Is it better to meet someone to get to know them, or email for days/weeks before meeting (14)
MrVirgo: Hi all,
From my experiences on dating websites, I am very frustrated with some of the women that I have been chatting with. Understandably that you do not know the type of man that you are chatting with, but to paint everyone with the same brush as rapists, women beaters etc is a little short sighted.
Just writing emails to each other, you could say absolutely anything, any type of lie will do.
Why dont people just meet up after a few messages to each other? How hard is that...
Take it that no one is stupid enough to meet a complete stranger on their own and bring someone with them.
I have joined meetup.com for this reason, and i am no longer interested to chat with women for dating here, because I actually have a life and dont have the time to keep replying to emails everyday to girls that may or may not be interested and are too shy to say same. I prefer to get to know someone face to face, hear their voice and their laugh not "LOL and HahaHa"
I am staying on CS for the forums, which I do find fun and engaging...
RSVP
That would depend on in my opinion are you dating someone in your own back yard? Or across the mighty pond? Neither one is a guarantee....yet I think before traveling across the pond I would want some emails and some Skype. Just my opinion. From my experiences on dating websites, I am very frustrated with some of the women that I have been chatting with. Understandably that you do not know the type of man that you are chatting with, but to paint everyone with the same brush as rapists, women beaters etc is a little short sighted.
Just writing emails to each other, you could say absolutely anything, any type of lie will do.
Why dont people just meet up after a few messages to each other? How hard is that...
Take it that no one is stupid enough to meet a complete stranger on their own and bring someone with them.
I have joined meetup.com for this reason, and i am no longer interested to chat with women for dating here, because I actually have a life and dont have the time to keep replying to emails everyday to girls that may or may not be interested and are too shy to say same. I prefer to get to know someone face to face, hear their voice and their laugh not "LOL and HahaHa"
I am staying on CS for the forums, which I do find fun and engaging...
RSVP
Tis a lot of money for plane fare
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I agree, when I was dating on this site, I preferred meeting up sooner rather than later just for a coffee and a chat.
I found a lot of people were lying and wasting time that way, no matter how many emails were exchanged beforehand. I prefer meeting someone through friends than that and hang around here for the forums.
I found a lot of people were lying and wasting time that way, no matter how many emails were exchanged beforehand. I prefer meeting someone through friends than that and hang around here for the forums.
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I guess it depends on who you are communicating with. If it is someone close to you of course it would be nicer to meet as soon as possible instead of just exchanging emails. If it is someone faraway - the exchange of emails is the first step that leads to video chatting and telephone conversations - how these interactions go will determine if there is a connection worth pursuing and meeting for.
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MrVirgo: Hi all,
From my experiences on dating websites, I am very frustrated with some of the women that I have been chatting with. Understandably that you do not know the type of man that you are chatting with, but to paint everyone with the same brush as rapists, women beaters etc is a little short sighted.
Just writing emails to each other, you could say absolutely anything, any type of lie will do.
Why dont people just meet up after a few messages to each other? How hard is that...
Take it that no one is stupid enough to meet a complete stranger on their own and bring someone with them.
I have joined meetup.com for this reason, and i am no longer interested to chat with women for dating here, because I actually have a life and dont have the time to keep replying to emails everyday to girls that may or may not be interested and are too shy to say same. I prefer to get to know someone face to face, hear their voice and their laugh not "LOL and HahaHa"
I am staying on CS for the forums, which I do find fun and engaging...
RSVP
From my experiences on dating websites, I am very frustrated with some of the women that I have been chatting with. Understandably that you do not know the type of man that you are chatting with, but to paint everyone with the same brush as rapists, women beaters etc is a little short sighted.
Just writing emails to each other, you could say absolutely anything, any type of lie will do.
Why dont people just meet up after a few messages to each other? How hard is that...
Take it that no one is stupid enough to meet a complete stranger on their own and bring someone with them.
I have joined meetup.com for this reason, and i am no longer interested to chat with women for dating here, because I actually have a life and dont have the time to keep replying to emails everyday to girls that may or may not be interested and are too shy to say same. I prefer to get to know someone face to face, hear their voice and their laugh not "LOL and HahaHa"
I am staying on CS for the forums, which I do find fun and engaging...
RSVP
I think the scammers on this site should get this message..
I dont play the email game i talk on the phone with him and then we meet... if someone wants to email i think they are a scammer and i dont bother and now some of the scammers have phone numbers but they can only text 
i told the one guy to call me and he say its not working.. omg if that isnt a red flag..LOL so he texts me the idiot..bye bye my dear scammer..no time for you..LOL------ This thread is Archived ------
I would take into account the respective locations. It has to start somewhere, but no, it shouldn't take forever email, chats, and video.
Fairly local? Why bother continual chatting online at all? Lots of public places that both may be familiar with and possibly some same acquaintances.
Distanced may not even be that much if with in a few hours or less.
Out of state and farther? Pursuing anything more? Email, chats, even video conferencing should be a must for at least a short while.
Not likely that I would try something too far out of my area since my schedule doesn't permit even the attempt for the most part. That doesn't mean others won't have the schedules and freedoms to try something more perplexed.
Don't get worked up about "too long chatting, emailing" and such. Some people really aren't in a hurry to break their own patterns and life style and may even be worried about infringing on another person's patterns and life. It's not an easy merger or transition for a lot of people. Getting out of a comfort zone can take more than people realize once their bluff is called.
Nothing wrong with having a potentially, good chat partner here and there either way.
Fairly local? Why bother continual chatting online at all? Lots of public places that both may be familiar with and possibly some same acquaintances.
Distanced may not even be that much if with in a few hours or less.
Out of state and farther? Pursuing anything more? Email, chats, even video conferencing should be a must for at least a short while.
Not likely that I would try something too far out of my area since my schedule doesn't permit even the attempt for the most part. That doesn't mean others won't have the schedules and freedoms to try something more perplexed.
Don't get worked up about "too long chatting, emailing" and such. Some people really aren't in a hurry to break their own patterns and life style and may even be worried about infringing on another person's patterns and life. It's not an easy merger or transition for a lot of people. Getting out of a comfort zone can take more than people realize once their bluff is called.
Nothing wrong with having a potentially, good chat partner here and there either way.
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As long as both partys are being honest!
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Happygolucky4u: That would depend on in my opinion are you dating someone in your own back yard? Or across the mighty pond? Neither one is a guarantee....yet I think before traveling across the pond I would want some emails and some Skype. Just my opinion. Tis a lot of money for plane fare
no guarantees in life...years ago..
after emailing and skyping for months, i went to scotland.
we got along so well. he wanted to get married.
he's an awesome person
...just not the awesome person for me.
i felt no chemistry in real life.
i was gobsmacked.
i still believe that one can 'fall in' love over the net..but it's few and far between..being the exception not the rule (are there rules?...
)and i would still advise (not that anyone is asking...
) to get to know someone online and through skype for quite some time before hopping continents. i don't begrudge the money i spent as it was a valuable lesson for me.
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If the person lives locally, should meet fairly soon.
If distance is involved, phone and Skype before planning a trip
If distance is involved, phone and Skype before planning a trip
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I met someone online who is in another state. We emailed for eight months before we spoke on the phone. He didn't want to talk on the phone but I insisted because we were going to meet each other the next day.
The meeting went fine and we continued to email and talk on the phone.
Then we met again a month later and that meeting had it's ups and downs but we continued to email and talk on the phone to learn more about each other which we definitely did
Now we are talking about meeting up again very soon.
It's important that we meet as often as possible so that we learn more about each others temperament.
There are a lot of factors that enter into meeting in person. Cost of plane fare is a concern but one of the biggest things that I think is important is that the time together is long enough for each one to let down their guard and be true to their own personality and traits.
If he lived in the same state we would see each other often. That should answer your question.
Long distance relationships aren't easy unless you are loaded with money for plane fare.
The meeting went fine and we continued to email and talk on the phone.
Then we met again a month later and that meeting had it's ups and downs but we continued to email and talk on the phone to learn more about each other which we definitely did
Now we are talking about meeting up again very soon.
It's important that we meet as often as possible so that we learn more about each others temperament.
There are a lot of factors that enter into meeting in person. Cost of plane fare is a concern but one of the biggest things that I think is important is that the time together is long enough for each one to let down their guard and be true to their own personality and traits.
If he lived in the same state we would see each other often. That should answer your question.
Long distance relationships aren't easy unless you are loaded with money for plane fare.
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I met the guy I'm with now on a non dating site.He lived over 2,121 miles from me which was 30 hrs and 40 mins away travel time for either of us.I lived on the West coast and he lived on the East Coast.
We exchanged private messages on that particular website and then later on agreed to exchange phone numbers and talked on the phone.Plus we also spoke by instant messenger as well.
To save on travel time I decided to move to Cincy so neither of us would have to travel so far across the U.S. We met in person and it was the most enjoyable meeting.He was exactly who he said he was and he matched his pictures he had sent to me.
A few months later after we met we decided to move in together which worked out well.We share all the household costs etc etc.
We exchanged private messages on that particular website and then later on agreed to exchange phone numbers and talked on the phone.Plus we also spoke by instant messenger as well.
To save on travel time I decided to move to Cincy so neither of us would have to travel so far across the U.S. We met in person and it was the most enjoyable meeting.He was exactly who he said he was and he matched his pictures he had sent to me.
A few months later after we met we decided to move in together which worked out well.We share all the household costs etc etc.
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Chances are if your going to meet face to face, your not going to meet a scammer. But, on the other hand, you just might not meet the person you think you are going to meet. Catch 22!
Always have a backup plan weather it be in your own city or abroad.
I still have my hopes up that is someone out there. Forums are still the best way to weed people out, I think (being new here).
Just say'n
Always have a backup plan weather it be in your own city or abroad.
I still have my hopes up that is someone out there. Forums are still the best way to weed people out, I think (being new here). Just say'n
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Grimshaw: Chances are if your going to meet face to face, your not going to meet a scammer. But, on the other hand, you just might not meet the person you think you are going to meet. Catch 22!
Always have a backup plan weather it be in your own city or abroad. I still have my hopes up that is someone out there. Forums are still the best way to weed people out, I think (being new here).
Just say'n
Always have a backup plan weather it be in your own city or abroad. I still have my hopes up that is someone out there. Forums are still the best way to weed people out, I think (being new here).
Just say'n
Best have plenty of weed killer.
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From my experiences on dating websites, I am very frustrated with some of the women that I have been chatting with. Understandably that you do not know the type of man that you are chatting with, but to paint everyone with the same brush as rapists, women beaters etc is a little short sighted.
Just writing emails to each other, you could say absolutely anything, any type of lie will do.
Why dont people just meet up after a few messages to each other? How hard is that...
Take it that no one is stupid enough to meet a complete stranger on their own and bring someone with them.
I have joined meetup.com for this reason, and i am no longer interested to chat with women for dating here, because I actually have a life and dont have the time to keep replying to emails everyday to girls that may or may not be interested and are too shy to say same. I prefer to get to know someone face to face, hear their voice and their laugh not "LOL and HahaHa"
I am staying on CS for the forums, which I do find fun and engaging...
RSVP