What's important to you when picking a mate? (37)
henonpause: OK - to carry on the theme here : IF we all know what suits us, and what does not, why do women still fall for the "bad" guys, or the ones they know won't be good for them in the long run?
Is it the chase or the challenge? Are we arrogant enough to think we are special enough to capture them?
Have we become Hunters ourselves?
Is it the chase or the challenge? Are we arrogant enough to think we are special enough to capture them?
Have we become Hunters ourselves?
Nope, I don't think anyone can change a person, I take someone as they are.
If they have very different ideas, it might be that I like them, but I won't touch them. I won't give up my wants and needs and know that other people won't do so either.
I don't "hunt" nor do I expect to be chased, it has to be like everything a give and take.
sirLarryIII: Im sure there is plenty of men out there who want to put their plug into your socket The question is do you want a handyman to do the job or a fully qualified electrician?
I would prefer someone qualified who knows what he is doing; however, in a drought situation, I guess a handyman would have to do. Or a handy man...
henonpause: OK - to carry on the theme here : IF we all know what suits us, and what does not, why do women still fall for the "bad" guys, or the ones they know won't be good for them in the long run?
Is it the chase or the challenge? Are we arrogant enough to think we are special enough to capture them?
Have we become Hunters ourselves?
Is it the chase or the challenge? Are we arrogant enough to think we are special enough to capture them?
Have we become Hunters ourselves?
I don't go for that type anymore.
I learned a long time ago that they were not good for me, so took a break from dating anyone at all.
Sorted my head, took a more positive approach to life, and then dipped my toe into the dating pool again.
This time I did not go for the same type. I chose people who would enrich my life, not damage it.
henonpause: We are all initially attracted to visual aspects of a potential partner, followed swiftly by a mental and/or physical connection.
If you are looking for a long-term relationship, what - after physical - attributes are important to you?
Do you know yourself well enough to know what will - and what will not - suit?
To me, being able to chat and have a laugh with said mate is vital; without that, there is no physical spark for me. I get along with most people, but I don't spark with all. Being affectionate and tactile is also high up on my list. But most importantly, is the ability to hang out with my mate without the need of additional parties, and still have the best of times.
Discuss
If you are looking for a long-term relationship, what - after physical - attributes are important to you?
Do you know yourself well enough to know what will - and what will not - suit?
To me, being able to chat and have a laugh with said mate is vital; without that, there is no physical spark for me. I get along with most people, but I don't spark with all. Being affectionate and tactile is also high up on my list. But most importantly, is the ability to hang out with my mate without the need of additional parties, and still have the best of times.
Discuss
A few quid in the bank would be a nice bonus.
MADDOG69: A few quid in the bank would be a nice bonus.
From her point of view, or from yours?
I have a few quid.
Very few quid.
Long term partner has to be able to communicate, I don't do mind reading.
Has to be family orientated in that he enjoys spending time with family, the old xmas thing; visiting family; family barbies etc.
Make me laugh and I him.
A partner in every way.
Affectionate.
Be able to jump on a bike and be a kid again.
Love me as much as I love him.
It just has to feel right in and out of the bedroom.
Not perfect just himself and perfect for me and I for him.
loves sex of course lol
Short term or dating a spark and makes me laugh.
Has to be family orientated in that he enjoys spending time with family, the old xmas thing; visiting family; family barbies etc.
Make me laugh and I him.
A partner in every way.
Affectionate.
Be able to jump on a bike and be a kid again.
Love me as much as I love him.
It just has to feel right in and out of the bedroom.
Not perfect just himself and perfect for me and I for him.
loves sex of course lol
Short term or dating a spark and makes me laugh.
Well first of all a spark,,then see. If their is a flame the rest we learn about each other as we go along.
I've stopped making lists.
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Instead I'm just conjuring up my perfect man for me ,,he should be ready by valentines day,
I've stopped making lists.
,Instead I'm just conjuring up my perfect man for me ,,he should be ready by valentines day,
peachmelba: Well first of all a spark,,then see. If their is a flame the rest we learn about each other as we go along.I've stopped making lists.
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Instead I'm just conjuring up my perfect man for me ,,he should be ready by valentines day,
,
Instead I'm just conjuring up my perfect man for me ,,he should be ready by valentines day,
Omg I've just conjured him up as a size 11 into my computer ,,,was meant to be shoe size,
He never fit into his boxers,
I have to start it all over again,,
Don't think he be ready for valentines,
HOW DO YOU PICK,WITH A TOOTHPICK?
henonpause: We are all initially attracted to visual aspects of a potential partner, followed swiftly by a mental and/or physical connection.
If you are looking for a long-term relationship, what - after physical - attributes are important to you?
Do you know yourself well enough to know what will - and what will not - suit?
To me, being able to chat and have a laugh with said mate is vital; without that, there is no physical spark for me. I get along with most people, but I don't spark with all. Being affectionate and tactile is also high up on my list. But most importantly, is the ability to hang out with my mate without the need of additional parties, and still have the best of times.
Discuss
If you are looking for a long-term relationship, what - after physical - attributes are important to you?
Do you know yourself well enough to know what will - and what will not - suit?
To me, being able to chat and have a laugh with said mate is vital; without that, there is no physical spark for me. I get along with most people, but I don't spark with all. Being affectionate and tactile is also high up on my list. But most importantly, is the ability to hang out with my mate without the need of additional parties, and still have the best of times.
Discuss
Spark in the eyes.
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.peachmelba: Spark in the eyes. .
Wonder how James is today.
.peachmelba: Wonder how James is today. .
Who is James
WittyandWise: Who is James
Take three steps back ,,thread 30 ,
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peachmelba: Take three steps back ,,thread 30 , .
Think James is okay he has dozens of lady friends.
.Pick and prick sound ever so similar 
As for heno's question -
Not one to seek crowds, but able to naturally lead one if needed.
Not a specist
Observer with a sharp and quick mind, not easily manipulated.
Walks his path, not the direction most are being herded.
One who cringes when hearing words like Emmerdale and Coronation Street.
One who prefers nature over city environment, forest over ocean.
Imaginative and creative, alive in spirit.
Gamer as else he'd probably wouldn't be too happy that I can spend hours in the company of 10+ guys on TeamSpeak.
Can make fire with sticks
IF I'd be looking, which I am not
but yes, I do know myself very well and the above is just basics needed, it does get more complicated still
'Bad boys' have never interested me. Conjures the image of males who are trying hard to look tough. Just makes me roll my eyes. Self control is one of the toughest things anyone can achieve, so a self controlled male to me is a tough male. Bad boys don't tend to show much control over themselves, at least in my view.
As for heno's question -
Not one to seek crowds, but able to naturally lead one if needed.
Not a specist
Observer with a sharp and quick mind, not easily manipulated.
Walks his path, not the direction most are being herded.
One who cringes when hearing words like Emmerdale and Coronation Street.
One who prefers nature over city environment, forest over ocean.
Imaginative and creative, alive in spirit.
Gamer as else he'd probably wouldn't be too happy that I can spend hours in the company of 10+ guys on TeamSpeak.
Can make fire with sticks
IF I'd be looking, which I am not
but yes, I do know myself very well and the above is just basics needed, it does get more complicated still 'Bad boys' have never interested me. Conjures the image of males who are trying hard to look tough. Just makes me roll my eyes. Self control is one of the toughest things anyone can achieve, so a self controlled male to me is a tough male. Bad boys don't tend to show much control over themselves, at least in my view.
It's the concept known as s*xual Marketplace Value (SMV). To put it simply, men view women as s*xual objects and women view men as success objects.
When a woman is young and attractive, her SMV is high. As she ages, her SMV declines. Think of a piece of fruit. Would you rather have a firm, juicy plum or a wrinkly, dried out prune?
Conversely, a man's SMV tends to increase with age. This is because, his financial success, and his ability to provide security and stability increase as he gets older. In this case, think of a man as a bottle of wine. Would you rather have wine that was bottled last week, or some that has matured for a decade or more?
This is not to say that older women and young men have no value in society, because they certainly do. However, in terms of appealing to the most basic desires of the opposite sex, SMV is an undeniably large factor.
When a woman is young and attractive, her SMV is high. As she ages, her SMV declines. Think of a piece of fruit. Would you rather have a firm, juicy plum or a wrinkly, dried out prune?
Conversely, a man's SMV tends to increase with age. This is because, his financial success, and his ability to provide security and stability increase as he gets older. In this case, think of a man as a bottle of wine. Would you rather have wine that was bottled last week, or some that has matured for a decade or more?
This is not to say that older women and young men have no value in society, because they certainly do. However, in terms of appealing to the most basic desires of the opposite sex, SMV is an undeniably large factor.
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