Switched at birth (119)
Girljuice: This of course, is a hypothetical question but imagine if had reallyy happened to you. What would you do?
You discover that your wonderful one year old child is not your biological child due to a mix-up at the hospital.
Would you want to exchange the child?
You discover that your wonderful one year old child is not your biological child due to a mix-up at the hospital.
Would you want to exchange the child?
Most definitely not. Giving birth does not a mother make, nor do genetics. The one that I raised, nurtured and loved, would be my child...but that's me.
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Girljuice: This of course, is a hypothetical question but imagine if had reallyy happened to you. What would you do?
You discover that your wonderful one year old child is not your biological child due to a mix-up at the hospital.
Would you want to exchange the child?
You discover that your wonderful one year old child is not your biological child due to a mix-up at the hospital.
Would you want to exchange the child?
Nope... I'll keep the baby and if it grows up to be a good-for-nothing person, I'll blame his/her bad genes.
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steffffie: Nope... I'll keep the baby and if it grows up to be a good-for-nothing person, I'll blame his/her bad genes.
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unlaoised: Most definitely not. Giving birth does not a mother make, nor do genetics. The one that I raised, nurtured and loved, would be my child...but that's me.
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steffffie: Nope... I'll keep the baby and if it grows up to be a good-for-nothing person, I'll blame his/her bad genes.
Oh my goodness, you are funny!
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Girljuice: Good to see you.
you too
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In response to: This of course, is a hypothetical question but imagine if had reallyy happened to you. What would you do?
You discover that your wonderful one year old child is not your biological child due to a mix-up at the hospital.
Would you want to exchange the child?
You discover that your wonderful one year old child is not your biological child due to a mix-up at the hospital.
Would you want to exchange the child?
Yes, I think I probably would. It'd feel like crap doing it, but I think this pales an insignificance with the long term conseuences of not exchanging. I mean, what are you going to say in 17 years time when your own biological child comes looking for you? "Yes kid we knew all along but we felt that any baby would do, and that's why you've grown up all your life with doubt and uncertainty over who you really are, sorry".
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Obstinance_Works: Yes, I think I probably would. It'd feel like crap doing it, but I think this pales an insignificance with the long term conseuences of not exchanging. I mean, what are you going to say in 17 years time when your own biological child comes looking for you? "Yes kid we knew all along but we felt that any baby would do, and that's why you've grown up all your life with doubt and uncertainty over who you really are, sorry".
Wow, you never cease to amaze me. So..."hypothetically" you adopt a child...what are you going to tell him/her?
I take it you don't have any children...
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unlaoised: Wow, you never cease to amaze me. So..."hypothetically" you adopt a child...what are you going to tell him/her?
I take it you don't have any children...
I take it you don't have any children...
I may or may not adopt a child, but I wouldnt make two children adopted to protect my own feelings. To do this you'd also have to explain one day why your child was kept away from its real parents. I'm not surprised to see that your sole consideration about an exchange would be how it makes YOU feel right there and then.
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At one year old it's not so serious for the child than if it was older, I would want to keep both but of course the biological parents have a claim. I would want to have my own DNA tests done. The most important consideration is the two children.
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Reminds me of a movie I saw on tv where these two moms ended up with one another's child.Then later on they found one another and gave each child back to the other and lived happy ever after.
That would be a pretty hard decision to make.
That would be a pretty hard decision to make.
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Girljuice: This of course, is a hypothetical question but imagine if had reallyy happened to you. What would you do?
You discover that your wonderful one year old child is not your biological child due to a mix-up at the hospital.
Would you want to exchange the child?
You discover that your wonderful one year old child is not your biological child due to a mix-up at the hospital.
Would you want to exchange the child?
Depends if the other one was ginger.
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Obstinance_Works: I may or may not adopt a child, but I wouldnt make two children adopted to protect my own feelings. To do this you'd also have to explain one day why your child was kept away from its real parents. I'm not surprised to see that your sole consideration about an exchange would be how it makes YOU feel right there and then.
Really? I might not be speaking from experience, might I? Just a thought....
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Girljuice: This of course, is a hypothetical question but imagine if had reallyy happened to you. What would you do?
You discover that your wonderful one year old child is not your biological child due to a mix-up at the hospital.
Would you want to exchange the child?
Yes I would want to , it's morally wrong and unfair to that child . A massive act of selfishness on the hypothetical parent(s)me to carry on living a lie which could be rectified . I think most on making such a discovery would naturally want their own flesh and blood . You discover that your wonderful one year old child is not your biological child due to a mix-up at the hospital.
Would you want to exchange the child?
And no I'm not a parent , I'm an Uncle to 3 great kids whom I see regularly .
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unlaoised: Most definitely not. Giving birth does not a mother make, nor do genetics. The one that I raised, nurtured and loved, would be my child...but that's me.
And having your conscience,questioning you all the time. "i raised and love somebody else's child, what about my own???? is loved and cared for in the other side???"------ This thread is Archived ------
chris27292729: And having your conscience,questioning you all the time. "i raised and love somebody else's child, what about my own???? is loved and cared for in the other side???"
Ah yes, chris...that brings in an entirely new dimension to this. Assuming that both children were equally well cared for, I'm not sure I would want to traumatise a child by wrenching them from the people they love and believe to be their parents.
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Exactly my point "assuming" is theoritical,in practice your conscience,would questioning you,as you don't have details of your child if is "equally well and cared for".The other point is,your conscience would questioned you ,on learning the mistake done in the hospital,would have been better,having the exchange done and get over with????
unlaoised: Ah yes, chris...that brings in an entirely new dimension to this. Assuming that both children were equally well cared for, I'm not sure I would want to traumatise a child by wrenching them from the people they love and believe to be their parents.
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unlaoised: As is mine. Frankly, I think that bloodlines are overrated but we get back to the old "nature vs nurture" debate, which still rages on.
It should never be about the adult....always about the child's wellbeing. JMO
It should never be about the adult....always about the child's wellbeing. JMO
It is a trap that women fall into when they say that bloodlines are not important, I wonder how many have used this excuse when using the non biological father to raise a child under the misapprehension that it is his. With the excuse to themselves "oh well he is the father in every way except biologically.
Genetics is very important to men, you may say that the prime directive is to continue his genes, nature has programmed this into him.
I am not talking about adoption here, but deception.
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tomcatwarne: At one year old it's not so serious for the child than if it was older, I would want to keep both but of course the biological parents have a claim. I would want to have my own DNA tests done. The most important consideration is the two children.
I would have to agree with this. Well said... at one year old... Lets just say I WOULDNT want to be in that situation, but Proving Genetics I would want Both Famlies to have what truely they created... Sounds kinda like someone trading their Patent for your Idea.... I would want what I Created....Not what another created... Just My Opinion
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You discover that your wonderful one year old child is not your biological child due to a mix-up at the hospital.
Would you want to exchange the child?