life as a single parent ( Archived) (35)

Mar 1, 2015 3:54 AM CST life as a single parent
Snookums3
Snookums3Snookums3Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa80 Threads 35 Polls 1,174 Posts
Halv0: Nope, but I did get another wife back, someone who is superior in every way to my first wife. Someone who actually loves me for me, someone who actually cares for me. Someone who would love to be a mother, but can't.

We all face terrible impossible situations in life. Nearly every person walking this earth has faced, is facing, or will face such situations.

The problem in our superficial and detached western world, is that nobody knows about it, or cares. Instead people judge others as if they know, without any knowledge of history, present circumstances, or cultural holds over those being judged.

After raising my daughter for her first 7 years, I've had to endure 5 years of "death by a thousand cuts" of the last shreds of our relationship. The crux of the mother's poisoning came about a month ago when my 12 year old daughter (whom I've only be allowed, by the mother) that I have had do see under supervision that I have had to pay for, pleaded with me to take medication for the said 'illness' just like her mother is taking medication.

She just couldn't take any more of seeing me. She told me that she prayed for me every night, and that if I didn't take the medication, that she couldn't do that any more.

How's that for knife in the guts.....

The really sad thing is that my ex-wife gets away with this without any negative consequence at all in her life.

That is what really sux.


I am glad u have found someone new. Be Happy. Things will work out eventually. Just be patient.
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Mar 4, 2015 9:51 AM CST life as a single parent
Snookums3
Snookums3Snookums3Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa80 Threads 35 Polls 1,174 Posts
In response to: As a single parent u r faced with sometimes impossible situations where another person helping to solve the situation would b realy great. R u that person. Or wish to b that person. R u a father figure with experience. Or have u never had kids to account for before.


I have just encountered a typical male reaction to a single mom. They see a single mom as easy pickings. I haven't had a man in my life for 8 yrs now. and I am not missing one, but no-one will believe that u can live without men.
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Mar 18, 2015 3:09 AM CST life as a single parent
Snookums3
Snookums3Snookums3Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa80 Threads 35 Polls 1,174 Posts
sloboda: I am sorry, I've never felt that nor my child and I don't want to. I think if someone just touches my child with a bad thought not just my child any child ... I think I am capable of cutting him/her (women have gone crazy these days too) to pieces.


I also have a tendency to feel that way.
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Mar 18, 2015 3:24 AM CST life as a single parent
nomoregoodnames
nomoregoodnamesnomoregoodnamesSpringwood, New South Wales Australia1 Threads 137 Posts
Been single since my son was 10, he's now 14.
Perhaps I've been lucky but I don't have any issues bringing him up by myself, he's a fantastic kid and we do ok together.
I suppose I've still got some of the big decisions to come but for now it's all good.
The only downside, if it is one, is not having that much free time to yourself (makes dating a little harder) but that will come as he gets older.
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Mar 18, 2015 4:26 AM CST life as a single parent
Snookums3
Snookums3Snookums3Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa80 Threads 35 Polls 1,174 Posts
nomoregoodnames: Been single since my son was 10, he's now 14.
Perhaps I've been lucky but I don't have any issues bringing him up by myself, he's a fantastic kid and we do ok together.
I suppose I've still got some of the big decisions to come but for now it's all good.
The only downside, if it is one, is not having that much free time to yourself (makes dating a little harder) but that will come as he gets older.


Yes, I haven't been dating much. Have a very good male friend to provide the male aspect. I dedicated myself totally to my kids. I can always find someone later, when they have finished studying, if I still want. I don't think it's a downside, ur kids s/be first. There r plenty of men, but only ur kids.
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Mar 18, 2015 6:24 AM CST life as a single parent
Snookums3
Snookums3Snookums3Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa80 Threads 35 Polls 1,174 Posts
Friskyone: I divorced my ex-husband when my daughter was four and i never re-married. For the first few years after our divorce my ex was an absent parent but he did come around and became an involved, supportive parent. I would never change a thing! Sure there were some rough times but we made it through everything. My daughter is now 24 and is a very successful, happy young lady. I'm so proud of her and I know I must have done something right as well as her dad did too even though we were not physically together, we still were a team and to this day it remains the same.


U were very lucky to have had a supportive ex after a while. I have been single for +22 yrs. My kids come first. They r both students now and I am the only one supporting them and have been. Men will have to wait.
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Mar 18, 2015 7:40 AM CST life as a single parent
Snookums3
Snookums3Snookums3Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa80 Threads 35 Polls 1,174 Posts
niceman786: you all the happy life god bless you all


Thanx
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Mar 18, 2015 7:58 AM CST life as a single parent
Snookums3
Snookums3Snookums3Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa80 Threads 35 Polls 1,174 Posts
Friskyone: Well it sounds like you are doing a great job and even though you may struggle financially just remember there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Keep your chin-up and keep on trucking. You sound like a survivor/soldier and you will land on your feet as always.

I agree, the men can wait. You have priorities and don't need the distractions.


Thanx for the support, a fellow survivor/soldier that has her priorities straight too !!!
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Mar 18, 2015 10:36 AM CST life as a single parent
Snookums3
Snookums3Snookums3Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa80 Threads 35 Polls 1,174 Posts
Friskyone: Thanks girl, we know what we have to do and we get it done, somehow! Hang in there and stay strong!


U r a very nice person !!!
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Mar 18, 2015 11:05 AM CST life as a single parent
Snookums3
Snookums3Snookums3Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa80 Threads 35 Polls 1,174 Posts
Friskyone: Well thanks, so are you.

I just remember those days as a single parent and sole provider for some time. I envy all single mom's/dad's and I try to be encouraging and supportive because sometimes people need a little boost of hope and since I've done my time, I'm living proof that there are happy endings.


I also have my negative moments when u have a big problem and have to find a feasible solution, and everything seems impossible to overcome. Luckily then the positive side always brings back hope and a solution. So happy endings r always hoped for, but r not always there at that moment, but the end result is what u aim for and will be achieved eventually, through hard work and positive thinking.
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Mar 18, 2015 12:14 PM CST life as a single parent
SweetOfMilk
SweetOfMilkSweetOfMilkAttock, FATA Pakistan7 Threads 2 Polls 120 Posts
I don't understand the question are u asking us if we are single parents?


or are u looking for a father for your kids?
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Mar 18, 2015 12:19 PM CST life as a single parent
Snookums3
Snookums3Snookums3Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa80 Threads 35 Polls 1,174 Posts
SweetOfMilk: I don't understand the question are u asking us if we are single parents?or are u looking for a father for your kids?


Neither. This is just a discussion about being a single parent.
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Apr 4, 2015 10:57 AM CST life as a single parent
Ivoryguy
IvoryguyIvoryguyCape Town, Western Cape South Africa1 Threads 139 Posts
My kids were very young when I became a single parent and things were tough but we managed and they have turned into stunningly successful young adults. I still get broody when I see small kids and, if I met a pregnant lady, would do it again in a heartbeat.
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Apr 4, 2015 11:10 AM CST life as a single parent
Snookums3
Snookums3Snookums3Johannesburg, Gauteng South Africa80 Threads 35 Polls 1,174 Posts
Ivoryguy: My kids were very young when I became a single parent and things were tough but we managed and they have turned into stunningly successful young adults. I still get broody when I see small kids and, if I met a pregnant lady, would do it again in a heartbeat.


If u have read the thread u know most about me and my kids. I am not pregnant.
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Jan 21, 2016 1:52 AM CST life as a single parent
Markie77
Markie77Markie77Minneapolis, Minnesota USA4 Posts
Being a single dad is easy. Feed child. Play. Spoil. Spoil. Spoil. Send home to mother amped on dew. Check.
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