Has anyone gone "Stealth mode" on you after wooing you? (36)
LadyLori: Hello my fellow single friends,
I was wondering if any of you have had someone "woo" you for weeks/months, set up a date - act excited to meet you, only to have them suddenly stop talking to you then "stand you up" for your date?
I had a guy do this to me on another site & it devastated me, as I was VERY attracted to him, and not just with his looks, and he made me laugh and he was smart, etc...he had me totally wrapped around his finger. Then, 2 days before our scheduled date, he stopped corresponding. wouldn't let me know, either way, regarding our meeting.
Well, found him again last month and HE asked ME for another chance. Me, being the forgiving, non judgmental lady that I am, said "of course"! He, once again, wood me to no end....told me his biggest mistake the first time was not meeting me. He had to reschedule several times, and I remained patient...all the while, refusing other dates from some great guys, because I wanted to be loyal to him.
Yup....he did the same thing again. Stopped talking to me just a few days before our date.
I was so sad and upset. I guess he never took a moment to think how he'd feel if someone did that to him!
Believe me, it will never happen to me again!
So, 2 questions:
1) Has this happened to anyone else and, if so, how did it effect you?
2) Does anyone have any insight as to why someone would do such a deplorable thing to someone nice, forgiving & loyal?
I will appreciate your comments!!
I was wondering if any of you have had someone "woo" you for weeks/months, set up a date - act excited to meet you, only to have them suddenly stop talking to you then "stand you up" for your date?
I had a guy do this to me on another site & it devastated me, as I was VERY attracted to him, and not just with his looks, and he made me laugh and he was smart, etc...he had me totally wrapped around his finger. Then, 2 days before our scheduled date, he stopped corresponding. wouldn't let me know, either way, regarding our meeting.
Well, found him again last month and HE asked ME for another chance. Me, being the forgiving, non judgmental lady that I am, said "of course"! He, once again, wood me to no end....told me his biggest mistake the first time was not meeting me. He had to reschedule several times, and I remained patient...all the while, refusing other dates from some great guys, because I wanted to be loyal to him.
Yup....he did the same thing again. Stopped talking to me just a few days before our date.
I was so sad and upset. I guess he never took a moment to think how he'd feel if someone did that to him!
Believe me, it will never happen to me again!
So, 2 questions:
1) Has this happened to anyone else and, if so, how did it effect you?
2) Does anyone have any insight as to why someone would do such a deplorable thing to someone nice, forgiving & loyal?
I will appreciate your comments!!
Sorry to hear about happened ...
Yeah it happens quite often to what I hear ( actually ,read)
Men get seduced then stood up,Women get seduced then stood up
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LadyLori: Hello my fellow single friends,
I was wondering if any of you have had someone "woo" you for weeks/months, set up a date - act excited to meet you, only to have them suddenly stop talking to you then "stand you up" for your date?
I had a guy do this to me on another site & it devastated me, as I was VERY attracted to him, and not just with his looks, and he made me laugh and he was smart, etc...he had me totally wrapped around his finger. Then, 2 days before our scheduled date, he stopped corresponding. wouldn't let me know, either way, regarding our meeting.
Well, found him again last month and HE asked ME for another chance. Me, being the forgiving, non judgmental lady that I am, said "of course"! He, once again, wood me to no end....told me his biggest mistake the first time was not meeting me. He had to reschedule several times, and I remained patient...all the while, refusing other dates from some great guys, because I wanted to be loyal to him.
Yup....he did the same thing again. Stopped talking to me just a few days before our date.
I was so sad and upset. I guess he never took a moment to think how he'd feel if someone did that to him!
Believe me, it will never happen to me again!
So, 2 questions:
1) Has this happened to anyone else and, if so, how did it effect you?
2) Does anyone have any insight as to why someone would do such a deplorable thing to someone nice, forgiving & loyal?
I will appreciate your comments!!
I was wondering if any of you have had someone "woo" you for weeks/months, set up a date - act excited to meet you, only to have them suddenly stop talking to you then "stand you up" for your date?
I had a guy do this to me on another site & it devastated me, as I was VERY attracted to him, and not just with his looks, and he made me laugh and he was smart, etc...he had me totally wrapped around his finger. Then, 2 days before our scheduled date, he stopped corresponding. wouldn't let me know, either way, regarding our meeting.
Well, found him again last month and HE asked ME for another chance. Me, being the forgiving, non judgmental lady that I am, said "of course"! He, once again, wood me to no end....told me his biggest mistake the first time was not meeting me. He had to reschedule several times, and I remained patient...all the while, refusing other dates from some great guys, because I wanted to be loyal to him.
Yup....he did the same thing again. Stopped talking to me just a few days before our date.
I was so sad and upset. I guess he never took a moment to think how he'd feel if someone did that to him!
Believe me, it will never happen to me again!
So, 2 questions:
1) Has this happened to anyone else and, if so, how did it effect you?
2) Does anyone have any insight as to why someone would do such a deplorable thing to someone nice, forgiving & loyal?
I will appreciate your comments!!
Yes I´m afraid i gone through it, more or less. Met a guy on another site and every time we were supose to meet up something happened.Also for some strange reason he liked to blame me for that.I really liked that guy, he was a wrestler and I know he did have a busy schedule. We been on and off for about two years, but now i took him away from everything. Usualy doesnt help. But you know, im totally over him the last times he tried i play along to try to find out why, Last time 2 last times he said something real weird. He said he couldnt get a passport. Has he explained it ? oh no lol. I am in sweden thats why he should get a passport. All he did last month before i said bye to him was moaning about all money he spent to connect with me (his internet keeps breaking up) I told him just change internet provider. I am still curious about why, and i know there is something wrong with people that cant stand up and say what they want, if nervous, scared or just changed there mind.
Hope your ok now, he isnt worthy of you
good luck sorry about my spelling
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I have been in contact with such a type and I think the best you can do is stay away from them after they made their first excuse. It are players seeking attention. They usually don't allow you to come close.
Stay strong, be yourself, and last but not least, do not doubt yourself! You are the one that is real!
Stay strong, be yourself, and last but not least, do not doubt yourself! You are the one that is real!
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LadyLori: Hello my fellow single friends,
I was wondering if any of you have had someone "woo" you for weeks/months, set up a date - act excited to meet you, only to have them suddenly stop talking to you then "stand you up" for your date?
I had a guy do this to me on another site & it devastated me, as I was VERY attracted to him, and not just with his looks, and he made me laugh and he was smart, etc...he had me totally wrapped around his finger. Then, 2 days before our scheduled date, he stopped corresponding. wouldn't let me know, either way, regarding our meeting.
Well, found him again last month and HE asked ME for another chance. Me, being the forgiving, non judgmental lady that I am, said "of course"! He, once again, wood me to no end....told me his biggest mistake the first time was not meeting me. He had to reschedule several times, and I remained patient...all the while, refusing other dates from some great guys, because I wanted to be loyal to him.
Yup....he did the same thing again. Stopped talking to me just a few days before our date.
I was so sad and upset. I guess he never took a moment to think how he'd feel if someone did that to him!
Believe me, it will never happen to me again!
So, 2 questions:
1) Has this happened to anyone else and, if so, how did it effect you?
2) Does anyone have any insight as to why someone would do such a deplorable thing to someone nice, forgiving & loyal?
I will appreciate your comments!!
I was wondering if any of you have had someone "woo" you for weeks/months, set up a date - act excited to meet you, only to have them suddenly stop talking to you then "stand you up" for your date?
I had a guy do this to me on another site & it devastated me, as I was VERY attracted to him, and not just with his looks, and he made me laugh and he was smart, etc...he had me totally wrapped around his finger. Then, 2 days before our scheduled date, he stopped corresponding. wouldn't let me know, either way, regarding our meeting.
Well, found him again last month and HE asked ME for another chance. Me, being the forgiving, non judgmental lady that I am, said "of course"! He, once again, wood me to no end....told me his biggest mistake the first time was not meeting me. He had to reschedule several times, and I remained patient...all the while, refusing other dates from some great guys, because I wanted to be loyal to him.
Yup....he did the same thing again. Stopped talking to me just a few days before our date.
I was so sad and upset. I guess he never took a moment to think how he'd feel if someone did that to him!
Believe me, it will never happen to me again!
So, 2 questions:
1) Has this happened to anyone else and, if so, how did it effect you?
2) Does anyone have any insight as to why someone would do such a deplorable thing to someone nice, forgiving & loyal?
I will appreciate your comments!!
wow how rude of him, makes you wonder what his problem was? better luck next time ladlori 
and no that has not happened to me on any site"s just one time when io meet the one from hre he didnt look like his pic..
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In response to: Hello my fellow single friends,
I was wondering if any of you have had someone "woo" you for weeks/months, set up a date - act excited to meet you, only to have them suddenly stop talking to you then "stand you up" for your date?
I had a guy do this to me on another site & it devastated me, as I was VERY attracted to him, and not just with his looks, and he made me laugh and he was smart, etc...he had me totally wrapped around his finger. Then, 2 days before our scheduled date, he stopped corresponding. wouldn't let me know, either way, regarding our meeting.
Well, found him again last month and HE asked ME for another chance. Me, being the forgiving, non judgmental lady that I am, said "of course"! He, once again, wood me to no end....told me his biggest mistake the first time was not meeting me. He had to reschedule several times, and I remained patient...all the while, refusing other dates from some great guys, because I wanted to be loyal to him.
Yup....he did the same thing again. Stopped talking to me just a few days before our date.
I was so sad and upset. I guess he never took a moment to think how he'd feel if someone did that to him!
Believe me, it will never happen to me again!
So, 2 questions:
1) Has this happened to anyone else and, if so, how did it effect you?
2) Does anyone have any insight as to why someone would do such a deplorable thing to someone nice, forgiving & loyal?
I will appreciate your comments!!
I was wondering if any of you have had someone "woo" you for weeks/months, set up a date - act excited to meet you, only to have them suddenly stop talking to you then "stand you up" for your date?
I had a guy do this to me on another site & it devastated me, as I was VERY attracted to him, and not just with his looks, and he made me laugh and he was smart, etc...he had me totally wrapped around his finger. Then, 2 days before our scheduled date, he stopped corresponding. wouldn't let me know, either way, regarding our meeting.
Well, found him again last month and HE asked ME for another chance. Me, being the forgiving, non judgmental lady that I am, said "of course"! He, once again, wood me to no end....told me his biggest mistake the first time was not meeting me. He had to reschedule several times, and I remained patient...all the while, refusing other dates from some great guys, because I wanted to be loyal to him.
Yup....he did the same thing again. Stopped talking to me just a few days before our date.
I was so sad and upset. I guess he never took a moment to think how he'd feel if someone did that to him!
Believe me, it will never happen to me again!
So, 2 questions:
1) Has this happened to anyone else and, if so, how did it effect you?
2) Does anyone have any insight as to why someone would do such a deplorable thing to someone nice, forgiving & loyal?
I will appreciate your comments!!
Never stood up a date and never will. If we fix a date, I'm there. Either I'll go to her or she comes to me. If the date doesn't work that's another pair of hands
And for the second question, he's not sure of him self !! Cause if he was he would have called you !!!!
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I am fairly straight and don't have much tolerance for BS. I was never into LDR, so I only ever met locals. I prefer meeting sooner rather than later as not getting attached or simply wasting my time. 
It can happen that someone cancels last minute because something comes up, but going AWOL a couple of days beforehand and not confirming if he is still going to meet you - he wouldn't even get the chance to talk to me again.
It can happen that someone cancels last minute because something comes up, but going AWOL a couple of days beforehand and not confirming if he is still going to meet you - he wouldn't even get the chance to talk to me again.
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I would say this falls into two basic catagories:
1. The man/woman just loves the "thrill of the chase" but isn't interested in closing the deal because then the excitement is gone.
2. They are attached.
Now I'm sure there are a lot of other possibilities, but these probably account for the vast majority of people fitting this situation.
1. The man/woman just loves the "thrill of the chase" but isn't interested in closing the deal because then the excitement is gone.
2. They are attached.
Now I'm sure there are a lot of other possibilities, but these probably account for the vast majority of people fitting this situation.
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Yah, it hurts, but my daughters told me it was HIS loss, not mine, haha!
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Thank you for your story QueenUtopia and sorry that happened to you too. Looks like you broke it off in time, as it seemed he was hinting for you to send him some money!!
And no need to apologize for spelling...I'm not the "typo police" :)
And no need to apologize for spelling...I'm not the "typo police" :)
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Thanks buskyz....I agree with you!!
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Thanks Shell1964 - I wonder too, because he has not told me why. Perhaps he is married? Maybe a "Cat Fisher"? Oh well, there are plenty of other good looking, nice men who will really want to go on a date sometime!! He's in my dust now, haha!!
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Obstinance works,
Thanks for your input, even though I don't totally agree with you. I'm a smart lady and believe in giving second chances. And remaining "loyal" was my choice....I don't date more than one man at a time, so because I had a date set up with him, I didn't get emotionally involved with anyone else.
He has left both sites I was talking to him on, and I'm still here, so he must feel a little shame for what he did. I'll leave it at that.
Thanks for your input, even though I don't totally agree with you. I'm a smart lady and believe in giving second chances. And remaining "loyal" was my choice....I don't date more than one man at a time, so because I had a date set up with him, I didn't get emotionally involved with anyone else.
He has left both sites I was talking to him on, and I'm still here, so he must feel a little shame for what he did. I'll leave it at that.
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iwil55: I would say this falls into two basic catagories:
1. The man/woman just loves the "thrill of the chase" but isn't interested in closing the deal because then the excitement is gone.
2. They are attached.
Now I'm sure there are a lot of other possibilities, but these probably account for the vast majority of people fitting this situation.
1. The man/woman just loves the "thrill of the chase" but isn't interested in closing the deal because then the excitement is gone.
2. They are attached.
Now I'm sure there are a lot of other possibilities, but these probably account for the vast majority of people fitting this situation.
I like this answer and would like to add more possibilities...
3. They may not be the person in the picture and afraid you will not like who they really are.
4. Maybe he is keeping you as a safety so to speak; meeting other women but then it doesn't work out and maybe holding on to you for the 'just in case'.
Actually, it could be any number of things but the bottom line is... he did it again.
I know you like him but you should not let that get in the way of knowing what you already know. Do not let him string you along. He either likes you or he doesn't, that is that.
I wish you the bestest. Please do not feel badly, I hear this happens to a lot of people.
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Thanks Alexandro....I believe you're right!
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Thanks KNenagh.....he was local, but made a few excuses to reschedule.
Trust me, I learned from this and will be just like you if this happens again!
Trust me, I learned from this and will be just like you if this happens again!
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Thanks iwii55 - I was thinking that myself, but now that you said it, that is most likely his case!
He lost out on a good woman, that's all I'm going to say!
He lost out on a good woman, that's all I'm going to say!
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Thanks onlyoneheart...good input!!
I appreciate that and trust me, I will never put myself "out there" like that again!
I sent him a message and finished with:
"Fool me once, shame on you. Food me twice, shame on me!!"
I will listen to me intuition nest time :)
I appreciate that and trust me, I will never put myself "out there" like that again!
I sent him a message and finished with:
"Fool me once, shame on you. Food me twice, shame on me!!"
I will listen to me intuition nest time :)
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There are quite a few married/attached people out there who do this for sport, just to see whether they can get someone to fall for them. Then, when it comes to showtime, they don't go through with it. Run of the mill douches. It's certainly your choice to give second chances. I don't. Frogs only turn into princes in fairy tales 
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I was wondering if any of you have had someone "woo" you for weeks/months, set up a date - act excited to meet you, only to have them suddenly stop talking to you then "stand you up" for your date?
I had a guy do this to me on another site & it devastated me, as I was VERY attracted to him, and not just with his looks, and he made me laugh and he was smart, etc...he had me totally wrapped around his finger. Then, 2 days before our scheduled date, he stopped corresponding. wouldn't let me know, either way, regarding our meeting.
Well, found him again last month and HE asked ME for another chance. Me, being the forgiving, non judgmental lady that I am, said "of course"! He, once again, wood me to no end....told me his biggest mistake the first time was not meeting me. He had to reschedule several times, and I remained patient...all the while, refusing other dates from some great guys, because I wanted to be loyal to him.
Yup....he did the same thing again. Stopped talking to me just a few days before our date.
I was so sad and upset. I guess he never took a moment to think how he'd feel if someone did that to him!
Believe me, it will never happen to me again!
So, 2 questions:
1) Has this happened to anyone else and, if so, how did it effect you?
2) Does anyone have any insight as to why someone would do such a deplorable thing to someone nice, forgiving & loyal?
I will appreciate your comments!!