Move on get over it. (30)

Jan 20, 2015 5:59 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
There comes a time to move on and make a clean start with potencial to find a partner or just simply date if one so chooses,however some people carry their baggage with them or may be bitter from past relationship and this can have a negative impact on any new relationship or simply on a first date ..

I have a friend who will not allow himself to become too emotionally involved because of past hurt.

It's a shame because we cannot let our past dictate our future,

What do you think,?
Jan 20, 2015 6:02 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba: There comes a time to move on and make a clean start with potencial to find a partner or just simply date if one so chooses,however some people carry their baggage with them or may be bitter from past relationship and this can have a negative impact on any new relationship or simply on a first date ..

I have a friend who will not allow himself to become too emotionally involved because of past hurt.

It's a shame because we cannot let our past dictate our future,

What do you think,?
Yes we have to move on with things,,, problem for me and most guys is we take our bags with us ...moping
Jan 20, 2015 6:05 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
michaelright: Yes we have to move on with things,,, problem for me and most guys is we take our bags with us ...





Yes I know Michael and its too much clutter in ya brain.


Spring cleaning on the way,


laugh .
Jan 20, 2015 6:10 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
michaelright: Yes we have to move on with things,,, problem for me and most guys is we take our bags with us ...




Also I think some people leave things on the back burner and then get into their comfort zone of staying as they are single never even committing to dates or anything because they leave it so long and by the time they have moved on they are so stuck in the comfort zone terroritory that they will not step out .

The world is passing by and by that time they just like to go to bingo and have bus pass,


laugh
Jan 20, 2015 6:13 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba: Also I think some people leave things on the back burner and then get into their comfort zone of staying as they are single never even committing to dates or anything because they leave it so long and by the time they have moved on they are so stuck in the comfort zone terroritory that they will not step out .

The world is passing by and by that time they just like to go to bingo and have bus pass,
Not much comfort zone here my feet are blinking freezing and where the hell is everyone???
Jan 20, 2015 6:15 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
There is nothing worse than constantly hearing someone speak about their ex and bring em up in conversation whether its in a good or bad light,

I think it's cool to speak abit about it but not their bloody diary on it on a first date,


Omg ,barf
Jan 20, 2015 6:18 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba: There is nothing worse than constantly hearing someone speak about their ex and bring em up in conversation whether its in a good or bad light,

I think it's cool to speak abit about it but not their bloody diary on it on a first date,Omg ,
They might speak more about it if they have just broken up ....
Jan 20, 2015 6:18 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
michaelright: Not much comfort zone here my feet are blinking freezing and where the hell is everyone???




They have stepped outside their premirrortor on here,


Can't spell the above,

laugh
Jan 20, 2015 6:19 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
michaelright: They might speak more about it if they have just broken up ....





Yes. I'm guilty of that too,


rolling on the floor laughing
Jan 20, 2015 6:20 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
peachmelba: Yes. I'm guilty of that too,






I cooled down after the first three years,

laugh
Jan 20, 2015 6:21 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba: They have stepped outside their premirrortor on here,Can't spell the above,
OH i hate trying to spell words like that , i surely get them wring ..laugh
Jan 20, 2015 6:22 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
michaelright: OH i hate trying to spell words like that , i surely get them wring ..




Can you spell what I was trying to spell.

confused
Jan 20, 2015 6:24 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
Where's the dictionary,


laugh
Jan 20, 2015 6:25 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba: Can you spell what I was trying to spell.
No prob if i check the dictionary but that would be cheating ,,, but you mean on the outside of the fence of coarse ,, well i hope ...
Jan 20, 2015 6:29 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
michaelright: No prob if i check the dictionary but that would be cheating ,,, but you mean on the outside of the fence of coarse ,, well i hope ...




Yes the outside of the fence,

Yep I'm doing that now and ill duck frm the CCTV cameras,

hug .


joy
Jan 20, 2015 6:54 AM CST Move on get over it.
KNenagh
KNenaghKNenaghAachen, Kilkenny Ireland12 Threads 11,160 Posts
peachmelba: There comes a time to move on and make a clean start with potencial to find a partner or just simply date if one so chooses,however some people carry their baggage with them or may be bitter from past relationship and this can have a negative impact on any new relationship or simply on a first date ..

I have a friend who will not allow himself to become too emotionally involved because of past hurt.

It's a shame because we cannot let our past dictate our future,

What do you think,?


Some people don't want to move on or simply don't want anything else than NSA. dunno

It does take time and I think it sometimes only hits when start dating again that it's too soon. I simply don't hang around if there is too much nostalgia or hate going on. conversing
Jan 20, 2015 7:04 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
KNenagh: Some people don't want to move on or simply don't want anything else than NSA.

It does take time and I think it sometimes only hits when start dating again that it's too soon. I simply don't hang around if there is too much nostalgia or hate going on.




Yes I think alot of people go on the rebound at the start. That is what alot of people do but what I think is sad is when a person has been so hurt from past relationship they never allow themselves to become emotionally involved again.

Tis sad because they allowing their past dictate today and their future.

blues
Jan 20, 2015 7:13 AM CST Move on get over it.
KNenagh
KNenaghKNenaghAachen, Kilkenny Ireland12 Threads 11,160 Posts
peachmelba: Yes I think alot of people go on the rebound at the start. That is what alot of people do but what I think is sad is when a person has been so hurt from past relationship they never allow themselves to become emotionally involved again.

Tis sad because they allowing their past dictate today and their future.


I know, but sometimes this "I have been hurt and don't want anything serious" is just BS. dunno

Take your time and grieve, but at some stage people have to move on. conversing
Jan 20, 2015 8:14 AM CST Move on get over it.
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
KNenagh: I know, but sometimes this "I have been hurt and don't want anything serious" is just BS.

Take your time and grieve, but at some stage people have to move on.




I thought you said you would like the possibility of settling down with someone I'm desire you said that before KN,?confused ,

I like to go on a date and just see how we go what will be will be just go with the flow I don't intend to remarry again tho,

laugh ,


Was at my daughters party other night me and ex were able to chat give each other a hug.

Think that's nice .


Yes it takes time for people to move on each to their own whether they are still emotionally stunted to the extent that they still carry the baggage of past relationship .

I know a man after many years of being separated from his wife he can be quite cold emotionally .
Jan 20, 2015 8:24 AM CST Move on get over it.
henonpause
henonpausehenonpauseCork, Ireland50 Threads 2 Polls 1,504 Posts
peachmelba: Yes I think alot of people go on the rebound at the start. That is what alot of people do but what I think is sad is when a person has been so hurt from past relationship they never allow themselves to become emotionally involved again.

Tis sad because they allowing their past dictate today and their future.


That depends, Peachy - there are always two sides to a story. I know folk like this, too, but you have to ask the question :

Were they the betrayer, or the betrayed? Were they dumped because of their own actions within that relationship? They then have to take ownership of their actions, and change.

Some people hide behind their pasts, and use this as an excuse to not commit, or become emotionally involved. Holding their hands up to it does not exonerate them, nor is it a free hall pass to continue being like that.

Sure, no man or woman looking for a relationship is going to take something like that on in the long run, unless they have no self worth themselves.

I don't mind baggage - if it's packed away and in the attic.
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