Men!! (43)

Why is it so hard for a man to just accept a female for who she is.
I spent 2 or so months talkin to a bloke from this site, we met after he traveled over 4000k's to meet me.

We got along fantastically in the first 3 months. He only told me once after about a month and a half, that he loved me. I was shocked to hear it from ANY man without some form of question to prompt an answer.

What I don't understand is why the fark, they say they accept you then want to change you to suit them... I am a very strong single mum and I have ways to do things, as I always have. He wants to come along and change things back to the 1500's instead of livin in the 21st century!

He fell in love with me.... Then as I was told, "Fell out of love with me" ... Yet he still expected me to stick around... Keepin me farkin danglin like a a gutted and torn 16 year old. He seemed to get enjoyment from not ending us but still havin me waitin for him.

I ended it cause he was hurtin me soo much... I couldn't function properly... I found out a day after we broke up that he was on here 3 weeks before hand. I have a photo of the dates off of his profile...

I always thought if you loved someone, you didn't need a bit on the side, or you went onto single DATING sites, or IGNORED the one you CLAIM to have LOVED.... It got to the point of 3-4 hours a week ONLY!!

So glad it's over!! I am healin up just good now! I just couldn't handle the SELFISHNESS from him anymore...

After 14 years I thought I was ready for a REAL relationship.... Obvoiusly, he wasn't! He can play with his own heart now... All he likes.

At least you found out before either of you relocated. That doesn't help how you're feeling now I know.

Personally the second he said he'd fallen out of love with me I'd have stopped contact, but then I'm stubborn and proud.

I hope the next guy you meet treats you how you deserve to be treated :)

Thanks NaB... I did stop contact with him as soon as I heard him say that.. I am gettin over it but for him to continue to leave me hangin... THAT is just wrong

I sure as hell wouldn't do that to anyone.

Amazing how selfish men / BOYS can be. I am head strong person but I WILL NOT tollerate crap like that ...

Thanks Rob... Good to be back... After another BAD experience. There is a LOT more to this, as there is in any break up...

It's very hard to talk through something when they just SHUT DOWN and don't communicate at all.

Ahh well. Helloooooooooo CS!!!

Well after reading these posts it comes as no surprise I can't find a decent woman,its guys like that who leave sour notes in their lives making it impossible for decent men like me to find love.Its disgusting.well I'll continue to be myself and hope live finds me.Not all men are that way but there seems to be plenty of them.

Yeah Makes ya wonder huh Nature..

I just don't get why they can't say something... Ya know... "I'm havin a few problems with US".... That'd be a bloody good start...

I would notice that he would STOP doin things. I used to get a cuppa in the mornings.. Then it stopped!! WTF for? I don't know.

The intimacy just stopped... WTF for.. I don't know.

All kinds of affection just stopped... WTF for?

No matter how many times I asked... He just fobbed me off. Ignored me, changed the subject. Oh, He LOVED to play "DEAF".. many times. Yet I caught him out all the time. Especially when his phone rang and he JUMPED UP and raced to it. I didn't even hear it and I have MOTHER HEARING!!! I saw all of this EVENTUALLY, but he just shut down.

So much for the good, bad and the ugly days... He saw all 3 then he walked out on me. Maybe he got caught too many times and knew he couldn't actually get away with it anymore.

I don't know. He never talked about it... "Expected TOO MUCH OF ME"..he even had the STUPID notion to say "I was LAZY"!!! Hmm Single mum of 14 years, Yeah! I'm LAZY... That's why the house was lived in, food was cooked, bills were paid, the house moved itself when I decided to have a change of scenery!!!! I still can't find those bloody cleanin Faeries though!!

Oh well... His loss of a good woman!!

As I will say... Ce la vie mon ami !! HA HA You still don't even know what YOU want in life.

I know what you mean singledadoftwo. It makes it hard to decide if we are prepared to give your all... I did... I got kicked in the guts AGAIN!!!

I know some men are very REAL but the majority AREN'T.

I can't say much more then that cause I am so gobsmacked that an older man would do that to me. He had it all but chose to throw it away after nearly 6 months .. Who knows anymore...