Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men? ( Archived) (159)

Oct 13, 2014 4:55 PM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
RobbieM: I swear on my life there is a pop up on my screen as adverting on this site for, and get this.....

"Meet local Transexuals".Jesus, do they think the men on here have so little chance meeting the 20 women on the site that i might resort to something, that if i was pissed, if i lost my glasses, if i had concussion, if i had my hands tied behind my back would notice was the same gender as me.

The only step lower on the scale for me would be MeetingLunaticFundamentalistChristian Transexuals.com

What's nect, trying to market sheep to us because the Trannies ran out?

Smart marketing move c.s, i'm expecting circus freakshow rejects wearing pink wigs and assless leather chaps. Might improve the forums....
...in truth. I do see your point Robbie...pete.
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Oct 13, 2014 4:57 PM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
In response to: Yes. Why shouldn't a woman take the initiative if she realized that her prospective date is too bashful to say the word.

ok..actually one day I opened a Porn site and by that day some advertisement started display but now everything is ok.
Dont take it serious.
they have rights to market/advertise their product and they know we are all 18+.handshake
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Oct 13, 2014 5:09 PM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
Ocee102
Ocee102Ocee102unknown, Indiana USA6 Threads 1,923 Posts
Yes, I think people being advocates for their own happiness is a good thing.
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Oct 13, 2014 5:10 PM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
RobbieM: I swear on my life there is a pop up on my screen as adverting on this site for, and get this.....

"Meet local Transexuals".Jesus, do they think the men on here have so little chance meeting the 20 women on the site that i might resort to something, that if i was pissed, if i lost my glasses, if i had concussion, if i had my hands tied behind my back would notice was the same gender as me.

The only step lower on the scale for me would be MeetingLunaticFundamentalistChristian Transexuals.com

What's nect, trying to market sheep to us because the Trannies ran out?

Smart marketing move c.s, i'm expecting circus freakshow rejects wearing pink wigs and assless leather chaps. Might improve the forums....



It just happened to me too in this thread. And it took over the whole screen. Two different advertisements that made it difficult to get out of the ad. If that happens again I'll be leaving CS as I don't want that junk on my computer history.
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Oct 13, 2014 5:52 PM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
KNenagh
KNenaghKNenaghAachen, Kilkenny Ireland10 Threads 11,796 Posts
I am not that shy as in I have no problem chatting to other people or giving someone a nice smile. grin

If I wouldn't have ask my first boyfriend (with whom I was together for 6,5 years) what the story is after a couple of month hanging out with friends it would have never happened.

I don't do it these days though, I found that if I would do it, guys see this as an invitation for a shag and not simply as a conversation to get to know the other person. I also like someone self-confident enough to come over and talk to me - and being drunk as a skunk or a being a prat doesn't count. conversing
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Oct 13, 2014 7:01 PM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
RobbieM
RobbieMRobbieMHertford, Hertfordshire, England UK172 Threads 10 Polls 7,931 Posts
KNenagh: I am not that shy as in I have no problem chatting to other people or giving someone a nice smile.

If I wouldn't have ask my first boyfriend (with whom I was together for 6,5 years) what the story is after a couple of month hanging out with friends it would have never happened.

I don't do it these days though, I found that if I would do it, guys see this as an invitation for a shag and not simply as a conversation to get to know the other person. I also like someone self-confident enough to come over and talk to me - and being drunk as a skunk or a being a prat doesn't count.


Yeah drunk people don't exactly inspire confidence in me either. In my mind you must be exceptionally unlucky, as you seem both confident, articulate and are what most men would describe as attractive.

Maybe some men find you intimidating. Lots of women i've known professionally have the same problem. Nearly all the women i worked with at a certain level in publishing told me "I wish there were more men like you who worked here". I was simply well dressed, friendly, not a sleaze and in a relationship with a baby! It appears the men they worked with were trying to be trendy metrosexuals, that the women didn't actually like.

I was actually gutted as a South African lady and i got on really well, and she would have been a far more suitable partner for me than the lady i was living with.

Anyway, wasn't to be, but bash some of those mens heads together over there, and you might find a suitable one soon. Xmas isn't far away.....
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Oct 13, 2014 7:22 PM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
LeeMoe
LeeMoeLeeMoeAmsterdam, Noord-Holland Netherlands4 Threads 3 Polls 57 Posts
Not really!

If a woman asks me out I would... check her out laugh
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Oct 14, 2014 3:20 AM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
KNenagh
KNenaghKNenaghAachen, Kilkenny Ireland10 Threads 11,796 Posts
RobbieM: Yeah drunk people don't exactly inspire confidence in me either. In my mind you must be exceptionally unlucky, as you seem both confident, articulate and are what most men would describe as attractive.

Maybe some men find you intimidating. Lots of women i've known professionally have the same problem. Nearly all the women i worked with at a certain level in publishing told me "I wish there were more men like you who worked here". I was simply well dressed, friendly, not a sleaze and in a relationship with a baby! It appears the men they worked with were trying to be trendy metrosexuals, that the women didn't actually like.

I was actually gutted as a South African lady and i got on really well, and she would have been a far more suitable partner for me than the lady i was living with.

Anyway, wasn't to be, but bash some of those mens heads together over there, and you might find a suitable one soon. Xmas isn't far away.....


Thanks Robbie, wave I do get "chatted up" enough, just in a lot of instances from the "chancers" instead of someone who would be looking for something similar to what I would.

But hey, not complaining, I got ask for a date from one of the great exceptions. banana laugh
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Oct 14, 2014 3:29 AM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
KNenagh: I am not that shy as in I have no problem chatting to other people or giving someone a nice smile.

If I wouldn't have ask my first boyfriend (with whom I was together for 6,5 years) what the story is after a couple of month hanging out with friends it would have never happened.

I don't do it these days though, I found that if I would do it, guys see this as an invitation for a shag and not simply as a conversation to get to know the other person. I also like someone self-confident enough to come over and talk to me - and being drunk as a skunk or a being a prat doesn't count.


thumbs up

I, too, like a man self-assured enough to come over and chat, especially if we have given positive cues to each other.....eg eye contact and smiles.

The same can be said for a dating site. conversing grin
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Oct 14, 2014 7:47 AM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
rebel2
rebel2rebel2Alicante, Valenciana Spain9 Threads 8,585 Posts
If a woman approached me and asked me for a date I would feel flattered and admire her confidence.
However I do appreciate that a woman could be wary of making an approach for the reasons already stated, i.e the man may see it as an invitation for sex.
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Oct 14, 2014 7:57 AM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
rebel2: If a woman approached me and asked me for a date I would feel flattered and admire her confidence.
However I do appreciate that a woman could be wary of making an approach for the reasons already stated, i.e the man may see it as an invitation for sex.
T. Would ya like to come up for a drink? batting
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Oct 14, 2014 8:05 AM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
rebel2
rebel2rebel2Alicante, Valenciana Spain9 Threads 8,585 Posts
Kaybee50: T. Would ya like to come up for a drink?
I could not think of anything more enjoyable wink hug lips
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Oct 14, 2014 8:09 AM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
rebel2: I could not think of anything more enjoyable


I have milk and oreos to offer you. grin
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Oct 14, 2014 8:12 AM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
rebel2
rebel2rebel2Alicante, Valenciana Spain9 Threads 8,585 Posts
Kaybee50: I have milk and oreos to offer you.
That's lovely but being with you would be more than enough. wink
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Oct 14, 2014 8:14 AM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
rebel2: That's lovely but being with you would be more than enough.
purrrrr flirty
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Oct 14, 2014 8:17 AM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
rebel2
rebel2rebel2Alicante, Valenciana Spain9 Threads 8,585 Posts
Kaybee50: purrrrr
wink lips
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Oct 14, 2014 8:22 AM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
bobcyclist
bobcyclistbobcyclistgravesend, Kent, England UK10 Posts
yes I agree, perhaps because I am shy and reserved so do not mind if the woman makes the first move. Okay I still open door for "women first" chilvary but that is being polite.
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Oct 14, 2014 8:23 AM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
bobcyclist
bobcyclistbobcyclistgravesend, Kent, England UK10 Posts
mmm sounds good.
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Oct 17, 2014 7:55 PM CST Is it right for women to ask for a date instead of waiting on some shy men?
zippy2323
zippy2323zippy2323leeds, West Yorkshire, England UK1 Posts
Yes of course its ok im shy so it wood probably help me out if some women ask me out
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