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May 19, 2014 9:04 AM CST What would you do??
esmeraldas
esmeraldasesmeraldasoslo, Oslo Norway2 Threads 5 Posts
Maybe i put here in wrong treat but anyway iam sure someone will read somehow..
I had a boy friend here more than one year and experienced that he has
Sick mind..alcaholic and lies around..now i learnt he is dating someone
.she is nice..and ofcourse doesnt know he has this serious problem..
I really wasted a lot of time for a sick addicted problem man and broken..

Would you warn that girl even you dont know her?
Isnt it responsibility of being human?or do i need to stay away and
Try to forget howmany hearts can be broken by himm.


What do you yhink?
Thank you..
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May 19, 2014 9:14 AM CST What would you do??
Scott1812
Scott1812Scott1812Claresholm, Alberta Canada26 Threads 11 Polls 1,595 Posts
esmeraldas: Maybe i put here in wrong treat but anyway iam sure someone will read somehow..
I had a boy friend here more than one year and experienced that he has
Sick mind..alcaholic and lies around..now i learnt he is dating someone
.she is nice..and ofcourse doesnt know he has this serious problem..
I really wasted a lot of time for a sick addicted problem man and broken..

Would you warn that girl even you dont know her?
Isnt it responsibility of being human?or do i need to stay away and
Try to forget howmany hearts can be broken by himm.What do you yhink?
Thank you..
Hi esmeraldas as much as you would like to warn her if things go wrong then he`ll blame you but if in your heart you feel you have to for this girl`s safty then yes say something to her just be careful sweety!wave professor bouquet
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May 19, 2014 9:18 AM CST What would you do??
unlaoised
unlaoisedunlaoisedTwilight zone, Wicklow Ireland34 Threads 12,152 Posts
esmeraldas: Maybe i put here in wrong treat but anyway iam sure someone will read somehow..
I had a boy friend here more than one year and experienced that he has
Sick mind..alcaholic and lies around..now i learnt he is dating someone
.she is nice..and ofcourse doesnt know he has this serious problem..
I really wasted a lot of time for a sick addicted problem man and broken..

Would you warn that girl even you dont know her?
Isnt it responsibility of being human?or do i need to stay away and
Try to forget howmany hearts can be broken by himm.What do you yhink?
Thank you..


How do you know that she isn't aware of his problem?
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May 19, 2014 9:27 AM CST What would you do??
Obstinance_Works
Obstinance_WorksObstinance_WorksManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK3 Threads 1 Polls 3,514 Posts
esmeraldas: Maybe i put here in wrong treat but anyway iam sure someone will read somehow..
I had a boy friend here more than one year and experienced that he has
Sick mind..alcaholic and lies around..now i learnt he is dating someone
.she is nice..and ofcourse doesnt know he has this serious problem..
I really wasted a lot of time for a sick addicted problem man and broken..

Would you warn that girl even you dont know her?
Isnt it responsibility of being human?or do i need to stay away and
Try to forget howmany hearts can be broken by himm.What do you yhink?
Thank you..


There's an outside chance that she'll hear you out and take it is sensible advice. However, his new girlfriend would probably(and correctly)observe that you are a girl enthralled to the man she has, which can only fan the flames of her passion.
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May 19, 2014 10:03 AM CST What would you do??
esmeraldas: Maybe i put here in wrong treat but anyway iam sure someone will read somehow..
I had a boy friend here more than one year and experienced that he has
Sick mind..alcaholic and lies around..now i learnt he is dating someone
.she is nice..and ofcourse doesnt know he has this serious problem..
I really wasted a lot of time for a sick addicted problem man and broken..

Would you warn that girl even you dont know her?
Isnt it responsibility of being human?or do i need to stay away and
Try to forget howmany hearts can be broken by himm.What do you yhink?
Thank you..
hi....I would,nt get involed.....she may find out , sooner about him, then you did.....just find someone with out problems.....you owe yourself that much......jmo.
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May 19, 2014 10:17 AM CST What would you do??
Obstinance_Works
Obstinance_WorksObstinance_WorksManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK3 Threads 1 Polls 3,514 Posts
Obstinance_Works: There's an outside chance that she'll hear you out and take it is sensible advice. However, his new girlfriend would probably(and correctly)observe that you are a girl enthralled to the man she has, which can only fan the flames of her passion.


A woman out of love will be as cold as though she'd never known him. Indifference is the opposite to love. She'll see that you care about him(not her)and no matter what words you say what she'll hear is "this is a man that other women want".
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May 19, 2014 10:31 AM CST What would you do??
Obstinance_Works
Obstinance_WorksObstinance_WorksManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK3 Threads 1 Polls 3,514 Posts
The only thing you can do is deal in the way that a savvy Father deals with his Daughter's thug boyfriend. That is to nonchalantly belittle him. Sow the seeds of doubt in her eyes. Don't warn her off, and never tell a girl not to do something. The way to make any girl do what you want is to make what you want subtle and unclear.

But how could you behave nonchalantly and make seemingly casual remarks unless you're close to the girl anyway? You can not.
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May 19, 2014 10:55 AM CST What would you do??
bungallow55
bungallow55bungallow55Lakeland, Florida USA238 Threads 10 Polls 3,837 Posts
esmeraldas: Maybe i put here in wrong treat but anyway iam sure someone will read somehow..
I had a boy friend here more than one year and experienced that he has
Sick mind..alcaholic and lies around..now i learnt he is dating someone
.she is nice..and ofcourse doesnt know he has this serious problem..
I really wasted a lot of time for a sick addicted problem man and broken..

Would you warn that girl even you dont know her?
Isnt it responsibility of being human?or do i need to stay away and
Try to forget howmany hearts can be broken by himm.What do you yhink?
Thank you..


My old man was a heavy beer drinker, stay away from them, they are sick, low esteem, and agressive.
The other girl, well is up to you to let her know, if she has kids,
please tell her.
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May 19, 2014 11:22 AM CST What would you do??
Alexandro10
Alexandro10Alexandro10monceaux, Hauts-de-France France36 Threads 17 Polls 1,180 Posts
esmeraldas: Maybe i put here in wrong treat but anyway iam sure someone will read somehow..
I had a boy friend here more than one year and experienced that he has
Sick mind..alcaholic and lies around..now i learnt he is dating someone
.she is nice..and ofcourse doesnt know he has this serious problem..
I really wasted a lot of time for a sick addicted problem man and broken..

Would you warn that girl even you dont know her?
Isnt it responsibility of being human?or do i need to stay away and
Try to forget howmany hearts can be broken by himm.What do you yhink?
Thank you..


If I were in you , I warn her. Doesn't matter if she gets hurt. At least you saved her from a jerk

handshake
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May 19, 2014 11:41 AM CST What would you do??
Obstinance_Works
Obstinance_WorksObstinance_WorksManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK3 Threads 1 Polls 3,514 Posts
Alexandro10: If I were in you , I warn her. Doesn't matter if she gets hurt. At least you saved her from a jerk


It will not save her!! It will deliver the new girl to him! She(the new girl)will take it as a deliberate attempt to saboutage her relationship. Or, as evidence that their must be something really special about this guy for esmeraldas to still care so much despite of his many, many faults.

You have to be smarter than this when dealing with emotions, particularly women's emotions.
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May 19, 2014 11:51 AM CST What would you do??
rushi999
rushi999rushi999pune, Maharashtra India1 Posts
why tense dear??doh don't look back.U should be happy that u got rid of such a cheater.just think that whatever happened is good for u r better future though it hurts u.And i saw u r profile u look hot and beautiful.u will get better boyfriend than him.best of luck princess.professor
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May 19, 2014 11:55 AM CST What would you do??
Brannigan70
Brannigan70Brannigan70Yellow Brick Road , Manchester, Mayo Ireland35 Threads 2,339 Posts
esmeraldas: Maybe i put here in wrong treat but anyway iam sure someone will read somehow..
I had a boy friend here more than one year and experienced that he has
Sick mind..alcaholic and lies around..now i learnt he is dating someone
.she is nice..and ofcourse doesnt know he has this serious problem..
I really wasted a lot of time for a sick addicted problem man and broken..

Would you warn that girl even you dont know her?
Isnt it responsibility of being human?or do i need to stay away and
Try to forget howmany hearts can be broken by himm.What do you yhink?
Thank you..
It's very often a gesture that goes unthanked by going to warn somebody that their seemingly perfect partner aint all that . Even with the best intentions , more especially when we don't know that person . She's most likely to see you as competition for his affection/attention if of course she hasn't already seen any little tell-tale signs in his behaviour for herself . She can't be blind to it 'forever more' , something's gotta give . She'll either act on it or go into denial and that's not your problem .
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May 19, 2014 12:11 PM CST What would you do??
marij070
marij070marij070Edinburgh, Lothian, Scotland UK3 Threads 146 Posts
esmeraldas: Maybe i put here in wrong treat but anyway iam sure someone will read somehow..
I had a boy friend here more than one year and experienced that he has
Sick mind..alcaholic and lies around..now i learnt he is dating someone
.she is nice..and ofcourse doesnt know he has this serious problem..
I really wasted a lot of time for a sick addicted problem man and broken..

Would you warn that girl even you dont know her?
Isnt it responsibility of being human?or do i need to stay away and
Try to forget howmany hearts can be broken by himm.What do you yhink?
Thank you..



You shouldn't get involved...She´ll find it out when she smells his breath one par of times..drinking.. grin
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May 19, 2014 12:12 PM CST What would you do??
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
Brannigan70: It's very often a gesture that goes unthanked by going to warn somebody that their seemingly perfect partner aint all that . Even with the best intentions , more especially when we don't know that person . She's most likely to see you as competition for his affection/attention if of course she hasn't already seen any little tell-tale signs in his behaviour for herself . She can't be blind to it 'forever more' , something's gotta give . She'll either act on it or go into denial and that's not your problem .
im sure she will find out for herself and I don't think she will appreciate strangers to her telling her this.just my opinion,.
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May 19, 2014 12:27 PM CST What would you do??
RomancingSting
RomancingStingRomancingStingFort Saskatchewan, Alberta Canada5 Threads 562 Posts
peachmelba: im sure she will find out for herself and I don't think she will appreciate strangers to her telling her this.just my opinion,.


Speaking from experience, I made the mistake of getting in the middle of a relationship and listening to my heart because of something similar I just went through. I really thought I was doing the right thing and lost a good friend and golfing buddy because he went into denial and didn't believe me. Almost one year later he found out that I had told him the truth and apologized to me but we were never as close since. Moral of the story is, maybe just let her find out on her own, it will be hard but sometimes there are things better left alone.
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May 19, 2014 12:30 PM CST What would you do??
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
esmeraldas: Maybe i put here in wrong treat but anyway iam sure someone will read somehow..
I had a boy friend here more than one year and experienced that he has
Sick mind..alcaholic and lies around..now i learnt he is dating someone
.she is nice..and ofcourse doesnt know he has this serious problem..
I really wasted a lot of time for a sick addicted problem man and broken..

Would you warn that girl even you dont know her?
Isnt it responsibility of being human?or do i need to stay away and
Try to forget howmany hearts can be broken by himm.What do you yhink?
Thank you..


i would mind my own business unless i was asked for advice.
are you sure your motivation is purely altruistic?
wine
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May 19, 2014 12:41 PM CST What would you do??
musicfreak
musicfreakmusicfreakParadise City, British Columbia Canada20 Threads 1 Polls 670 Posts
I wouldn't get involved. The only time I may is if it was a family member or best friend and that's only if he was suspected of cheating and not so much for other bad behavior. It's not worth starting trouble when it's someone you don't know even though you have good intentions for this person. But also maybe you are doing it to get back at him?

Contrary to some of the BS replies here if someone told me, I wouldn't think that the girl still had feelings for the guy and it wouldn't cause me to have any jealousy. I would simply take note of what she says and see for myself.
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May 19, 2014 12:42 PM CST What would you do??
unlaoised
unlaoisedunlaoisedTwilight zone, Wicklow Ireland34 Threads 12,152 Posts
peachmelba: im sure she will find out for herself and I don't think she will appreciate strangers to her telling her this.just my opinion,.


Agree. He's not your business now, anyway. Good luck handshake
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May 19, 2014 12:50 PM CST What would you do??
unlaoised: Agree. He's not your business now, anyway. Good luck
thumbs up thumbs up Society seems to want to shoot the messenger, doesn't it? (Howzit goin, darls? lips :teddybear):
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May 19, 2014 12:50 PM CST What would you do??
rohaan: Society seems to want to shoot the messenger, doesn't it? (Howzit goin, darls? :teddybear):
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