, settle down and have a couple of kids...is it a big factor in dating esp when you get into your 30's?thoughts?


Dating and the Biological Clock


Lately I have found myself realising that at some point in the coming years I would definitely like to have children (I am 32). Up until very recently it was always something I was open to, but not completely decided on.

More so, like most blokes it was probably something I always figured would be 'one for the future', as in a topic that would arise naturally down the line, once I'd met someone, etc.

I do a fair bit of dating, and meeting one or two girls in their mid-30s (say 34+), it's something that I am really thinking of now - the fact that if something serious was to develop, would it realistically be a bit late for having a family by the time we'd get to that stage. This is leading me to look more at women in their 20s and early 30s, and somewhat 'rule out' those in the mid-30s upwards range.

So it's kind of like if you were 32/33, and you met a girl who was a bit older, -say going on 35 - and you wanted 2-3 kids, by the time you'd get to the marriage / let's start a family stage, she'd be approx 38-ish trying for or having the first. So it seems late for sure, considering fertility declines sharply around the 35 mark, the risks (albeit I know they can be 'managed', etc).

Do you ever think about this kind of thing?




Honestly?



Nope
Sep 9, 2013 5:46 PM CST dating and the biological clock
jed123
jed123jed123naas, Kildare Ireland3 Threads 1 Polls 32 Posts
would that be because you have some allready? and youve done that!?
Sep 9, 2013 5:47 PM CST dating and the biological clock
Glatlol
GlatlolGlatlolDublin, Ireland2 Threads 5,358 Posts
jed123: would that be because you have some allready? and youve done that!?



Give that man a gold star, of course it is because I have been there and done that, I had finished my family by the time I was in my early thirties.
Sep 9, 2013 5:59 PM CST dating and the biological clock
jed123
jed123jed123naas, Kildare Ireland3 Threads 1 Polls 32 Posts
well im just trying to highlight that if you hadnt - you may be thinking along the same lines!?
Im sorry i hope no1 finds this thread offesnive im just thinking out loud is all..
Sep 9, 2013 6:47 PM CST dating and the biological clock
Here's a thread for you, with a guide for finding the right wife.

Sep 9, 2013 11:32 PM CST dating and the biological clock
Pom_Pom
Pom_PomPom_PomBuenos Aires, Argentina71 Threads 32 Polls 1,740 Posts
Jed:

Yes, I've thought about it.
I've decided that if by the time I'm 40 I don't have anyone by my side.
I'll go ahead and heave some Artificial Insemination done.


wave
Sep 10, 2013 3:07 AM CST dating and the biological clock
Modern_Fairy
Modern_FairyModern_FairyMeath, Ireland23 Threads 4,891 Posts
jed123: fascinating thread on boards.ie and you thought women were the only ones to get broody!? personally i find alot of women in their late 30s/40s very attractive/turn on ...but i dont look at them as "keepers" in that i probably wont get the time to form a stable relationship, settle down and have a couple of kids...is it a big factor in dating esp when you get into your 30's?thoughts?


Dating and the Biological Clock


Lately I have found myself realising that at some point in the coming years I would definitely like to have children (I am 32). Up until very recently it was always something I was open to, but not completely decided on.

More so, like most blokes it was probably something I always figured would be 'one for the future', as in a topic that would arise naturally down the line, once I'd met someone, etc.

I do a fair bit of dating, and meeting one or two girls in their mid-30s (say 34+), it's something that I am really thinking of now - the fact that if something serious was to develop, would it realistically be a bit late for having a family by the time we'd get to that stage. This is leading me to look more at women in their 20s and early 30s, and somewhat 'rule out' those in the mid-30s upwards range.

So it's kind of like if you were 32/33, and you met a girl who was a bit older, -say going on 35 - and you wanted 2-3 kids, by the time you'd get to the marriage / let's start a family stage, she'd be approx 38-ish trying for or having the first. So it seems late for sure, considering fertility declines sharply around the 35 mark, the risks (albeit I know they can be 'managed', etc).

Do you ever think about this kind of thing?


What a load crap. I think a lot men can be quiet broody.. Alot i kno are anyway.

Im 25 & if i was to get pregnant i think my life would be over, ive died and gone to hell. I love my freedom & independance to much to be tied down by a man or a child. Im also very
career focused and would not be willing to be a housewife or stay at home mum no disrespect to them - each to their own. I also dont fancy bein a single parent. In my eyes ive wasted my teens and am only starting to live my life now .. With that said my mam is in her early 40s with 4yr old twin boys and my dad with a one year old girl. So i dont think its limited to either males or females being more broodier or a certain age limit younger vrs older but more to do with an individual and their own personal wants, desires and ambition
Sep 10, 2013 3:12 AM CST dating and the biological clock
Pom_Pom
Pom_PomPom_PomBuenos Aires, Argentina71 Threads 32 Polls 1,740 Posts
Pom_Pom: Jed:

Yes, I've thought about it.
I've decided that if by the time I'm 40 I don't have anyone by my side.
I'll go ahead and heave some Artificial Insemination done.



*have*
Sep 10, 2013 1:54 PM CST dating and the biological clock
sexydivabella
sexydivabellasexydivabellaDrogheda, Dublin Ireland44 Threads 4 Polls 5,978 Posts
Good topic Jed (and welcome to the forums!)

I never wanted kids and knew that from an early age, and thankfully followed through on it!

I know lots of "broody" men (and women of course) and it makes sense to want partners in their prime when thinking of reproducing,

What struck me about this is....damn that is where all the men my age are....chasing young wans to procreate with doh
I never thought about that bit blues

so my choice is now toy boys for fun or more catsconfused

here kitty kitty kitty cats meow rolling on the floor laughing
Sep 10, 2013 2:49 PM CST dating and the biological clock
KNenagh
KNenaghKNenaghAachen, Kilkenny Ireland12 Threads 11,160 Posts
I'm not broody, but just thinking - you meet someone a bit younger than you and one of you can't get children - do you just walk away (or she from you)?

I don't think any women (or men?) no matter what age want to be seen as a brood mare - because that's what your description sounds like for me. wine
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