The courage to be yourself (42)
Jokerman73Milano, Lombardy Italy20 Threads 202 PostsI wonder why ppl build a profile where everything is in order, why they prepare the best photo, combing.. dresses well, all built to give the best impression, is it not in the human nature to deceive others, how many people change completely after marriage, how many times have you said if I had known the truth, would you have the courage to show up on the first date yourself as you are.. sweaty.. dirty with messy hair, dirty teeth and completely drunk ...opening your mouth at the same level of a sewer, all you could say to a person who presents himself in this way.. is..ouhh he's a lot of garbage a.. rotten wood, but I say he is an honest man
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First impressions last...
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In response to: I wonder why ppl build a profile where everything is in order, why they prepare the best photo, combing.. dresses well, all built to give the best impression, is it not in the human nature to deceive others, how many people change completely after marriage, how many times have you said if I had known the truth, would you have the courage to show up on the first date yourself as you are.. sweaty.. dirty with messy hair, dirty teeth and completely drunk ...opening your mouth at the same level of a sewer, all you could say to a person who presents himself in this way.. is..ouhh he's a lot of garbage a.. rotten wood, but I say he is an honest man
My boyfriend has seen me when I'm at my best and when I'm at my worst.
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Chocheta: First impressions last...
yes the fault is with ones perception I guess.Majority of them get attracted to attractive profiles.
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I appreciate what you are saying,but for me personal grooming is important,and whether i be out and about,or in my home,i certainly wouldnt present myself in the manner which you describe.
If anyone meets me,they get how i have portrayed myself as on here,and hopefully a bit more.
I am not knocking those that are differant,just saying about me. 
If anyone meets me,they get how i have portrayed myself as on here,and hopefully a bit more.
I am not knocking those that are differant,just saying about me.
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Jokerman73: I wonder why ppl build a profile where everything is in order, why they prepare the best photo, combing.. dresses well, all built to give the best impression, is it not in the human nature to deceive others, how many people change completely after marriage, how many times have you said if I had known the truth, would you have the courage to show up on the first date yourself as you are.. sweaty.. dirty with messy hair, dirty teeth and completely drunk ...opening your mouth at the same level of a sewer, all you could say to a person who presents himself in this way.. is..ouhh he's a lot of garbage a.. rotten wood, but I say he is an honest man
I say if a Man shows up on a First Date, Dirty, messy hair, Dirty teeth Ect... HONEST OR NOT, He is Showing No Self respect, Their for He is Giving NONE to Her...
You Have to have self Respect before You can respect another...
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rebel2: I appreciate what you are saying,but for me personal grooming is important,and whether i be out and about,or in my home,i certainly wouldnt present myself in the manner which you describe.
If anyone meets me,they get how i have portrayed myself as on here,and hopefully a bit more.
I am not knocking those that are differant,just saying about me.
If anyone meets me,they get how i have portrayed myself as on here,and hopefully a bit more.
I am not knocking those that are differant,just saying about me.
Thats What I Mean!
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In response to: I wonder why ppl build a profile where everything is in order, why they prepare the best photo, combing.. dresses well, all built to give the best impression, is it not in the human nature to deceive others, how many people change completely after marriage, how many times have you said if I had known the truth, would you have the courage to show up on the first date yourself as you are.. sweaty.. dirty with messy hair, dirty teeth and completely drunk ...opening your mouth at the same level of a sewer, all you could say to a person who presents himself in this way.. is..ouhh he's a lot of garbage a.. rotten wood, but I say he is an honest man
Jokerman,When you go apply for a job don't you dress to make the first impression to your perspective boss?
Or do you dress like a slob?
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rebel2: I appreciate what you are saying,but for me personal grooming is important,and whether i be out and about,or in my home,i certainly wouldnt present myself in the manner which you describe.
If anyone meets me,they get how i have portrayed myself as on here,and hopefully a bit more.
I am not knocking those that are differant,just saying about me.
If anyone meets me,they get how i have portrayed myself as on here,and hopefully a bit more.
I am not knocking those that are differant,just saying about me.
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HotrodLarrys: I say if a Man shows up on a First Date, Dirty, messy hair, Dirty teeth Ect... HONEST OR NOT, He is Showing No Self respect, Their for He is Giving NONE to Her...
You Have to have self Respect before You can respect another...
You Have to have self Respect before You can respect another...
well said Larry!
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Chocheta: well said Larry!
Thank You!Honestly speaking, Even Days, weeks, or years into a Relationship, A Man May come home form work smelly, Dirty, hair messed up, but before any Intimate Relations... Thorough Cleanliness is just a Must In My Book, For BOTH! No Other Options!
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Jokerman73: I wonder why ppl build a profile where everything is in order, why they prepare the best photo, combing.. dresses well, all built to give the best impression, is it not in the human nature to deceive others, how many people change completely after marriage, how many times have you said if I had known the truth, would you have the courage to show up on the first date yourself as you are.. sweaty.. dirty with messy hair, dirty teeth and completely drunk ...opening your mouth at the same level of a sewer, all you could say to a person who presents himself in this way.. is..ouhh he's a lot of garbage a.. rotten wood, but I say he is an honest man
Welcome to the human grocery store man.the grocer wipe the apples that they shine so we all do.That s human nature.
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Jokerman73: I wonder why ppl build a profile where everything is in order, why they prepare the best photo, combing.. dresses well, all built to give the best impression, is it not in the human nature to deceive others, how many people change completely after marriage, how many times have you said if I had known the truth, would you have the courage to show up on the first date yourself as you are.. sweaty.. dirty with messy hair, dirty teeth and completely drunk ...opening your mouth at the same level of a sewer, all you could say to a person who presents himself in this way.. is..ouhh he's a lot of garbage a.. rotten wood, but I say he is an honest man
Hi Jokerman..
so you mean, take one segment of your daily working life, and post a pic of how you look ??
so If you have been outside chainsawing, or blower vacumning the gutters, in your worst clothes, you mean we should present like that??
because one does not dress up and look gorgeous in their ballgowns whilst one does the outdoor work???
What ??
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Jokerman73: I wonder why ppl build a profile where everything is in order, why they prepare the best photo, combing.. dresses well, all built to give the best impression, is it not in the human nature to deceive others, how many people change completely after marriage, how many times have you said if I had known the truth, would you have the courage to show up on the first date yourself as you are.. sweaty.. dirty with messy hair, dirty teeth and completely drunk ...opening your mouth at the same level of a sewer, all you could say to a person who presents himself in this way.. is..ouhh he's a lot of garbage a.. rotten wood, but I say he is an honest man
to be our self it does not take any courage a all. thats is what we supposed to do. Be what we are.... and not copying anyone. You dont need to be an "egocentric idiot" or a "humble pretending".
"Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition...... Everything else is secondary." Steve Jobs
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Bogart_1960: to be our self it does not take any courage a all. thats is what we supposed to do. Be what we are.... and not copying anyone. You dont need to be an "egocentric idiot" or a "humble pretending"."Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition...... Everything else is secondary." Steve Jobs
hiya Bogart
i think it does take courage to be our true self.
when it's all too easy to 'choose the right answer', or the 'popular choice'...to deny oneself in the service of consensual reality.
i'm talking about meeting and truly accepting one self and replacing denial with awareness, and then being authentic from that awareness.
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Jokerman73: I wonder why ppl build a profile where everything is in order, why they prepare the best photo, combing.. dresses well, all built to give the best impression, is it not in the human nature to deceive others, how many people change completely after marriage, how many times have you said if I had known the truth, would you have the courage to show up on the first date yourself as you are.. sweaty.. dirty with messy hair, dirty teeth and completely drunk ...opening your mouth at the same level of a sewer, all you could say to a person who presents himself in this way.. is..ouhh he's a lot of garbage a.. rotten wood, but I say he is an honest man
Being unkempt and paying little attention to health and hygiene, getting inebriated and talking filthy and then hiding behind these behaviors by saying it is just "being honest" is the epitome of being undesirable. Even the poorest person can assist himself in being clean, brushing teeth, choosing to be sober, and not expecting the world to be his toilet. You cannot be a scumbag and defend it by saying it is honesty. Geeze...
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HotrodLarrys: Thank You!
Honestly speaking, Even Days, weeks, or years into a Relationship, A Man May come home form work smelly, Dirty, hair messed up, but before any Intimate Relations... Thorough Cleanliness is just a Must In My Book, For BOTH! No Other Options!
Honestly speaking, Even Days, weeks, or years into a Relationship, A Man May come home form work smelly, Dirty, hair messed up, but before any Intimate Relations... Thorough Cleanliness is just a Must In My Book, For BOTH! No Other Options!
On page 14 Steve Jobs say """Don't be trapped by dogma""".
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jono7: hiya Bogart
i think it does take courage to be our true self.
when it's all too easy to 'choose the right answer', or the 'popular choice'...to deny oneself in the service of consensual reality.
i'm talking about meeting and truly accepting one self and replacing denial with awareness, and then being authentic from that awareness.
i think it does take courage to be our true self.
when it's all too easy to 'choose the right answer', or the 'popular choice'...to deny oneself in the service of consensual reality.
i'm talking about meeting and truly accepting one self and replacing denial with awareness, and then being authentic from that awareness.
Hi Jono
i do understand your point of view, and agree with part of your comment.
for me, we are all "imperfect", and the "courage" is to live everyday and to be what we are,. Life is not a sales pitch - “Hi,check me out” .. sometimes by defending our values we end up alone...
when i said "did not take any courage", means It takes lots of "courage/stupidity" to pretend to be someone else, because at the end of each day, we deal with that, the real "us" will show up. and sooner or later that facade will be clear to everyone.
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Why would one prefer to present him/herself dirty when the real self is always clean?
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Jokerman73: I wonder why ppl build a profile where everything is in order, why they prepare the best photo, combing.. dresses well, all built to give the best impression, is it not in the human nature to deceive others, how many people change completely after marriage, how many times have you said if I had known the truth, would you have the courage to show up on the first date yourself as you are.. sweaty.. dirty with messy hair, dirty teeth and completely drunk ...opening your mouth at the same level of a sewer, all you could say to a person who presents himself in this way.. is..ouhh he's a lot of garbage a.. rotten wood, but I say he is an honest man
I disagree hes not honest hes lazy and and a slob!
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