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edison324bulgaria, Lancashire, England UK18 Threads 4 Polls 64 Postsnot to long ago i dated a woman for 12 months and all was fine yet her eldest son lived with us.not a problem then things began to change she had told me that in the past she had to bail him out of his gambling problem.all well and good by me.then he decided that he wanted to take my things with out ever asking as she believed what ever was in her house was there for every one ...well not my way of thinking when it came to my personal things.which he took as when he pleased never asking nor replacing ...then one day i had a shower and dropped some money on the floor as there was only him and me in the house at the time .any way when i came back to get the money it had gone hence in his pocket ...so i took it up with my partner and her words were a always whats in my house is every ones enough said ..so she got the hump when after some money went missing out my wallet that i told her we were finshed and to this day she would rather her son steal then to face him with it .....should i have confronted him i think not as i would have been made out to be the bad one hence off i went .....so what do you kind people think or make of that
edison324: not to long ago i dated a woman for 12 months and all was fine yet her eldest son lived with us.not a problem then things began to change she had told me that in the past she had to bail him out of his gambling problem.all well and good by me.then he decided that he wanted to take my things with out ever asking as she believed what ever was in her house was there for every one ...well not my way of thinking when it came to my personal things.which he took as when he pleased never asking nor replacing ...then one day i had a shower and dropped some money on the floor as there was only him and me in the house at the time .any way when i came back to get the money it had gone hence in his pocket ...so i took it up with my partner and her words were a always whats in my house is every ones enough said ..so she got the hump when after some money went missing out my wallet that i told her we were finshed and to this day she would rather her son steal then to face him with it .....should i have confronted him i think not as i would have been made out to be the bad one hence off i went .....so what do you kind people think or make of that
Her eldest son lived with her not you. Whilst I understand where you are coming from,you chose to move in, knowing that her son lived there.
It's not your problem to deal with.
It would have been more honest of her to have at least explained that there was an ongoing problem,which she is unable to cope with. Gambling is an addiction and he obviously needs help,so if you are still in contact, perhaps you can suggest that he seeks help with his problems before he gets into some really heavy debts.j.m.o.
yes you are right i did choose to live there but what i dint know that her son was a thief and that this problem did not phase her in the least either she wouldnt confront her own fears or rather just wished it went away that alone was bad enough but to not face up to reality is very weak in my book alas i truly think i was better off away from it as who knowswhat would happen next thanks for your reply regards ed
edison324: not to long ago i dated a woman for 12 months and all was fine yet her eldest son lived with us.not a problem then things began to change she had told me that in the past she had to bail him out of his gambling problem.all well and good by me.then he decided that he wanted to take my things with out ever asking as she believed what ever was in her house was there for every one ...well not my way of thinking when it came to my personal things.which he took as when he pleased never asking nor replacing ...then one day i had a shower and dropped some money on the floor as there was only him and me in the house at the time .any way when i came back to get the money it had gone hence in his pocket ...so i took it up with my partner and her words were a always whats in my house is every ones enough said ..so she got the hump when after some money went missing out my wallet that i told her we were finshed and to this day she would rather her son steal then to face him with it .....should i have confronted him i think not as i would have been made out to be the bad one hence off i went .....so what do you kind people think or make of that
Well being a mother of sons (who do not) live with me now if they had done that to my partner, as if you live together things are a bit deeper than just girlfriend, they would have been in bad trouble from me. Plus I would have been so embarrassed that a son could do that.
Tricky business though sons get jealous and will do almost anything to stay a mumsie boy.
Me I reckon you are best out of it, as the attitude of both will never change.
Edison, Family hmmm well she would back her Son up against you
its a rough deal. I had similar in the M.East the sister in
laws were stealing on a regular basis from my bedroom all sorts
they just felt that I had more than they did so helped themselves.
Its not right and when I did confront my late husband he would not
believe me, thought I had lost the plot. Eventually he discovered
when a large amount of money went missing and only his 2 nieces were
in the house at the time that they were indeed thieves.
I do know that when you enter a partnership with children involved
they will always come before you.
I fell out with my own Sister because of her daughter who was then 20yrs old, a lazy good for nothing girl. I told the sister and she did not like it much at all. I had her on holiday with me and she gathered her picnic around her in front of the tv and sat there munching her way through all sorts, remote was neatly placed by her side so I could not reach it. That was 7yrs ago and not spoken since. So you see we all know something of this scenario.
Respect is the key here and its lost in so many families.
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