Sell Out.... (56)

Mar 1, 2015 3:03 PM CST Sell Out....
KNenagh
KNenaghKNenaghAachen, Kilkenny Ireland12 Threads 11,160 Posts
About_Blank: I wrote a load of guff here a minute ago and thought, well, it all sounds a bit "woe is me"....to cut the BS, Freya and Anna, you are both correct at a point....
Sell Out is when compromise feels conscripted...and yes, i have been there....nobody's fault but mine, and the funny thing is, I have repeated the same pattern a couple of times since.....
To paraphrase the song..."the things we do for love"....
Is there a lesson learned at this late hour.....I should co-coa....


In my first relationship - my best friend was male and my boyfriend didn't like it that we kept in touch (never anything going on there). Just to keep the peace, I let the friendship die. It was tough after 6,5 years to create a new circle of people to socialise with as I avoided the old "common" crowd.

I never did this again, I have friends of both genders (and it hadn't been a problem with my ex as he knew my best mate here long before me).

Otherwise no, I always took someone into consideration and never felt conscripted with that.
Mar 1, 2015 3:08 PM CST Sell Out....
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
I bet Putin won't compromise his ideals .


laugh
Mar 1, 2015 3:11 PM CST Sell Out....
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
peachmelba: I bet Putin won't compromise his ideals .




Or people who are staunch or simply respect what they believe in,


When I want to watch corrie or some film I really want to see I would say to my man ,,look I'm watching it so get over it,

No compromise ill watch it.

laugh
Mar 1, 2015 3:15 PM CST Sell Out....
Fraya
FrayaFrayaCork, Ireland1 Threads 3,762 Posts
annaroach: That's it,, sorted so!!


Yes, I think we've all been there.
Mar 1, 2015 3:17 PM CST Sell Out....
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
peachmelba: Or people who are staunch or simply respect what they believe in,When I want to watch corrie or some film I really want to see I would say to my man ,,look I'm watching it so get over it,

No compromise ill watch it.





Actually I like to make all the decisions ,

My ex hubby had to book a suprise holiday for us once because he said I'd take over and plan whete we stay ,,the place ,what we do when we get thete,hahaha,

I've got better tho to compromise a wee bit,

laugh
Mar 1, 2015 3:17 PM CST Sell Out....
Fraya
FrayaFrayaCork, Ireland1 Threads 3,762 Posts
KNenagh: In my first relationship - my best friend was male and my boyfriend didn't like it that we kept in touch (never anything going on there). Just to keep the peace, I let the friendship die. It was tough after 6,5 years to create a new circle of people to socialise with as I avoided the old "common" crowd.

I never did this again, I have friends of both genders (and it hadn't been a problem with my ex as he knew my best mate here long before me).

Otherwise no, I always took someone into consideration and never felt conscripted with that.


There exists the challenge in a healthy relationship
Mar 1, 2015 3:20 PM CST Sell Out....
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
peachmelba: Actually I like to make all the decisions ,

My ex hubby had to book a suprise holiday for us once because he said I'd take over and plan whete we stay ,,the place ,what we do when we get thete,hahaha,

I've got better tho to compromise a wee bit,



Aah no when we get to the destination then I compromise,

I left him in a bar once,they were all talking portgaguise and he was drinking and communicating with them with his hands ,

grin
Mar 1, 2015 3:28 PM CST Sell Out....
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
peachmelba: Yea shoulder to shoulder just like the the rugby song .

Eire ,Eire together standing strong .

Friends forever but wouldn't allow my male friends to sleep in the bed with me and my man,

I don't think he would like it,





Most of my friends are males actually,

Don't have a boyfriend as yet but my make friends will always be that,


thumbs up
Mar 1, 2015 3:32 PM CST Sell Out....
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
My ideal would be to have my male partner as my best friend and if it came to be that he be my lover and best friend ,

Well I wouldn't be asking another man for advice or whatever unless it was in a d I y store or something like that.


wine
Mar 1, 2015 4:39 PM CST Sell Out....
fifitrixibelle
fifitrixibellefifitrixibellegalway, Galway Ireland20 Threads 1 Polls 4,629 Posts
There's a big difference between sell out and compromise. I reckon if you willingly allow others to dictate your dealings with people etc then that's not a healthy relationship. One is the doormat and the other is wearing the hobnail boots ! Most of my friends are male and no new partner will ever dictate that I cease contact with them. And I demand you give up bass just for me AB banana teddybear
Mar 1, 2015 7:01 PM CST Sell Out....
fifitrixibelle: There's a big difference between sell out and compromise. I reckon if you willingly allow others to dictate your dealings with people etc then that's not a healthy relationship. One is the doormat and the other is wearing the hobnail boots ! Most of my friends are male and no new partner will ever dictate that I cease contact with them. And I demand you give up bass just for me AB


but, but, but your one of the good guys!, "if you really loved me you would let me sleep with my basses and eat curry in bed and have cake for afters"...(sob, sob, boo hoo)....thats it, im filing a motion for incompatability....tongue
Mar 2, 2015 12:49 AM CST Sell Out....
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
Countries sell out to governments all the time,

The electorate I'm speaking of.

laugh



Never pacify a person you think your in love with because you think you are,lol,

When they are the takers and never givers but think in the bedroom they excell and that's all that matters,


Just a little tip,

laugh
Mar 2, 2015 12:51 AM CST Sell Out....
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
peachmelba: Countries sell out to governments all the time,

The electorate I'm speaking of.


Never pacify a person you think your in love with because you think you are,lol,

When they are the takers and never givers but think in the bedroom they excell and that's all that matters,Just a little tip,





Mmm maybe that is all that matters ,,whats going on in the bedroom.

hmmm .




conversing
Mar 2, 2015 3:48 AM CST Sell Out....
WildHilda
WildHildaWildHildaLovely Leitrim, Leitrim Ireland3 Threads 2 Polls 84 Posts
We all sell out at some point in a relationship IMO...... we call it compromising, its inherent and something we are all happy enough to do for the person we love at the time .......... when the love goes sour we call it selling out uh oh
Mar 2, 2015 4:57 AM CST Sell Out....
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
I can sell my self short sometimes acting the maget.


doh
Mar 3, 2015 6:36 PM CST Sell Out....
henonpause
henonpausehenonpauseCork, Ireland50 Threads 2 Polls 1,504 Posts
WildHilda: We all sell out at some point in a relationship IMO...... we call it compromising, its inherent and something we are all happy enough to do for the person we love at the time .......... when the love goes sour we call it selling out


I don't know if it could be classified as selling out, but one guy I was involved with for four years turned out very insecure (for a variety of reasons), and as such became ultra sensitive - I found myself watching what I said to not "set him off on one" - that in itself caused a lot of stress for me, not being able to be free.

I don't like being caged. If I'm with someone, I'm with them because I want to be, and choose to be, with them - I kind of expect trust to be a given, but sadly it is not always the case.
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