Men and Women see things differently ( Archived) (75)

Mar 19, 2015 6:10 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
Which gender is more perceptive generally?


Which is a better judge of character?



Personally, I think men are. They are also more black and white. They don't over-think things.


But then sometimes, I would see a female, either online on in real life and think,

' God, if I were a man, I wouldn't touch her with a 10-foot-pole! She would make your life hell with nagging, moaning and negativity"

And then I would see men nearly falling over themselves to attract her!

And that makes me re-evaluate about their good judgement.

Maybe men are only good judges of men? And their other 'brain' often takes over when a woman is the subject?


Thoughts?
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Mar 19, 2015 6:24 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
sweeper
sweepersweepercork, Cork Ireland5 Threads 2 Polls 191 Posts
i think iam a good judge of people in general dont like or never had liked
women that i thought would bring me down whit there negativity even if they looked like a super model maybe my other brain is wired wrong dunno
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Mar 19, 2015 6:29 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
sweeper: i think iam a good judge of people in general dont like or never had liked
women that i thought would bring me down whit there negativity even if they looked like a super model maybe my other brain is wired wrong



Or maybe it's dead, Sweepblues
get it checked out!super

grin
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Mar 19, 2015 6:33 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
sweeper
sweepersweepercork, Cork Ireland5 Threads 2 Polls 191 Posts
rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing maybe i might need a transplant i hear they can do that now
but a new one be like shaking hands whit a stranger lmao
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Mar 19, 2015 7:17 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
According to some posts I would say that women are perceptive generally.grin
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Mar 19, 2015 7:20 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
mollybaby: Which gender is more perceptive generally? Which is a better judge of character?
Personally, I think men are. They are also more black and white. They don't over-think things. But then sometimes, I would see a female, either online on in real life and think,

' God, if I were a man, I wouldn't touch her with a 10-foot-pole! She would make your life hell with nagging, moaning and negativity"

And then I would see men nearly falling over themselves to attract her!

And that makes me re-evaluate about their good judgement.

Maybe men are only good judges of men? And their other 'brain' often takes over when a woman is the subject?Thoughts?
I am wondering if at least some of these gender-specific traits/assumed traits can be like religion. What I mean is, if a girl is reared by a mother (or mother figures) who are delighted in being feminine, home-making, nurturing, - in short, the "50's" ideal, then perhaps they naturally fall into those roles because of the strong impressions. For example, if a woman has a mother who 'pushes' shopping, appointments to beauty parlours, frequently says things like, "don't do that, it isn't DONE", or "If you do/act that way people will look at you funny", etc...The same scenario goes for men and the boys they rear, as well. So, we stunt natural "bends", causing the child to conform because, hey, who wants to be the odd duck, especially at that age? Times are changing, however, and many people are finding their own true self in spite of ritualistic family milieus.
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Mar 19, 2015 7:25 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
rohaan: I am wondering if at least some of these gender-specific traits/assumed traits can be like religion. What I mean is, if a girl is reared by a mother (or mother figures) who are delighted in being feminine, home-making, nurturing, - in short, the "50's" ideal, then perhaps they naturally fall into those roles because of the strong impressions. For example, if a woman has a mother who 'pushes' shopping, appointments to beauty parlours, frequently says things like, "don't do that, it isn't DONE", or "If you do/act that way people will look at you funny", etc...The same scenario goes for men and the boys they rear, as well. So, we stunt natural "bends", causing the child to conform because, hey, who wants to be the odd duck, especially at that age? Times are changing, however, and many people are finding their own true self in spite of ritualistic family milieus.


Hi Ro hug

Thank you for your welcome contribution as alwayscheers

I am too tired now to stay up.

This thread will have to self-monitor for a while grin
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Mar 19, 2015 7:37 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
mollybaby: Hi Ro

Thank you for your welcome contribution as always

I am too tired now to stay up.

This thread will have to self-monitor for a while
Hey--throw a smoke rocket into the dunny and run for cover--that's my Molly!!laugh
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Mar 19, 2015 8:42 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
BB_snickers
BB_snickersBB_snickersNarnia, Ontario Canada56 Threads 3,755 Posts
mollybaby: Which gender is more perceptive generally? Which is a better judge of character?
Personally, I think men are. They are also more black and white. They don't over-think things. But then sometimes, I would see a female, either online on in real life and think,

' God, if I were a man, I wouldn't touch her with a 10-foot-pole! She would make your life hell with nagging, moaning and negativity"

And then I would see men nearly falling over themselves to attract her!

And that makes me re-evaluate about their good judgement.

Maybe men are only good judges of men? And their other 'brain' often takes over when a woman is the subject?Thoughts?


There's a caveat for every situation. This one being the often unseen behavior of people in different circumstances and social settings. Using your scenario, women are quite often different with other women than they are around men and also around a man that they are interested in and or alone with. How much one is or isn't invested in the relationship will also change one's behavior.

Judgement can only be done properly with the facts provided and usually those facts are best supported in a reality, since online behaviors are generally low investment behaviors.

I have a theory about squeaky wheels, assuming the reference you're making. They may often get the grease but eventually they get replaced.

10 foot poles are other brain activity. laugh
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Mar 19, 2015 9:28 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
mollybaby: Which gender is more perceptive generally? Which is a better judge of character?
Personally, I think men are. They are also more black and white. They don't over-think things. But then sometimes, I would see a female, either online on in real life and think,

' God, if I were a man, I wouldn't touch her with a 10-foot-pole! She would make your life hell with nagging, moaning and negativity"

And then I would see men nearly falling over themselves to attract her!

And that makes me re-evaluate about their good judgement.

Maybe men are only good judges of men? And their other 'brain' often takes over when a woman is the subject?Thoughts?



I think it's going to depend on a person's own back ground and experiences. Does the environment sway their demeanor and perception over all?

This could be a little bigger than a simple "male" or female".
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Mar 19, 2015 9:45 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
mollybaby: Which gender is more perceptive generally? Which is a better judge of character?
Personally, I think men are. They are also more black and white. They don't over-think things. But then sometimes, I would see a female, either online on in real life and think,

' God, if I were a man, I wouldn't touch her with a 10-foot-pole! She would make your life hell with nagging, moaning and negativity"

And then I would see men nearly falling over themselves to attract her!

And that makes me re-evaluate about their good judgement.

Maybe men are only good judges of men? And their other 'brain' often takes over when a woman is the subject?Thoughts?


I would have to say women are inherently more perceptive than men are and an excerpt from an article I found puts it into perspective a lot better than I can.

"Overall, women are far more perceptive than men, and this has given rise to what is commonly referred to as 'women's intuition.' Women have an innate ability to pick up and decipher nonverbal signals, as well as having an accurate eye for small details. ...

"Research by psychologists at Harvard University showed how women are far more alert to body language than men. They showed short films, with the sound turned off, of a man and woman communicating, and the participants were asked to decode what was happening by reading the couple's expressions. The research showed that women read the situation accurately 87 percent of the time, while the men scored only 42 percent accuracy. ... Female intuition is particularly evident in women who have raised children. For the first few years, the mother relies almost solely on the nonverbal channel to communicate with the child and this is why women are often more perceptive negotiators than men, because they practice reading signals early. ...

"Magnetic Resonance Imaging brain scans (MRI) clearly show why women have far greater capacity for communicating with and evaluating people than men do. Women have between fourteen and sixteen areas of the brain to evaluate others' behavior versus a man's four to six areas. This explains how a woman can attend a dinner party and rapidly work out the state of the relationships of other couples at the party -- who's had an argument, who likes who, and so on. ..."

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Mar 19, 2015 10:00 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
jono7
jono7jono7Out West, British Columbia Canada3 Threads 8,017 Posts
mollybaby: Which gender is more perceptive generally? Which is a better judge of character?


of course there's exceptions to every generalization...

i liked 2i's post supporting that women are more perceptive. i know i'm very sensitive to body language and how things are said (perhaps the result of being a mom, and also working as a therapist for several years and a teacher for twenty). albeit i'm sure some are dumb as a post...

as for judging character..

here's where i think that black and white stuff helps...grin
i'm a terrible judge of character as i want to believe and think well of folks, even the arseholes, and i find over and over, i have confused the two...laugh
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Mar 19, 2015 10:14 PM CST Men and Women see things differently
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
jono7: of course there's exceptions to every generalization...

i liked 2i's post supporting that women are more perceptive. i know i'm very sensitive to body language and how things are said (perhaps the result of being a mom, and also working as a therapist for several years and a teacher for twenty). albeit i'm sure some are dumb as a post...

as for judging character..

here's where i think that black and white stuff helps...
i'm a terrible judge of character as i want to believe and think well of folks, even the arseholes, and i find over and over, i have confused the two...


Perception (possibly empathic sensitive traits?) can be gifts or a curse depending on perception. Does this make sense? laugh
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Mar 20, 2015 4:08 AM CST Men and Women see things differently
Harryonline
HarryonlineHarryonlineLondon, Greater London, England UK4 Threads 639 Posts
Look it up.

Twice as many women than men are on
Psychotropic Medications
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Mar 20, 2015 5:07 AM CST Men and Women see things differently
BerrySmoothie
BerrySmoothieBerrySmoothieMy Retreat, Auckland New Zealand3 Threads 4,733 Posts
2intrigued: I would have to say women are inherently more perceptive than men are and an excerpt from an article I found puts it into perspective a lot better than I can.

"Overall, women are far more perceptive than men, and this has given rise to what is commonly referred to as 'women's intuition.' Women have an innate ability to pick up and decipher nonverbal signals, as well as having an accurate eye for small details. ...

"Research by psychologists at Harvard University showed how women are far more alert to body language than men. They showed short films, with the sound turned off, of a man and woman communicating, and the participants were asked to decode what was happening by reading the couple's expressions. The research showed that women read the situation accurately 87 percent of the time, while the men scored only 42 percent accuracy. ... Female intuition is particularly evident in women who have raised children. For the first few years, the mother relies almost solely on the nonverbal channel to communicate with the child and this is why women are often more perceptive negotiators than men, because they practice reading signals early. ...

"Magnetic Resonance Imaging brain scans (MRI) clearly show why women have far greater capacity for communicating with and evaluating people than men do. Women have between fourteen and sixteen areas of the brain to evaluate others' behavior versus a man's four to six areas. This explains how a woman can attend a dinner party and rapidly work out the state of the relationships of other couples at the party -- who's had an argument, who likes who, and so on. ..."






thumbs up Good post Deb.

I find women are far more perceptive, generally, in picking up hidden cues in behaviour, and even in the written word.

Sometimes our intuition does get it wrong, but by and large, we are fairly adept at recognising the signals/signs.


wine
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Mar 20, 2015 5:20 AM CST Men and Women see things differently
Obstinance_Works
Obstinance_WorksObstinance_WorksManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK3 Threads 1 Polls 3,514 Posts
Women are the better judge of characters per se, which is not to say they use this skill well. She may be better at picking up on cues but her rationalisation hamster is mightier and fluffier than that of a man, her ability to actively and willfully delude herself is far greater.

She has better sense(social sense), but also a stronger aversion to reality. If those eyes are telling her something she does not like, then those eyes are clearly lying eyes.
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Mar 20, 2015 5:25 AM CST Men and Women see things differently
BerrySmoothie
BerrySmoothieBerrySmoothieMy Retreat, Auckland New Zealand3 Threads 4,733 Posts
Obstinance_Works: Women are the better judge of characters per se, which is not to say they use this skill well. She may be better at picking up on cues but her rationalisation hamster is mightier and fluffier than that of a man, her ability to actively and willfully delude herself is far greater.

She has better sense(social sense), but also a stronger aversion to reality. If those eyes are telling her something she does not like, then those eyes are clearly lying eyes.


I sense something I do not like...scold laugh
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Mar 20, 2015 5:46 AM CST Men and Women see things differently
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
In response to: Which gender is more perceptive generally? Which is a better judge of character?
Personally, I think men are. They are also more black and white. They don't over-think things. But then sometimes, I would see a female, either online on in real life and think,

' God, if I were a man, I wouldn't touch her with a 10-foot-pole! She would make your life hell with nagging, moaning and negativity"

And then I would see men nearly falling over themselves to attract her!

And that makes me re-evaluate about their good judgement.

Maybe men are only good judges of men? And their other 'brain' often takes over when a woman is the subject?Thoughts?




Most women are more intuitive than men,

Sometimes men just think with their eyes,


laugh
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Mar 20, 2015 5:48 AM CST Men and Women see things differently
peachmelba
peachmelbapeachmelbawexford, Wexford Ireland72 Threads 9,779 Posts
peachmelba: Most women are more intuitive than men,

Sometimes men just think with their eyes,






That's why most end up at spec savers,

wow .

laugh
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Mar 20, 2015 6:04 AM CST Men and Women see things differently
Obstinance_Works
Obstinance_WorksObstinance_WorksManchester, Greater Manchester, England UK3 Threads 1 Polls 3,514 Posts
Providing that she's emotionally uninvolved then her best guess about a person or situation is better than the mans.

Girls provide useful insights, not when they themselves care about something as all will become clouded by emotional irrationality, but when she is interested for your sake. There's not a man out there who couldn't take some sound advice from a woman who doesn't care what he's talking about.
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