Misunderstood Sarcasm (55)
Nidifugous: I was banned from a thread because the thread owner didn't get my joke/sarcasm and then, to put the icing on the cake, implied in a post I sent him personal mail, which I never did.
This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
Hi Nidi
Well, you COULD write a thread about it?
I find it best just to ignore and move on. He doesn't "get" you, and probably never will.
He is being silly, but doing it this way just plays into his hands. It means his actions had a direct impact on you. They love that.
Ignore, ignore, ignore.
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Nidifugous: I was banned from a thread because the thread owner didn't get my joke/sarcasm and then, to put the icing on the cake, implied in a post I sent him personal mail, which I never did.
This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
They are just a little too "uptight" (like people are in the real world too)
I would write a thread about it...name and shame...but be civil when doing so even though they can be very irritating...dont let them bring you down to their level
Most of these threads can come over worser than they are as tone is lost when using text.
I think for the most part local humor may not work in all areas of the world too.
I have has so many misunderstanding on other forums, than I have had hot dinners... if you cant beat them, join them (was the solution for me, by setting up my own forum...for the medical field I'm in...and it took off like a rocket as nothing was censored, and with that people got better in a medical field all around the world)
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In the real world, at work for example, it is important to clear up misunderstandings ASAP because they can ruin interpersonal relationships.
I think the same holds true for CS. Since you intended no offense, just say so, and nothing says "I'm sorry" quite as sincerely as a public apology.
Write a simple, civil thread as Harry suggests.
Write it in the same CS segment (forum, blog, etc.) in which it happened.
Move on.
I think the same holds true for CS. Since you intended no offense, just say so, and nothing says "I'm sorry" quite as sincerely as a public apology.
Write a simple, civil thread as Harry suggests.
Write it in the same CS segment (forum, blog, etc.) in which it happened.
Move on.
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BerrySmoothie: Hi Nidi
Well, you COULD write a thread about it?
I find it best just to ignore and move on. He doesn't "get" you, and probably never will.
He is being silly, but doing it this way just plays into his hands. It means his actions had a direct impact on you. They love that.
Ignore, ignore, ignore.
Well, you COULD write a thread about it?
I find it best just to ignore and move on. He doesn't "get" you, and probably never will.
He is being silly, but doing it this way just plays into his hands. It means his actions had a direct impact on you. They love that.
Ignore, ignore, ignore.
I had to put that option about the thread in there. I think being banned from a thread is not a big deal, but what gets my goat is that the person took the option away from me to clear up the misunderstanding AND took away the option of calling him on his lie about personal mail. The latter really angers me, but I'll get over it in another 2 minutes I agree with you that people who do that love the rise they get out of making someone else angry and I also agree with you that ignoring is the best choice.
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Harryonline: They are just a little too "uptight" (like people are in the real world too)
I would write a thread about it...name and shame...but be civil when doing so even though they can be very irritating...dont let them bring you down to their level
Most of these threads can come over worser than they are as tone is lost when using text.
I think for the most part local humor may not work in all areas of the world too.
I have has so many misunderstanding on other forums, than I have had hot dinners... if you cant beat them, join them (was the solution for me, by setting up my own forum...for the medical field I'm in...and it took off like a rocket as nothing was censored, and with that people got better in a medical field all around the world)
I would write a thread about it...name and shame...but be civil when doing so even though they can be very irritating...dont let them bring you down to their level
Most of these threads can come over worser than they are as tone is lost when using text.
I think for the most part local humor may not work in all areas of the world too.
I have has so many misunderstanding on other forums, than I have had hot dinners... if you cant beat them, join them (was the solution for me, by setting up my own forum...for the medical field I'm in...and it took off like a rocket as nothing was censored, and with that people got better in a medical field all around the world)
Very good points. The tone doesn't come across and the geographical differences in humor are clearly huge. Usually I try to add an emoticon to a post to indicate that it was a joke but I failed to do so in that case. Still, the guy's a countryman, but in this country, you have very different attitudes (coast to coast, city vs country, etc.) which can amount to differences that are greater than btwn two countries in Europe, for example.
I also agree that setting up one's own forum is really the way to go. Like you, I don't censor. The only way to grow is by allowing different opinions, whether you agree or not.
I find the exchange here on this thread helpful as I'm thinking about changing my involvement in the online community to doing something more productive in my spare time than just random discussion.. like you did in the medical field. Well done, by the way,
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Nidifugous: I was banned from a thread because the thread owner didn't get my joke/sarcasm and then, to put the icing on the cake, implied in a post I sent him personal mail, which I never did.
This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
Same thing has happened to me, and I'm sure, quite a few other members. I am not the kind of person who can never apologize; I've had to more than a few times in my life. However, I am frugal with saying "I'm sorry", and here is the way I see your situation, if you don't mind: You know who you are and what your motives are more than anyone else in the world. If you truly have done nothing wrong, and you know it is the other person's erroneous interpretation, you are not responsible for them being mistaken and you do not owe an apology. When we find ourselves having to explain too much, then something is wrong with the picture in the first place. People who are stable and grounded, and down-to-earth, etc...do not so quickly find fault. Look for those folks, life is too short to quibble with people who are probably always finding fault and negativity in everything, anyway. JMO--To thine own self be true, for that is where the road begins, travels, and ends.This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
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Nidifugous: I was banned from a thread because the thread owner didn't get my joke/sarcasm and then, to put the icing on the cake, implied in a post I sent him personal mail, which I never did.
This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
Misunderstood?
Noooooo.....
That never happens on here... EVER!
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rohaan: Same thing has happened to me, and I'm sure, quite a few other members. I am not the kind of person who can never apologize; I've had to more than a few times in my life. However, I am frugal with saying "I'm sorry", and here is the way I see your situation, if you don't mind: You know who you are and what your motives are more than anyone else in the world. If you truly have done nothing wrong, and you know it is the other person's erroneous interpretation, you are not responsible for them being mistaken and you do not owe an apology. When we find ourselves having to explain too much, then something is wrong with the picture in the first place. People who are stable and grounded, and down-to-earth, etc...do not so quickly find fault. Look for those folks, life is too short to quibble with people who are probably always finding fault and negativity in everything, anyway. JMO--To thine own self be true, for that is where the road begins, travels, and ends.
Wise words. I don't think I was wrong. It was literally a matter where the person very clearly misunderstood what I was saying or took it in the wrong tone or took it serious.. I don't know which. The crux, as I said before, is when the person took away the opportunity for me to explain, but acted in haste with the ban.
I can say "I'm sorry, but you misunderstood my tone" or "my intent", but in each case, I feel I have to add: ".. but if you hadn't banned me and given me an opportunity..." so that makes any apology a bit half-assed, doesn't it.
You are correct by pointing out that having to explain too much indicates that there is something wrong with the big picture. Spot on. I was taught to always backtrack and make sure that my interpretation is what the person actually meant by asking before jumping to conclusions.
Thank you for that input. Well said! esp. the bit about life being too short to quibble.
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70Libra: Misunderstood?
Noooooo.....
That never happens on here... EVER!
Noooooo.....
That never happens on here... EVER!
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Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit.. But, the highest form of intelligence! So don't worry about it..
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Nidifugous: I was banned from a thread because the thread owner didn't get my joke/sarcasm and then, to put the icing on the cake, implied in a post I sent him personal mail, which I never did.
This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
This so strange...indeed
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bungallow55: This so strange...indeed
hi Bung.i hate ..Sarcasm.....and how are you today....????...looking at your pic...you look like a unburied turd......
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Nidifugous: I was banned from a thread because the thread owner didn't get my joke/sarcasm and then, to put the icing on the cake, implied in a post I sent him personal mail, which I never did.
This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?
Why not try and write a letter to president Obama about this. I'm sure he'll understand and help everyone deal with this.
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truheart1941: hi Bung.i hate ..Sarcasm.....and how are you today....????...looking at your pic...you look like a unburied turd......
truheart
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bungallow55: truheart
im an unburied turd...waiting for my funeral
....im an unburied turd...waiting for my funeral
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I wonder, how come i've never being
banned?...You people love me and i love you all
banned?...You people love me and i love you all
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bungallow55: I wonder, how come i've never being
banned?...You people love me and i love you all
..yer, strange that..???...anyhow I don't need your loving....I don't bend that way.....banned?...You people love me and i love you all
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truheart1941: ..yer, strange that..???...anyhow I don't need your loving....I don't bend that way.....
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bungallow55: tru i don't love you/that way/
then your pic doesent do you justice.......because you look queer.... 
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This seems to happen quite often around here because others have written about the problem in the blogs.
What's the best way to deal with such things?
Ignore and move on?
Write a thread about it?
Ban that user from all of your own threads?
Send that person personal mail and try to explain a misunderstanding?
Write about it in a blog?