Good question. My husband had money in the bank. I didn't fight for it. I could have gotten a lot because our divorce was based on mental cruelty due to his drinking. I chose to let the money go. All I wanted was our daughter and child support. I got the daughter and one hundred twenty five dollars a month child support which even in 1969 was barely enough. I'm not greedy. I knew I could have gotten more but it wasn't worth it to me to fight for money. Instead I got a job and paid my own way.
secretagent09: Good question. My husband had money in the bank. I didn't fight for it. I could have gotten a lot because our divorce was based on mental cruelty due to his drinking. I chose to let the money go. All I wanted was our daughter and child support. I got the daughter and one hundred twenty five dollars a month child support which even in 1969 was barely enough. I'm not greedy. I knew I could have gotten more but it wasn't worth it to me to fight for money. Instead I got a job and paid my own way.
Hiya M
It's very easy when it's just two people involved but when children are on the scene it's much more complicated.
It's very easy when it's just two people involved but when children are on the scene it's much more complicated.
One day I'll write a book about my experience
Hi UN....It wasn't difficult in our situation because he knew he couldn't take care of our daughter being that he was an alcoholic.
But he sure did want to be with her and I gave him all the visitation that he wanted. The court specified certain times but I didn't think that was fair to him.
I've known women who used the children to get more money out of the husband. Like I said, what the court ordered for him to give to me wasn't adequate but I'm not someone who looks for a fight.
I feel bad for men or women who lose their children through divorce. But the court has to make sure that the child is in the best environment of their welfare.
NidifugousYap, Federated States of Micronesia1,430 posts
Chriztopher: Just split the lot and say your goodbyes. Why are you trying to win(in some kind of battle), or get more?
2 x humans 2 x adults time to move on
here is your half here is my half
Goodbye and good luck!
When there are no kids, no property, no debt, no illness, etc. then that's fine.
The state of california divides everything 50/50. debts and assets. That's why you have so many men and women here who are looking to land a rich partner by any means.
syecomanchester, Greater Manchester, England UK131 posts
Nidifugous: When there are no kids, no property, no debt, no illness, etc. then that's fine.
The state of california divides everything 50/50. debts and assets. That's why you have so many men and women here who are looking to land a rich partner by any means.
don't say thaaaat "I'll not be having that in here this a local shop for local people" (league of gentlemen) for our international friends
Nidifugous: When there are no kids, no property, no debt, no illness, etc. then that's fine.
The state of california divides everything 50/50. debts and assets. That's why you have so many men and women here who are looking to land a rich partner by any means.
I have nothing so half of nothing is less nothing lol :)
Chriztopher: Just split the lot and say your goodbyes. Why are you trying to win(in some kind of battle), or get more?
2 x humans 2 x adults time to move on
here is your half here is my half
Goodbye and good luck!
It's demotivating to know that half of what you have could be stolen away on the flimsiest pretext, before even mentioning the near-certainty of losing the kids. And this would actually be the best case scenario. Wow.
Marriage for love is the only answer. It's the only insurance against divorce theft.
I mean if I married a woman who already had a lot stuff before we met then if we got divorced I would not expect 50% of that from her only 50% of what we created since we got married.
Chriztopher: Just split the lot and say your goodbyes. Why are you trying to win(in some kind of battle), or get more?
2 x humans 2 x adults time to move on
here is your half here is my half
Goodbye and good luck!
It's about time pre-nups should be legally binding in Ireland.
Whatever someone owns before getting married will be kept, everything accumulated after marriage will be split 50/50 and the children should be adequately financially looked after.
KNenagh: It's about time pre-nups should be legally binding in Ireland.
Whatever someone owns before getting married will be kept, everything accumulated after marriage will be split 50/50 and the children should be adequately financially looked after.
Agreed, the problem is that so often the children's costs are not shared by both parties. Sadly
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2 x humans
2 x adults
time to move on
here is your half
here is my half
Goodbye and good luck!