Question for the ladies. (26)
I do not see anything wrong with keeping your photos, no matter who and how appears on them(if you do not have them framed and all over the house of course). This is your life, throwing the photos away will not change your past.
You will end up without a single photograph(paper memory), getting rid of them with every new girlfriend(boyfriend) of yours...
You will end up without a single photograph(paper memory), getting rid of them with every new girlfriend(boyfriend) of yours...
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I agree that as long as they are not framed and on the wall, or in his wallet that it is fine. It would be controlling behavior to demand your partner ah, part with them..
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The past is the past...pretty simple. Why would anybody want the past in their present?
Why would he/she "refuse" to get rid of the past...just a thought. My thinking is, i don't live in my past...why would i want to live in/with yours.
Why would he/she "refuse" to get rid of the past...just a thought. My thinking is, i don't live in my past...why would i want to live in/with yours.
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Leo_7: Let's say you met a man that you like.You are having a serious relationship(or a marriage) and living together.Everything is fine but your man keeps a big box of photos of himself with his past girlfriends where they hug and kiss .Also photos with his female coworkers in which they look to close to each other.He tells you that all those ladies left in the past and forgotten but he refuses getting rid of those photos,cos he thinks they are part of his (past) life.He tells you that those photos are valuable for him and would never want to get rid of them.And you must accept it and no need to worry about them at all.They are just a photos.
What would you do?
What would you do?
The box of photos are his memories so what right would I have in forcing him to get rid of those.
If he's got photos in his wallet or hanging on a wall, I might suggest tucking them away out of plain sight. The only time I would have trouble with it is if he's still obsessing about someone and can't or won't let go.------ This thread is Archived ------
In the 70's I had a long term relationship with someone. We went on camping trips and other forms of entertainment all the time with my daughter.
I still have all the photos from those years not because of him but because they are of trips that my daughter and I shared. I guess I could go through the albums and throw the ones out of just him but what does it prove. That relationship ended around 1978.
When I die my daughter will go through all the many photo albums I have. She will pick and choose the photos she wants to keep of her and I on various vacations whether he is in them or not.
On another note, when my husband and I started dating in 1958 we were on our way to the movies when he asked me to get something out of his wallet. A picture of a Korean woman fell out of the wallet. I asked him who she is and he said it was his girlfriend when he was in Korea. That "war" ended in 1952. I flew off the handle that he had her picture while dating me. He tore it up in front of me. I didn't ask him to do it.
That was a long time ago. I wouldn't react the same way if something like that happened now.
I still have all the photos from those years not because of him but because they are of trips that my daughter and I shared. I guess I could go through the albums and throw the ones out of just him but what does it prove. That relationship ended around 1978.
When I die my daughter will go through all the many photo albums I have. She will pick and choose the photos she wants to keep of her and I on various vacations whether he is in them or not.
On another note, when my husband and I started dating in 1958 we were on our way to the movies when he asked me to get something out of his wallet. A picture of a Korean woman fell out of the wallet. I asked him who she is and he said it was his girlfriend when he was in Korea. That "war" ended in 1952. I flew off the handle that he had her picture while dating me. He tore it up in front of me. I didn't ask him to do it.
That was a long time ago. I wouldn't react the same way if something like that happened now.
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Well, Leo... why not ask yourself how you would feel or what you would think, if the shoe was on the other foot... and she had all those pictures of her past loves still in a box, and didn't want to get rid of them... Question: how would you feel, or how would you see it?
Just say'n, friend... WWLD (What Would Leo Do)?
Have a great evening ...
~JOHN~
Just say'n, friend... WWLD (What Would Leo Do)?
Have a great evening ...
~JOHN~
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Seems every guy who's been in my life has had a past, funny that 
And so have I, photos are involved too
They are part of my life and his are part of his, no problem
And so have I, photos are involved too
They are part of my life and his are part of his, no problem
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scorpio1943: The past is the past...pretty simple. Why would anybody want the past in their present?
Why would he/she "refuse" to get rid of the past...just a thought. My thinking is, i don't live in my past...why would i want to live in/with yours.
Why would he/she "refuse" to get rid of the past...just a thought. My thinking is, i don't live in my past...why would i want to live in/with yours.
I'm with you, dump the photos if they are indeed in the past. Otherwise the baggage in that relationship must be huge.
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scorpio1943: The past is the past...pretty simple. Why would anybody want the past in their present?
Why would he/she "refuse" to get rid of the past...just a thought. My thinking is, i don't live in my past...why would i want to live in/with yours.
Why would he/she "refuse" to get rid of the past...just a thought. My thinking is, i don't live in my past...why would i want to live in/with yours.
i tend to agree with your sentiments. Why hold on to pics of old girlfriends. if nothing else, you are hurting your womans feelings and right or wrong, that ought to matter a LOT. but are they not exes for a valid reason or is it that a man would regret not being with the ex for some reason.
if there were kids in the pics or other people, that's one thing to be holding on to a pic that will be passed on to either children or good friends when you pass away.
but the bottom line, to me, is not rather or not the general population thinks it is ok, if the woman is worth it, her feelings need to come first. I bet mostly she just wants to understand why you feel the need to have the pics when they are, after all, exes for a reason
one more thought and maybe it is just me, but it would creep me out if my ex was holding on to pics that had only me in it.
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Leo_7: Let's say you met a man that you like.You are having a serious relationship(or a marriage) and living together.Everything is fine but your man keeps a big box of photos of himself with his past girlfriends where they hug and kiss .Also photos with his female coworkers in which they look to close to each other.He tells you that all those ladies left in the past and forgotten but he refuses getting rid of those photos,cos he thinks they are part of his (past) life.He tells you that those photos are valuable for him and would never want to get rid of them.And you must accept it and no need to worry about them at all.They are just a photos.
What would you do?
What would you do?
Seems you may be in a bit of trouble then, especially with a big box..
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TheresMyFriend: Well, Leo... why not ask yourself how you would feel or what you would think, if the shoe was on the other foot... and she had all those pictures of her past loves still in a box, and didn't want to get rid of them... Question: how would you feel, or how would you see it?
Just say'n, friend... WWLD (What Would Leo Do)?
Sound rational to me
Have a great evening ...
~JOHN~
Just say'n, friend... WWLD (What Would Leo Do)?
Sound rational to me
Have a great evening ...
~JOHN~
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Leo_7: Let's say you met a man that you like.You are having a serious relationship(or a marriage) and living together.Everything is fine but your man keeps a big box of photos of himself with his past girlfriends where they hug and kiss .Also photos with his female coworkers in which they look to close to each other.He tells you that all those ladies left in the past and forgotten but he refuses getting rid of those photos,cos he thinks they are part of his (past) life.He tells you that those photos are valuable for him and would never want to get rid of them.And you must accept it and no need to worry about them at all.They are just a photos.
What would you do?
What would you do?
if you are okay with your wife/grilfriend keeping picture of her previous boy friends and husbands next to your face, then who am i really to ask any question?
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In response to: Let's say you met a man that you like.You are having a serious relationship(or a marriage) and living together.Everything is fine but your man keeps a big box of photos of himself with his past girlfriends where they hug and kiss .Also photos with his female coworkers in which they look to close to each other.He tells you that all those ladies left in the past and forgotten but he refuses getting rid of those photos,cos he thinks they are part of his (past) life.He tells you that those photos are valuable for him and would never want to get rid of them.And you must accept it and no need to worry about them at all.They are just a photos.
What would you do?
What would you do?
They're called memories Leo, I have photos of past girlfriends, wives and friends, they're people who have added colour to my life and added to it in some way, some have passed on some are still friends and some I have no interest in meeting again but for a moment in my life they were part of who I became and for that reason I keep them. one day when my kids ask about my life I can pull out all my old photos and bore them to death! But we all have pasts and to throw away those photos doesn't change that. Just because a partner has photos from their past doesn't mean that they're still hung up on them, I think that's what you were getting at.
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Leo_7: Let's say you met a man that you like.You are having a serious relationship(or a marriage) and living together.Everything is fine but your man keeps a big box of photos of himself with his past girlfriends where they hug and kiss .Also photos with his female coworkers in which they look to close to each other.He tells you that all those ladies left in the past and forgotten but he refuses getting rid of those photos,cos he thinks they are part of his (past) life.He tells you that those photos are valuable for him and would never want to get rid of them.And you must accept it and no need to worry about them at all.They are just a photos.
What would you do?
What would you do?
I did that once when I got married, threw away all the pictures of my past. I would never do it again. They should be put in a box, put in the attic and they are part of who you are.
I don't think they should be taken out and flaunted about, but no one should give up their past if it was worth remembering.
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KremaP: I do not see anything wrong with keeping your photos, no matter who and how appears on them(if you do not have them framed and all over the house of course). This is your life, throwing the photos away will not change your past.
You will end up without a single photograph(paper memory), getting rid of them with every new girlfriend(boyfriend) of yours...
great commentYou will end up without a single photograph(paper memory), getting rid of them with every new girlfriend(boyfriend) of yours...
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crazyblondeone: I did that once when I got married, threw away all the pictures of my past. I would never do it again. They should be put in a box, put in the attic and they are part of who you are.
I don't think they should be taken out and flaunted about, but no one should give up their past if it was worth remembering.
I wouldnt forgive my partner if she has done that to me.Now you are more matured and would never do that again.I don't think they should be taken out and flaunted about, but no one should give up their past if it was worth remembering.
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I've got pics of my late husband sitting around my home in frames and so since I've never been a jealous woman I would have no problem if a guy did the same .They are his memories just like mine are mine too.
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online today!online today!pisceslady7Kincumber nr. Gosford, New South Wales Australia21 Threads 4 Polls 1,910 PostsI think photos are important...especially if the person is an ex-partner with whom you have children. I have lived with a man who had children and felt the son should have a photo of his mother in his bedroom.
If I am in a relationship I am IN. If my partner doubts that, then we need to talk!
If I am in a relationship I am IN. If my partner doubts that, then we need to talk!
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I think this very much depends on your age. 20's, 30's it's like red rag to a bull. 40's 50's we're outta school. 60's 70's it's nice to reminisce. 80's 90's who gives a sh+t
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