She enclosed herself with very high walls. (9)
gemstome1958Barrie, Ontario Canada1 Threads 2 PostsI have been chatting with a woman who is dealing with a hasty separation and has put up very high walls. Its hard to be open with someone that can't be open with herself. I'm normally a good listener. But maybe she shouldn't be looking for someone at this time.
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gemstome1958: I have been chatting with a woman who is dealing with a hasty separation and has put up very high walls. Its hard to be open with someone that can't be open with herself. I'm normally a good listener. But maybe she shouldn't be looking for someone at this time.
Well my friend, it is her form of protection. Everyone does it to a point, I did it for years. When I was married, I was keeping up the ice around my heart. No matter what I did, it wasn't really noticed. When I got divorced, I still kept the ice around my heart, in a way I guess it what has kept me alive. Some people my say it is what keeps me alone, to a point yes, until I am ready to trust someone with my heart, my heart will be cased in ice until it is ready to melt. One day, she will come around, and as long as you don't give up on her, she will learn to trust and perhaps let you in. Don't give up..... Life has a way of working out.
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gemstome1958: I have been chatting with a woman who is dealing with a hasty separation and has put up very high walls. Its hard to be open with someone that can't be open with herself. I'm normally a good listener. But maybe she shouldn't be looking for someone at this time.
I bet that ice would melt in this heat!! whew. No...seriously though a lot of those barriers I see. The one challenge I see is by the time you wait around for the walls to fall they are looking at someone else.
best of luck.
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gemstome1958: I have been chatting with a woman who is dealing with a hasty separation and has put up very high walls. Its hard to be open with someone that can't be open with herself. I'm normally a good listener. But maybe she shouldn't be looking for someone at this time.
Don't accommodate her behaviour then.
Just talking about myself, even when I thought I was ready to start again, I needed a bit more time. I saw this myself after a while, took a break and started again when I was ready. More enjoyable for everyone involved.
You can't change anything about the fact if she is ready or not, but it's up to you if you want to hang around and get your head wrecked in the process.
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"""If she/he is to come in someone's life,she/he would,oherwise will pass by."""
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gemstome1958: I have been chatting with a woman who is dealing with a hasty separation and has put up very high walls. Its hard to be open with someone that can't be open with herself. I'm normally a good listener. But maybe she shouldn't be looking for someone at this time.
Very normal if she's been hurt. It's up to you to decide whether you want to stick around and/or break the walls down.
At the end of the day, as yourself if she's worth the effort
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unlaoised: Very normal if she's been hurt. It's up to you to decide whether you want to stick around and/or break the walls down.
At the end of the day, as yourself if she's worth the effort
At the end of the day, as yourself if she's worth the effort
Hi Unlaoised...
I think if the OP just wanted to befriend for a while, and get some trust going, that might be helpful...
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Merriweather: Hi Unlaoised... I think if the OP just wanted to befriend for a while, and get some trust going, that might be helpful...
Agree, Merri.
Hiya
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You're a good listener.
Keep listening.
Keep listening.
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