sirLarryIII: Well you do say in your profile that your ditsy and looking for someone who is cocky and sweet at the same. A lot of famous serial killers in the past have been famous for their sweet talking as much as their murdering ability. Be careful what you wish for...
good point. Maybe I look for qualities bad boys tend to have.
HelenaRaber: Well you're the one choosing them,and why are you hooking up with them. People like to blame other people for the bad choices they make in their lives,but really almost all the time our heartbreaks are our own fault.
You are right!! I have only myself to blame for the guys I have chose in the past. And the only way to prevent the patterns from continuing is to make wiser choices and to be more selective and take my time getting to know someone before settling down. I agree.
MADDOG69: Your entire story vindicates everything Mr. 'Obstinance_works' writes about. And he's spot on with most of what he writes too.
I guess you're now looking for... in his words... a "cuddle herb".
well said MADDOG69
Lilsweetnassy...when a girl asks a guy those questions at first,your basically telling him I've had my fun with the badboys and now am ready for my second choice(safety net)...better guys won't do second choice unless their weak/desperate.
a high percentage of tday's so called modern women deny the truth and onstead of recognising their own mistakes will blame men...why no good man??? why good man so hard to find etc etc.
women that rarely blame men will have chosen good ones in the past.
Lilsweetnassy...when a girl asks a guy those questions at first,your basically telling him I've had my fun with the badboys and now am ready for my second choice(safety net)...better guys won't do second choice unless their weak/desperate.
a high percentage of tday's so called modern women deny the truth and onstead of recognising their own mistakes will blame men...why no good man??? why good man so hard to find etc etc.
women that rarely blame men will have chosen good ones in the past.
And perhaps the thread I should have made should have stated why have I chosen the wrong men in the past. But again, it's not like I have went out there searching for the 'bad boys'. Yes, I was the one who chose to be in a relationship with them, I was the one who allowed myself to continue the relationship even after I knew. I tend to try to find the good in everyone. And I have tried to fix them. I am trying to learn from past mistakes and make wiser choices. Thanks for the advice.
lilsweetnsassy: And perhaps the thread I should have made should have stated why have I chosen the wrong men in the past. But again, it's not like I have went out there searching for the 'bad boys'. Yes, I was the one who chose to be in a relationship with them, I was the one who allowed myself to continue the relationship even after I knew. I tend to try to find the good in everyone. And I have tried to fix them. I am trying to learn from past mistakes and make wiser choices. Thanks for the advice.
well tending to look for the good in everyone lilsweetnsassy is one of the best if not the best quality any individual can have.
lilsweetnsassy: And perhaps the thread I should have made should have stated why have I chosen the wrong men in the past. But again, it's not like I have went out there searching for the 'bad boys'. Yes, I was the one who chose to be in a relationship with them, I was the one who allowed myself to continue the relationship even after I knew. I tend to try to find the good in everyone. And I have tried to fix them. I am trying to learn from past mistakes and make wiser choices. Thanks for the advice.
hi, trying to fix a bad boy just does not work
cannot change others so change yourself
good luck with your future...children, career and happiness
lilsweetnsassy: And perhaps the thread I should have made should have stated why have I chosen the wrong men in the past. But again, it's not like I have went out there searching for the 'bad boys'. Yes, I was the one who chose to be in a relationship with them, I was the one who allowed myself to continue the relationship even after I knew. I tend to try to find the good in everyone. And I have tried to fix them. I am trying to learn from past mistakes and make wiser choices. Thanks for the advice.
sirLarryIII: Well you do say in your profile that your ditsy and looking for someone who is cocky and sweet at the same. A lot of famous serial killers in the past have been famous for their sweet talking as much as their murdering ability. Be careful what you wish for...
yeah my front doormat doesn't say "Welcome" it says "No Serial Killers"...
lilsweetnsassy: And perhaps the thread I should have made should have stated why have I chosen the wrong men in the past. But again, it's not like I have went out there searching for the 'bad boys'. Yes, I was the one who chose to be in a relationship with them, I was the one who allowed myself to continue the relationship even after I knew. I tend to try to find the good in everyone. And I have tried to fix them. I am trying to learn from past mistakes and make wiser choices. Thanks for the advice.
You cannot fix people who are damaged and broken or save them from themselves. These people are losers and if you let them they will all destroy your life as well as their own. Take longer to get to know them before getting intimately involved with them because lots of very nasty and very damaging people are very accomplished actors who can pretend to be really nice at the beginning.
Try to check them out. Become face book friends with them and check out their face book profile. This way you will discover what kind of things they are into and what they are talking about on face book ? Also click of their F.B. friend's profiles to see what kind of people they are friends with and what these people are about and into also ? You can find out a LOT of information about people this way without even having to ask them any direct questions at all.
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Prapiroon: You cannot fix people who are damaged and broken or save them from themselves. These people are losers and if you let them they will all destroy your life as well as their own. Take longer to get to know them before getting intimately involved with them because lots of very nasty and very damaging people are very accomplished actors who can pretend to be really nice at the beginning.
Try to check them out. Become face book friends with them and check out their face book profile. This way you will discover what kind of things they are into and what they are talking about on face book ? Also click of their F.B. friend's profiles to see what kind of people they are friends with and what these people are about and into also ? You can find out a LOT of information about people this way without even having to ask them any direct questions at all.
Are you for real
If I had to rely on Facebook to suss someone out ,I'd give up. Not only that, anyone with any modicum of sense would have security on their A/C so you can't just click on anyone to check them out.
Prapiroon: You cannot fix people who are damaged and broken or save them from themselves. These people are losers and if you let them they will all destroy your life as well as their own. Take longer to get to know them before getting intimately involved with them because lots of very nasty and very damaging people are very accomplished actors who can pretend to be really nice at the beginning.
Try to check them out. Become face book friends with them and check out their face book profile. This way you will discover what kind of things they are into and what they are talking about on face book ? Also click of their F.B. friend's profiles to see what kind of people they are friends with and what these people are about and into also ? You can find out a LOT of information about people this way without even having to ask them any direct questions at all.
seems your another expert on human beings.
so if someone is really nice at the beginning should I consider them all to be nasty and damaged???
and the whole thing about FB just doesn't sit too well with me.
If I had to rely on Facebook to suss someone out ,I'd give up. Not only that, anyone with any modicum of sense would have security on their A/C so you can't just click on anyone to check them out.
Once they have accepted your friends request you would gain access to their timeline wouldn't you ? They can lie to your face but they cannot invent a fake F.B. profile at the drop of a hat. Not everyone has privacy settings. You can discover quite a lot usually.
Tormented: seems your another expert on human beings.
so if someone is really nice at the beginning should I consider them all to be nasty and damaged???
and the whole thing about FB just doesn't sit too well with me.
Of course not but they might be. I mean people do not fall for sociopaths and psychopaths because they appeared to be evil and nasty. Quite the opposite. The very reason why these predators are SO successful is because they are well dressed, good looking, very articulate, confident and charismatic.
"bad boys" are just more cocky and often charming on the outside so they easily form friendships and relationships. Delve a bit deeper and their true colours shine through.
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