long distance love.....lady leaving alone....to meet....help (14)
Have a back-up plan in place, a Plan B, just in case it doesn't work out.
Hopefully you will not need it but better safe than sorry.
Best of luck
Hopefully you will not need it but better safe than sorry.
Best of luck
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mollybaby: Have a back-up plan in place, a Plan B, just in case it doesn't work out.
Hopefully you will not need it but better safe than sorry.Best of luck
Hopefully you will not need it but better safe than sorry.Best of luck
thank you honey......good advice....
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Hi cmiyer, 
I don't think that the travelling itself is a problem, but it can be a problem with expectations when you come to his place and stay with him. 
Make sure you have enough money to stay in a hotel and travel back to the airport if things go wrong would be my advice.
Hope it works out for you and have a good time.
I don't think that the travelling itself is a problem, but it can be a problem with expectations when you come to his place and stay with him. Make sure you have enough money to stay in a hotel and travel back to the airport if things go wrong would be my advice.
Hope it works out for you and have a good time.
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KNenagh: Hi cmiyer, I don't think that the travelling itself is a problem, but it can be a problem with expectations when you come to his place and stay with him.
Make sure you have enough money to stay in a hotel and travel back to the airport if things go wrong would be my advice.
Hope it works out for you and have a good time.
Make sure you have enough money to stay in a hotel and travel back to the airport if things go wrong would be my advice.
Hope it works out for you and have a good time.
hi there....
yes.....this was also.....bothering in my mind....
thanks honey.....
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Like the ladies before me stated, have a back up plan. Don't get yourself trapped in a bad spot.
I would also advise making sure a few friends and family know his name, address and any new locations you might end up at and MAKE SURE HE KNOWS THAT OTHERS KNOW. Do not isolate yourself. A person is less apt to do something stupid knowing they will get caught.
Locate a woman's shelter in the area and figure out how to get to it before you need it. If push comes to shove you can go there and have a safe place to stay until your return flight departs.
When you first meet, stay in public and feel the water to make sure things are as they appear. a few hours will tell a lot and might tip you off that you could be in a bad spot.
I know that all sounds very negative but sometimes the best offence is a good defense. I do hope things go well and you need none of the advise given by myself or anyone else.
I would also advise making sure a few friends and family know his name, address and any new locations you might end up at and MAKE SURE HE KNOWS THAT OTHERS KNOW. Do not isolate yourself. A person is less apt to do something stupid knowing they will get caught.
Locate a woman's shelter in the area and figure out how to get to it before you need it. If push comes to shove you can go there and have a safe place to stay until your return flight departs.
When you first meet, stay in public and feel the water to make sure things are as they appear. a few hours will tell a lot and might tip you off that you could be in a bad spot.
I know that all sounds very negative but sometimes the best offence is a good defense. I do hope things go well and you need none of the advise given by myself or anyone else.
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cmiyer: long distance love.......is this possible?????
what problems are there ......for a lady...reaching
her boyfriend's place,
she from india....and he in ...America.....she will be travelling
first time to
America.....
in my opinion......long distance not a problem....if money
is not a problem....
what other problems ......will....be faced by going.....
all alone to a far distance ....one of the big states...
in America?????? lady have to be careful.....but....
what possible problems.....she could be facing....
i value all inputs......please let me know ....your
opinion...on this....love you all.....done skyping...he is real
(ps..worried about some unexpected problems)
what problems are there ......for a lady...reaching
her boyfriend's place,
she from india....and he in ...America.....she will be travelling
first time to
America.....
in my opinion......long distance not a problem....if money
is not a problem....
what other problems ......will....be faced by going.....
all alone to a far distance ....one of the big states...
in America?????? lady have to be careful.....but....
what possible problems.....she could be facing....
i value all inputs......please let me know ....your
opinion...on this....love you all.....done skyping...he is real
(ps..worried about some unexpected problems)
Why is he not going there?
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fishinandshootin: Like the ladies before me stated, have a back up plan. Don't get yourself trapped in a bad spot.
I would also advise making sure a few friends and family know his name, address and any new locations you might end up at and MAKE SURE HE KNOWS THAT OTHERS KNOW. Do not isolate yourself. A person is less apt to do something stupid knowing they will get caught.
Locate a woman's shelter in the area and figure out how to get to it before you need it. If push comes to shove you can go there and have a safe place to stay until your return flight departs.
When you first meet, stay in public and feel the water to make sure things are as they appear. a few hours will tell a lot and might tip you off that you could be in a bad spot.
I know that all sounds very negative but sometimes the best offence is a good defense. I do hope things go well and you need none of the advise given by myself or anyone else.
I would also advise making sure a few friends and family know his name, address and any new locations you might end up at and MAKE SURE HE KNOWS THAT OTHERS KNOW. Do not isolate yourself. A person is less apt to do something stupid knowing they will get caught.
Locate a woman's shelter in the area and figure out how to get to it before you need it. If push comes to shove you can go there and have a safe place to stay until your return flight departs.
When you first meet, stay in public and feel the water to make sure things are as they appear. a few hours will tell a lot and might tip you off that you could be in a bad spot.
I know that all sounds very negative but sometimes the best offence is a good defense. I do hope things go well and you need none of the advise given by myself or anyone else.
thanking you a lot....for thiswonderful advice....
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xxDandelionxx: Why is he not going there?
he said he can not make it....at least...for a year,
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KNenagh: Hi cmiyer, I don't think that the travelling itself is a problem, but it can be a problem with expectations when you come to his place and stay with him.
Make sure you have enough money to stay in a hotel and travel back to the airport if things go wrong would be my advice.
Hope it works out for you and have a good time.
Make sure you have enough money to stay in a hotel and travel back to the airport if things go wrong would be my advice.
Hope it works out for you and have a good time.
This I is excellent advice.
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cmiyer: long distance love.......is this possible?????
what problems are there ......for a lady...reaching
her boyfriend's place,
she from india....and he in ...America.....she will be travelling
first time to
America.....
in my opinion......long distance not a problem....if money
is not a problem....
what other problems ......will....be faced by going.....
all alone to a far distance ....one of the big states...
in America?????? lady have to be careful.....but....
what possible problems.....she could be facing....
i value all inputs......please let me know ....your
opinion...on this....love you all.....done skyping...he is real
(ps..worried about some unexpected problems)
All of the above , stay safe . what problems are there ......for a lady...reaching
her boyfriend's place,
she from india....and he in ...America.....she will be travelling
first time to
America.....
in my opinion......long distance not a problem....if money
is not a problem....
what other problems ......will....be faced by going.....
all alone to a far distance ....one of the big states...
in America?????? lady have to be careful.....but....
what possible problems.....she could be facing....
i value all inputs......please let me know ....your
opinion...on this....love you all.....done skyping...he is real
(ps..worried about some unexpected problems)
But come back and tell us how it went
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Back up plan could be right here and getting to know someone on here that might live near by.. I don't know I would want to know someone besides the person that I am traveling to see.. But I am sure that you will figure something out.. and it also could be your gut telling you something.. Sorry if I offend in anyway.... Just saying !
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It's an adjustment to American life. Language, cultural differences, keep in contact with family back home - have them expect your call. Look to see if there is your country's embassy in the city. Get to know the area you are going to - look at maps, google earth and other visuals of the location.
Get to know some of his family and friends - things are always good with other knowing you are there.
Can't think of anything else.
Get to know some of his family and friends - things are always good with other knowing you are there.
Can't think of anything else.
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The bigger questions perhaps might centre around
a) Your entitlement to remain in the USA
b) Your personal safety in a situation where you have no friends and no social backup - in a city you may well be able to find some sort of Indian Cultural group or temple, but if you were to live ina remote region then yer preddy much 'on your own' eh?
It would make far more sense for you to have him come to India ... that way he can gain some grasp of YOUR culture ( I'm sorry but most americans really havent a clue that other cultures exist - just as the majority from inland states have never even seen the sea! )
If he can't afford to, or will not travel to India and 'take you back with him' then my best guess is that he's expecting you to be a golden egg.
Another possibility would be that you could be set up as drug mule or involved into some other racket.
Then there's the airport no show ... ie he doesn't show up and some 'friendly person' see you in distress and takes you under their wing ... for which of course you're expected to be generous
ps if he sends you money to buy your airfare then asks for some it back ... then that also is a well known scam!
pps OK, maybe this sounds negative to some of you but don't tell me that these (and far worse) things haven't happened to scores of other men and women across the world. NOTHING on the net is REAL - especially not declaratuions of love to persons never met in real life!
a) Your entitlement to remain in the USA
b) Your personal safety in a situation where you have no friends and no social backup - in a city you may well be able to find some sort of Indian Cultural group or temple, but if you were to live ina remote region then yer preddy much 'on your own' eh?
It would make far more sense for you to have him come to India ... that way he can gain some grasp of YOUR culture ( I'm sorry but most americans really havent a clue that other cultures exist - just as the majority from inland states have never even seen the sea! )
If he can't afford to, or will not travel to India and 'take you back with him' then my best guess is that he's expecting you to be a golden egg.
Another possibility would be that you could be set up as drug mule or involved into some other racket.
Then there's the airport no show ... ie he doesn't show up and some 'friendly person' see you in distress and takes you under their wing ... for which of course you're expected to be generous
ps if he sends you money to buy your airfare then asks for some it back ... then that also is a well known scam!
pps OK, maybe this sounds negative to some of you but don't tell me that these (and far worse) things haven't happened to scores of other men and women across the world. NOTHING on the net is REAL - especially not declaratuions of love to persons never met in real life!
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what problems are there ......for a lady...reaching
her boyfriend's place,
she from india....and he in ...America.....she will be travelling
first time to
America.....
in my opinion......long distance not a problem....if money
is not a problem....
what other problems ......will....be faced by going.....
all alone to a far distance ....one of the big states...
in America?????? lady have to be careful.....but....
what possible problems.....she could be facing....
i value all inputs......please let me know ....your
opinion...on this....love you all.....done skyping...he is real
(ps..worried about some unexpected problems)