The Unknown Factor (66)
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chriscmiller29: What makes me shy is the unknown factor. When I write a story, I know the characters I create, I know what one character needs to say in order so the other character reacts the way I want them too. But I can't do that with a real woman. I don't know how she'll react, and that unknown factor a lot of time freaks me out to no end.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
FEAR is the enemy. FEAR is our own paranoia and sense of needing to control not only ourselves, but the reactions and responses of others.
FEAR is a prison that keeps us in bars when the door is wide open for us to venture.
FEAR is the security that stunts our personal growth and experiences of new things.
FEAR is when we have pride. It is the potential that our ego might be dented that stops us from stepping out in self confidence not really worrying about what others might think or how they might react.
FEAR is a self-imposed enemy to our living a full life.
FEAR is the greatest thing that we should endeavour to conquer to be free.
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chriscmiller29: What makes me shy is the unknown factor. When I write a story, I know the characters I create, I know what one character needs to say in order so the other character reacts the way I want them too. But I can't do that with a real woman. I don't know how she'll react, and that unknown factor a lot of time freaks me out to no end.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
Watch the film who is afraid of Virginia wolf.
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chriscmiller29: What makes me shy is the unknown factor. When I write a story, I know the characters I create, I know what one character needs to say in order so the other character reacts the way I want them too. But I can't do that with a real woman. I don't know how she'll react, and that unknown factor a lot of time freaks me out to no end.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
U need to correspond first with women that have empathy and sympathy, else u will always be in this situation u r in now.
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LilBeaver: Try to post in other threads besides the ones you created. Get to know people, let them know you.
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chriscmiller29: What makes me shy is the unknown factor. When I write a story, I know the characters I create, I know what one character needs to say in order so the other character reacts the way I want them too. But I can't do that with a real woman. I don't know how she'll react, and that unknown factor a lot of time freaks me out to no end.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
A college educated eclectic man living in cosmopolitan California shouldn't be having this much trouble socially. I just can't buy your story.To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
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LilBeaver: Try to post in other threads besides the ones you created. Get to know people, let them know you.
also..to OP
have you noticed, there's a category called, 'profile review'..you may have more folks give you feedback there or on a blog.
if you start participating in other folks' threads, folks will get to know you and it won't seem so needy as posting a new 'how am i now' thread so often.
it can feel a bit daunting to jump into the forums...but with patience and a sense of humour, kind of a take what you want and leave the rest attitude...and who knows...maybe you'll find your special match.
good luck.
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chriscmiller29: What makes me shy is the unknown factor. When I write a story, I know the characters I create, I know what one character needs to say in order so the other character reacts the way I want them too. But I can't do that with a real woman. I don't know how she'll react, and that unknown factor a lot of time freaks me out to no end.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
"Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy."
~ Dale Carnegie
"Try a thing you haven’t done three times. Once, to get over the fear of doing it. Twice, to learn how to do it. And a third time to figure out whether you like it or not."
~ Virgil Thomson
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chriscmiller29: What makes me shy is the unknown factor. When I write a story, I know the characters I create, I know what one character needs to say in order so the other character reacts the way I want them too. But I can't do that with a real woman. I don't know how she'll react, and that unknown factor a lot of time freaks me out to no end.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
It's called social skills.
If you didn't acquire them yet, you better start working on getting them pronto.
You got lots of good advice you choose to ignore on threads. You sound self-absorbed and that's not going to get you anywhere with a sociable woman who has choices.
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chriscmiller29: What makes me shy is the unknown factor. When I write a story, I know the characters I create, I know what one character needs to say in order so the other character reacts the way I want them too. But I can't do that with a real woman. I don't know how she'll react, and that unknown factor a lot of time freaks me out to no end.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
say whatever you feel to say.how she will react is not much important.To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
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Not sure what to say really?
To be frank, I think he's honest and as for "eyes" I'd prefer honesty but then again if you look at 2intrigued eyes you'd run a mile.
Scary but true.
Give him a break man, we cant all look as good as you.
To be frank, I think he's honest and as for "eyes" I'd prefer honesty but then again if you look at 2intrigued eyes you'd run a mile.
Scary but true.
Give him a break man, we cant all look as good as you.
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mrweb: Not sure what to say really?
To be frank, I think he's honest and as for "eyes" I'd prefer honesty but then again if you look at 2intrigued eyes you'd run a mile.
Scary but true.
Give him a break man, we cant all look as good as you.
To be frank, I think he's honest and as for "eyes" I'd prefer honesty but then again if you look at 2intrigued eyes you'd run a mile.
Scary but true.
Give him a break man, we cant all look as good as you.
Who are you talking to?
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KNenagh: It's called social skills.
If you didn't acquire them yet, you better start working on getting them pronto.
You got lots of good advice you choose to ignore on threads. You sound self-absorbed and that's not going to get you anywhere with a sociable woman who has choices.
If you didn't acquire them yet, you better start working on getting them pronto.
You got lots of good advice you choose to ignore on threads. You sound self-absorbed and that's not going to get you anywhere with a sociable woman who has choices.
I must say, KNenagh, you have a fan over here !!! Second time I read a reply of yours and second time I totally agree !!! Hear hear !!! :-)
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Obstinance_Works: If you must you can resort to canned questions and statements.
You could ask a girl if she'd leave a man she loved because she found out he was broke.
Ask her if she thinks guy or girls can keep secrets longer.
Ask her which person, living or dead, she'd most like to have a meal with
Ask her how she would react if her boyfriend gave her an ultimatum
Ask any question with the word "gay" in it that isn't openly offense towards gays, such as asking if girls or gays have better fashion sense. Anything with the word gay in it will pique her interest.
And anchor what you say. Don't just ask how she'd react to her boyfriend's ultimatum because that's creeper, relate it your own experience by saying that your friend is going through a similar thing with his/her gf/by etc etc...
Women like to give off this air that they are interesting, mysterious and unique but it's all a scaffolding without a building, there's little substance behind this air they give off. And to suss out 5 women and you've more or less sussed them all. Women really are not a challenge once you stop believing that they are.
You could ask a girl if she'd leave a man she loved because she found out he was broke.
Ask her if she thinks guy or girls can keep secrets longer.
Ask her which person, living or dead, she'd most like to have a meal with
Ask her how she would react if her boyfriend gave her an ultimatum
Ask any question with the word "gay" in it that isn't openly offense towards gays, such as asking if girls or gays have better fashion sense. Anything with the word gay in it will pique her interest.
And anchor what you say. Don't just ask how she'd react to her boyfriend's ultimatum because that's creeper, relate it your own experience by saying that your friend is going through a similar thing with his/her gf/by etc etc...
Women like to give off this air that they are interesting, mysterious and unique but it's all a scaffolding without a building, there's little substance behind this air they give off. And to suss out 5 women and you've more or less sussed them all. Women really are not a challenge once you stop believing that they are.
Seriously ??? One answer -> LOL :-D
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I agree with KN as well.
People have given a lot of good and practical advice. Take it. Alternatively, try therapy. Under the Obama plan, the insurance should cover it if it is so bad that it's crippling your social life.
Here's another word of advice: stay away from the "models" and "actresses". Waste of time.
People have given a lot of good and practical advice. Take it. Alternatively, try therapy. Under the Obama plan, the insurance should cover it if it is so bad that it's crippling your social life.
Here's another word of advice: stay away from the "models" and "actresses". Waste of time.
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Obstinance_Works: If you must you can resort to canned questions and statements.
You could ask a girl if she'd leave a man she loved because she found out he was broke.
Ask her if she thinks guy or girls can keep secrets longer.
Ask her which person, living or dead, she'd most like to have a meal with
Ask her how she would react if her boyfriend gave her an ultimatum
Ask any question with the word "gay" in it that isn't openly offense towards gays, such as asking if girls or gays have better fashion sense. Anything with the word gay in it will pique her interest.
And anchor what you say. Don't just ask how she'd react to her boyfriend's ultimatum because that's creeper, relate it your own experience by saying that your friend is going through a similar thing with his/her gf/by etc etc...
You could ask a girl if she'd leave a man she loved because she found out he was broke.
Ask her if she thinks guy or girls can keep secrets longer.
Ask her which person, living or dead, she'd most like to have a meal with
Ask her how she would react if her boyfriend gave her an ultimatum
Ask any question with the word "gay" in it that isn't openly offense towards gays, such as asking if girls or gays have better fashion sense. Anything with the word gay in it will pique her interest.
And anchor what you say. Don't just ask how she'd react to her boyfriend's ultimatum because that's creeper, relate it your own experience by saying that your friend is going through a similar thing with his/her gf/by etc etc...
Using any of those will help you out in a pinch. Remember them.
But get out there and fail, Chris, that was the first thing I said to you. If you're a total loser now then you and your ego must be smashed into smithereens before being re-constituted into something stronger. Turning nerds into men is not wholly unlike training idiots into being soldiers. Boot camp is the scariest bit but you have to face this fear. It is darkest before dawn.
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mrweb: Not sure what to say really?
To be frank, I think he's honest and as for "eyes" I'd prefer honesty but then again if you look at 2intrigued eyes you'd run a mile.
Scary but true.
Give him a break man, we cant all look as good as you.
To be frank, I think he's honest and as for "eyes" I'd prefer honesty but then again if you look at 2intrigued eyes you'd run a mile.
Scary but true.
Give him a break man, we cant all look as good as you.
Your insult speaks volumes about your character but thank you, I've never been insulted by a guitar before.
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chriscmiller29: What makes me shy is the unknown factor. When I write a story, I know the characters I create, I know what one character needs to say in order so the other character reacts the way I want them too. But I can't do that with a real woman. I don't know how she'll react, and that unknown factor a lot of time freaks me out to no end.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.
If you say the wrong thing, you might end up alone.
If you say nothing, you will probably end up alone.
If you say the right thing, you may not end up alone.
If you say your thing, someone might like you.
When faced with an opportunity to speak, and the shyness overcomes you. Considering taking a moment to think about what it would be like, for that interaction to go perfectly, for that woman to decide in that moment, you're perfect and there's not another man like you in the world. Imagine her looking at you that way, smile, make eye contact and speak to her.
If she doesn't like you, smile, make eye contact and speak to
the next woman you'd like to look at you that way.
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To quote Debby Ryan, "I'm so afraid of saying the wrong thing... I just say nothing at all."
I'm fighting to change but that unknown factor scares me. I'm afraid of it, more than I'm afraid of anything else in this world... Afraid.