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Aug 30, 2014 12:44 AM CST Relationship patterns
Nidifugous
NidifugousNidifugousYap, Federated States of Micronesia38 Threads 3 Polls 1,430 Posts
Have you noticed a pattern in your relationship behavior?

Apart from my marriage, all my relationships either ended or went sour at around the 2-3 year mark. I guess that's the point when things get boring. It didn't happen in my marriage because we had a joint goal and a child and were really busy, but with relationships, there is, at least in my mind, not the same level of commitment as in a marriage and so perhaps I don't try too hard. Anyway, I'm curious whether others out there noticed patterns in their past relationships that repeat themselves? Do you also get bored? or what is it that repeats itself?
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Aug 30, 2014 1:24 AM CST Relationship patterns
postneoludite
postneoluditepostneoluditeWest Vancouver, British Columbia Canada39 Threads 22 Polls 890 Posts
Nidifugous: Have you noticed a pattern in your relationship behavior?

Apart from my marriage, all my relationships either ended or went sour at around the 2-3 year mark. I guess that's the point when things get boring. It didn't happen in my marriage because we had a joint goal and a child and were really busy, but with relationships, there is, at least in my mind, not the same level of commitment as in a marriage and so perhaps I don't try too hard. Anyway, I'm curious whether others out there noticed patterns in their past relationships that repeat themselves? Do you also get bored? or what is it that repeats itself?

The 7 year itch does occur, but the time varies from person to person.
It's like a biorhythm that says "I'm done"
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Aug 30, 2014 1:32 AM CST Relationship patterns
Nidifugous
NidifugousNidifugousYap, Federated States of Micronesia38 Threads 3 Polls 1,430 Posts
postneoludite: The 7 year itch does occur, but the time varies from person to person.
It's like a biorhythm that says "I'm done"


I must have a faster than average biorhythm laugh I never noticed a 7 year change. What is supposed to happen at 7 yrs?
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Aug 30, 2014 1:39 AM CST Relationship patterns
chris27292729
chris27292729chris27292729IOS island, South Aegean Greece93 Threads 15,811 Posts
You start feeling ITCHY!!!laugh laugh laugh
Nidifugous: I must have a faster than average biorhythm I never noticed a 7 year change. What is supposed to happen at 7 yrs?
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Aug 30, 2014 1:39 AM CST Relationship patterns
postneoludite
postneoluditepostneoluditeWest Vancouver, British Columbia Canada39 Threads 22 Polls 890 Posts
Nidifugous: I must have a faster than average biorhythm I never noticed a 7 year change. What is supposed to happen at 7 yrs?

The idea behind the 7 year itch is that is when a child is old enough to be on its own (get out the coco puffs, turn on the video game, etc.)
This frees the parents to seek romance elsewhere.
The theory heavily favors the male.
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Aug 30, 2014 2:29 AM CST Relationship patterns
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
postneoludite: The idea behind the 7 year itch is that is when a child is old enough to be on its own (get out the coco puffs, turn on the video game, etc.)
This frees the parents to seek romance elsewhere.
The theory heavily favors the male.


Maybe that is because he has figured out the coco pops also?

laugh laugh
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Aug 30, 2014 3:35 AM CST Relationship patterns
postneoludite
postneoluditepostneoluditeWest Vancouver, British Columbia Canada39 Threads 22 Polls 890 Posts
mollybaby: Maybe that is because he has figured out the coco pops also?

You leave a trail of coco cereal leading into the basement.
The kids follow it, then you lock them down there for the weekend.

Parent of the year or what?
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Aug 30, 2014 3:38 AM CST Relationship patterns
RDM59
RDM59RDM59Edinburgh, Lothian, Scotland UK92 Threads 5 Polls 14,070 Posts
Don't worry about it. With the onslaught of ageing dementia can come to the rescue as repetition is no longer an issue.

P.S. another plus is that it can save you money as you can both watch the same movie over and over again.
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Aug 30, 2014 7:36 AM CST Relationship patterns
Obstinance_Works
Obstinance_WorksObstinance_WorksManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK3 Threads 1 Polls 3,514 Posts
Nidifugous: Have you noticed a pattern in your relationship behavior?

Apart from my marriage, all my relationships either ended or went sour at around the 2-3 year mark. I guess that's the point when things get boring. It didn't happen in my marriage because we had a joint goal and a child and were really busy, but with relationships, there is, at least in my mind, not the same level of commitment as in a marriage and so perhaps I don't try too hard. Anyway, I'm curious whether others out there noticed patterns in their past relationships that repeat themselves? Do you also get bored? or what is it that repeats itself?


The downfall of marriage is one driving factor in serial monogamy. But the overarching psychologies are unwarranted ego and aspiration, disposable attitudes and the dearth of that old-fashioned 'make do and mend' spirit.

My sticking point is the first year mark. Since my first proper girlfriend at aged 16, 3 out of the 4 relationships I've ended either just before or just after a year.
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Aug 30, 2014 8:44 AM CST Relationship patterns
rebel2
rebel2rebel2Alicante, Valencia Spain8 Threads 6,354 Posts
On average I last about a month. After that I run out of excuses so the relationship ends. grin
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Aug 30, 2014 8:53 AM CST Relationship patterns
dunno I have friendships that last 20 years, and at one time or anther they were strong physical relationships.

.... now marriage on the other hand were lucky to last 2 years, I am generally not a big fan of large organized and morally restricted institutions. scold

I am a big fan of love, respect, loyalty, fun, joy, play and delight with another person.

I don't generalize anymore to say that this "relationship" is xy or z, because it might be all or none of it at any given time in life.

I guess because the marriage was when I was eighteen, who at eighteen knows another person? It is just luck and opportunity in finding a mate, when I didn't deliberately go out with a checklist in finding the "right man". And I would suspect that we all have friends in our life that are not really good for us, and naturally I married him.
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Aug 30, 2014 8:54 AM CST Relationship patterns
Merriweather
MerriweatherMerriweatherAdelaide, South Australia Australia51 Threads 11,403 Posts
rebel2: On average I last about a month. After that I run out of excuses so the relationship ends.



laugh


Hi ah Rebel... wave hug


Cor...is that a record.. one month... heck...

Well Done.. !!laugh


doh
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Aug 30, 2014 8:55 AM CST Relationship patterns
rebel2
rebel2rebel2Alicante, Valencia Spain8 Threads 6,354 Posts
Merriweather: Hi ah Rebel... Cor...is that a record.. one month... heck...

Well Done.. !!
I can run fast, very fast! snooty
Your looking very attractive in your photo batting
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Aug 30, 2014 8:58 AM CST Relationship patterns
Merriweather
MerriweatherMerriweatherAdelaide, South Australia Australia51 Threads 11,403 Posts
rebel2: I can run fast, very fast!
Your looking very attractive in your photo



Well thank ye kind sire...

teddybear


Now what's this business about running, very fast..

My area is all hilly, and I don't think you could manage the steep slopes...



grin
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Aug 30, 2014 9:00 AM CST Relationship patterns
rebel2
rebel2rebel2Alicante, Valencia Spain8 Threads 6,354 Posts
Merriweather: Well thank ye kind sire...

Now what's this business about running, very fast..

My area is all hilly, and I don't think you could manage the steep slopes...
Panic can make a person do anything! laugh
Anyway, are you suggesting I am to old and knackered to run up slopes!snooty
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Aug 30, 2014 9:06 AM CST Relationship patterns
Merriweather
MerriweatherMerriweatherAdelaide, South Australia Australia51 Threads 11,403 Posts
rebel2: Panic can make a person do anything!
Anyway, are you suggesting I am to old and knackered to run up slopes!




teddybear

Who moi?? suggesting you are old and knackered... um..

not a chance, unless you want to share something we all don't know.. laugh

Seriously, gorgeous fit and very active is how I'd describe you..


teddybear
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Aug 30, 2014 9:09 AM CST Relationship patterns
rebel2
rebel2rebel2Alicante, Valencia Spain8 Threads 6,354 Posts
Merriweather: Who moi?? suggesting you are old and knackered... um..

not a chance, unless you want to share something we all don't know..

Seriously, gorgeous fit and very active is how I'd describe you..
blushing Your going to get a big Christmas present for that! gift gift gift teddybear
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Aug 30, 2014 9:15 AM CST Relationship patterns
Merriweather
MerriweatherMerriweatherAdelaide, South Australia Australia51 Threads 11,403 Posts
rebel2: Your going to get a big Christmas present for that!




Oh... I love pressie... WOW..

but Jeez, Christmas is a while down the track..

can I open my boxes now please... laugh

I can always wrap them back up and shove them under the tree??


pleeeezzzeeelaugh
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Aug 30, 2014 9:16 AM CST Relationship patterns
rebel2
rebel2rebel2Alicante, Valencia Spain8 Threads 6,354 Posts
Merriweather: Oh... I love pressie... WOW..

but Jeez, Christmas is a while down the track..

can I open my boxes now please...

I can always wrap them back up and shove them under the tree??pleeeezzzeee
Oh okay. You know I cannot resist a pretty lady. wink
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Aug 30, 2014 9:28 AM CST Relationship patterns
Merriweather
MerriweatherMerriweatherAdelaide, South Australia Australia51 Threads 11,403 Posts
rebel2: Oh okay. You know I cannot resist a pretty lady.



shimmy rose wink

Awwwh that's made my night... going to bed happy now...
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