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I have been around in this world for long enough to have observed this a lot. People will not openly admit if they have come to like someone, and even in relationships people seem to often find it hard to open up.
Is it fear of rejection? Is it because they believe it takes mystery away from them, or maybe is it even about power as in the one who shows less feelings seems to be considered more powerful?
Read a quote recently about how in relationships now it seems to have become a race for the lead in uncaringness, instead of each trying to trumph the other in regards to showing love and care.
Do we feel we are making ourselves vulnerable when we show how much someone else means to us?
To me it seems wasted time and energy to hide what I feel. Pride and vanity I feel disconnect us from others, and I rather face a rejection over a lost opportunity. If I should come to love someone, 'power' over the other, in my view, should only be born from having the 'power' to make that other happy and to use that 'power' in abandunce. That's not about 'ruling' as an individual in a relationship, but about letting love and care do the ruling.
Have others here ever thought about his? How do you handle showing your feelings, is the fear of rejection often something that guides your interactions when you meet others?
and obviously sozzy for the length