What is Love (51)

Apr 1, 2015 10:32 AM CST What is Love
Love is....

Love doesn't seek to hurt and seek revenge.....love seeks to renew and restore.
Love doesn't seek to justify or punish......love seeks forgiveness and to forgive.
Love doesn't seek to be liked or loved by others.....love seeks to like, understand and love others.
Love doesn't seek to deny.....love seeks to give.
Love doesn't seek to mock or make fun of others weaknesses....love seeks to protect and defend the weak.
Love doesn't seek lie, gossip, or destroy.....love seeks truth and builds upon truth.
Love doesn't seek to be pleased....love seeks to please.
Love doesn't seek excuses.....love seeks solutions.

What else is love.....what are the characteristics of love to you. I'm sure there's more than what I've listedhug
Apr 2, 2015 7:36 AM CST What is Love
vodla3
vodla3vodla3Rockhampton, Queensland Australia282 Posts
...Well,what's a stick,everyone knows,what's LOVE,no one has given full definition.However,love's a fear,for losing something u already have n also I could say.Love's;EGOISM in TWO !
Apr 2, 2015 7:38 AM CST What is Love
uh oh laugh
Apr 2, 2015 9:19 AM CST What is Love
vodla3: ...Well,what's a stick,everyone knows,what's LOVE,no one has given full definition.However,love's a fear,for losing something u already have n also I could say.Love's;EGOISM in TWO !


Hmmmm...confused Never thought about love being a fear of loosing something.

Egoism being a healthy form of self love is good because if you don't like yourself, no one else will. You've got to be careful to be careful with self motivation To please yourself though....in worrying only about yourself...you'll loose the desire to be pleasing to someone you want in your life. Nothing worse than constantly having to please someone and they have no desire to be leasing to you hug
Apr 2, 2015 7:39 PM CST What is Love
Halv0
Halv0Halv0Marcoola, Queensland Australia19 Threads 766 Posts
PrOwLeR__: To me, love is as love does ... I am suspicious of people whom say they love me and insist they want nothing from me .. I have trust issues, fact is, I don't trust people ...

Even the lady I am seeing now, I do not trust her totally with my person, so I am guarded, and yet I have known this lady most of my life ..

I don't know what real love is any more, in fact I don't think I have ever really known love, full stop.

If your lucky enough to find it, live it and be happy in it, then you have something so many others crave ... as for me, I doubt I have the capacity to allow myself to be loved any more, because of doubt ..

Too many broken dreams and carcasses of past relationships, lay on the side of my path for me to ever turn around and go back to a time where I actually believed, real love, existed ....I am content in my life, happy with the way things are, so for me, I guess I have found my piece of ground ....


I understand exactly what you are saying, PrOwLeR.

I actually posted about this in the international forums, and was amazed to see how some twisted it and warped it to justify their destructive behaviours and thinking towards others.

Maybe what you have now is love? I mean it is not hate? It is not ambivalence? It is not just convenience? It is not just a 'one night stand'?

In my post in the international forums, I expressed about that guardedness that comes from heart breakages over time, and lamented how this affects me even today in my current (and hopefully lasting the remainder of my life) relationship.

While we all have certain 'trust' issues, I believe that this does not exclude us from giving, sharing and receiving love from another.

I have come to realise that love can exist without 100% trust. In this I mean that love and trust sometimes co-exist in the same relationship but not always equally.

I have observed a relationship where there was 100% trust, but no love.

Does this then mean we do not give and receive love when there is trust issues? Or that our other does not love us, if there are trust issues?

My personal experience is that this is not the case.

So maybe love is there in your present relationship, even if there are trust issues?

And maybe our past has hidden what love really is given us and given out by us through the dark clouds of remembrance of past heart breakages?

I suppose this brings us back to the OP thread, defining "what is love". Maybe it is something different to each of us, and as such, when we try to find an all encompassing definition, we lose sight of that which is right before us now?

Maybe in our seeking for love according to an unrealistic definition, we don't see what is real and right before us. The love that we now have from others and that we now give, that is different to another's definition, expression, and perception of love?

JMO.
Apr 2, 2015 8:18 PM CST What is Love
AgentAjax
AgentAjaxAgentAjaxBrisbane, Queensland Australia81 Threads 1 Polls 3,965 Posts
Theresa4tgl: Love is....

Love doesn't seek to hurt and seek revenge.....love seeks to renew and restore.
Love doesn't seek to justify or punish......love seeks forgiveness and to forgive.
Love doesn't seek to be liked or loved by others.....love seeks to like, understand and love others.
Love doesn't seek to deny.....love seeks to give.
Love doesn't seek to mock or make fun of others weaknesses....love seeks to protect and defend the weak.
Love doesn't seek lie, gossip, or destroy.....love seeks truth and builds upon truth.
Love doesn't seek to be pleased....love seeks to please.
Love doesn't seek excuses.....love seeks solutions.

What else is love.....what are the characteristics of love to you. I'm sure there's more than what I've listed
there is no way you would know what love is until you experienced loving megrin
Apr 2, 2015 8:23 PM CST What is Love
nomoregoodnames
nomoregoodnamesnomoregoodnamesSpringwood, New South Wales Australia1 Threads 137 Posts
Ohhh, she turns up, he turns up...

Coincidence?

:)
Apr 2, 2015 8:32 PM CST What is Love
AgentAjax
AgentAjaxAgentAjaxBrisbane, Queensland Australia81 Threads 1 Polls 3,965 Posts
nomoregoodnames: Ohhh, she turns up, he turns up...

Coincidence?

:)
I logged on this morning specifically to wish you a happy easter and this is the reception I get?crying
Apr 2, 2015 8:43 PM CST What is Love
nomoregoodnames
nomoregoodnamesnomoregoodnamesSpringwood, New South Wales Australia1 Threads 137 Posts
AgentAjax: I logged on this morning specifically to wish you a happy easter and this is the reception I get?


And a very happy easter to you, if you believe in all that. :)
Apr 2, 2015 8:46 PM CST What is Love
AgentAjax
AgentAjaxAgentAjaxBrisbane, Queensland Australia81 Threads 1 Polls 3,965 Posts
nomoregoodnames: And a very happy easter to you, if you believe in all that. :)
scouts honorgrin
Apr 2, 2015 8:48 PM CST What is Love
nomoregoodnames
nomoregoodnamesnomoregoodnamesSpringwood, New South Wales Australia1 Threads 137 Posts
AgentAjax: scouts honor


Look at you spelling all american to impress.
Apr 2, 2015 8:54 PM CST What is Love
AgentAjax
AgentAjaxAgentAjaxBrisbane, Queensland Australia81 Threads 1 Polls 3,965 Posts
nomoregoodnames: Look at you spelling all american to impress.
laugh you are funny honey laugh
Apr 2, 2015 9:32 PM CST What is Love
comfort nawww! Prowler.....when my daughter was little I told her the story about Lots wife. How The Lord sent messengers to him and told him to leave for their safety and to NOT look back. And how his wife looked back and was turned into a pillar of salt. I used it as a metaphors telling her...never look back in your life and regret any of it...some of your life was some of your life was real tough and you had to grow up real quick and some of your life was real good, you were always clothed, fed, and all extra monies went on you and I adored and loved you and we have a beautiful relationship. But if you look back mourning the bad parts...land not having the good parts you ha de, you'll be me bitter and untrusting. I dedicated a song to her...I hope you Dance by Lee Ann Womack. You need to let that pain go...and let love in. A just Dance dude to only the beautiful things in life. Don't waist you're precious diamond seconds or hers by not feeling love and being love. Your allowing your joy t be stolen and giving free rent to the past, not able to enjoy the present, and recreate a beautiful future dude. There's nothing worse for a person than spending time with a person that wants to hold on to the past instead of you and not paying attention to your daily actions of love. If you've know her all those years and she's always been as a rule...and honest and giving and loving person, she's probably not going to change. teddybear

I've never understood how anyone can lay in bed with someone they don't or can't trust. That's a VERY vulnerable moment that's shared...chuckling....with someone you don't trust.

Man wishes that very soon you will put the past in the past...so you can and will ask up the present...and renew your heart with love so you will give and receive it.hug bouquet
Apr 2, 2015 11:54 PM CST What is Love
PrOwLeR__
PrOwLeR__PrOwLeR__Mermaid Beach, Queensland Australia7 Threads 130 Posts
Halv0: I understand exactly what you are saying, PrOwLeR.

I actually posted about this in the international forums, and was amazed to see how some twisted it and warped it to justify their destructive behaviours and thinking towards others.

Maybe what you have now is love? I mean it is not hate? It is not ambivalence? It is not just convenience? It is not just a 'one night stand'?

In my post in the international forums, I expressed about that guardedness that comes from heart breakages over time, and lamented how this affects me even today in my current (and hopefully lasting the remainder of my life) relationship.

While we all have certain 'trust' issues, I believe that this does not exclude us from giving, sharing and receiving love from another.

I have come to realise that love can exist without 100% trust. In this I mean that love and trust sometimes co-exist in the same relationship but not always equally.

I have observed a relationship where there was 100% trust, but no love.

Does this then mean we do not give and receive love when there is trust issues? Or that our other does not love us, if there are trust issues?

My personal experience is that this is not the case.

So maybe love is there in your present relationship, even if there are trust issues?

And maybe our past has hidden what love really is given us and given out by us through the dark clouds of remembrance of past heart breakages?

I suppose this brings us back to the OP thread, defining "what is love". Maybe it is something different to each of us, and as such, when we try to find an all encompassing definition, we lose sight of that which is right before us now?

Maybe in our seeking for love according to an unrealistic definition, we don't see what is real and right before us. The love that we now have from others and that we now give, that is different to another's definition, expression, and perception of love?

JMO.




Have you ever heard of the eXpression 'Twin Souls' Halvo ..

It is where a Soul started as one, but split into two, one being female and the other male .. that are now two totally separate Souls that each have their own paths, journey's and lessons to learn ...

Once these lessons are learnt by both, they can coexist as a couple here on earth, and if you so believe, have no need to have to come back to earth after death, as these Souls have completed each their journeys.

I was 21 when I met this chick and she was just 17, and from that very first moment a life long friendship was born ... It is said if you can raise your hand and count just one true friend as you lie in your death bed, then you have had a blessed life ... Well I guess I am blessed when it comes to her ...

We have drifted in and out of each others lives for all these years, one of us always just turning up when the other needed a friend ...

I don't distrust her, and hey yeah I surely do love her, always have to be truthful, so I have no doubts here, and I know she would die to protect me, so again no doubting here ...

My cross is I don't trust people, I say I do and I try too, but people have always let me down in one way or another .. Hence me guarding myself and being prepared for the day that she may go ... because life has shown me, no matter what you do or how hard you try, for some people these efforts are not enough ...

I am at the point in my life that with or without someone, I always have me ... I can always rely on me, I guess this is what makes me wonder why I have been alone for so long, because I am someone who can be relied on ...

anyway enough of this from me, have a HaPPy .. HaPPy safe Easter ... drinking
Apr 2, 2015 11:58 PM CST What is Love
PrOwLeR__
PrOwLeR__PrOwLeR__Mermaid Beach, Queensland Australia7 Threads 130 Posts
Theresa4tgl: nawww! Prowler.....when my daughter was little I told her the story about Lots wife. How The Lord sent messengers to him and told him to leave for their safety and to NOT look back. And how his wife looked back and was turned into a pillar of salt. I used it as a metaphors telling her...never look back in your life and regret any of it...some of your life was some of your life was real tough and you had to grow up real quick and some of your life was real good, you were always clothed, fed, and all extra monies went on you and I adored and loved you and we have a beautiful relationship. But if you look back mourning the bad parts...land not having the good parts you ha de, you'll be me bitter and untrusting. I dedicated a song to her...I hope you Dance by Lee Ann Womack. You need to let that pain go...and let love in. A just Dance dude to only the beautiful things in life. Don't waist you're precious diamond seconds or hers by not feeling love and being love. Your allowing your joy t be stolen and giving free rent to the past, not able to enjoy the present, and recreate a beautiful future dude. There's nothing worse for a person than spending time with a person that wants to hold on to the past instead of you and not paying attention to your daily actions of love. If you've know her all those years and she's always been as a rule...and honest and giving and loving person, she's probably not going to change.

I've never understood how anyone can lay in bed with someone they don't or can't trust. That's a VERY vulnerable moment that's shared...chuckling....with someone you don't trust.

Man wishes that very soon you will put the past in the past...so you can and will ask up the present...and renew your heart with love so you will give and receive it.




I don't hold onto the past, though I am more than aware of what the past has taught me ... Truth is there is no santa, tooth fairy nor even an Easter bunny ... things are what they and for all the reasons, is why I think and believe what I do now ...


and hey I can do more than lay in bed with a chick I don't trust, though I think this content is better posted in another thread ... rolling on the floor laughing


have yourself a lovely Easter ... drinking
Apr 3, 2015 1:14 AM CST What is Love
AgentAjax
AgentAjaxAgentAjaxBrisbane, Queensland Australia81 Threads 1 Polls 3,965 Posts
What's going on I always thought easter bunnies layed coloured eggs?confused is this a lie to and all these years I've been praying to the wrong bunny? Please someone tell me this is not true.crying
Apr 3, 2015 2:04 AM CST What is Love
Halv0
Halv0Halv0Marcoola, Queensland Australia19 Threads 766 Posts
Lookin4missright: Was sounding good until the naked part i'm having lunch


Ha ha! rolling on the floor laughing Well at least my description of love has invoked some reaction!

Hope it didn't put you off, or maybe just a bit more beer would settle the food anyway. wink
Apr 3, 2015 6:46 AM CST What is Love
PrOwLeR__: Have you ever heard of the eXpression 'Twin Souls' Halvo ..

It is where a Soul started as one, but split into two, one being female and the other male .. that are now two totally separate Souls that each have their own paths, journey's and lessons to learn ...

Once these lessons are learnt by both, they can coexist as a couple here on earth, and if you so believe, have no need to have to come back to earth after death, as these Souls have completed each their journeys.

I was 21 when I met this chick and she was just 17, and from that very first moment a life long friendship was born ... It is said if you can raise your hand and count just one true friend as you lie in your death bed, then you have had a blessed life ... Well I guess I am blessed when it comes to her ...

We have drifted in and out of each others lives for all these years, one of us always just turning up when the other needed a friend ...

I don't distrust her, and hey yeah I surely do love her, always have to be truthful, so I have no doubts here, and I know she would die to protect me, so again no doubting here ...

My cross is I don't trust people, I say I do and I try too, but people have always let me down in one way or another .. Hence me guarding myself and being prepared for the day that she may go ... because life has shown me, no matter what you do or how hard you try, for some people these efforts are not enough ...

I am at the point in my life that with or without someone, I always have me ... I can always rely on me, I guess this is what makes me wonder why I have been alone for so long, because I am someone who can be relied on ...

anyway enough of this from me, have a HaPPy .. HaPPy safe Easter ...


Pretty cool concept actually! Knnd of like hoping for the best but be prepared for the worst handshake
Apr 3, 2015 1:47 PM CST What is Love
Lookin4missright
Lookin4missrightLookin4missrightmelbourne, Victoria Australia400 Threads 24,032 Posts
PrOwLeR__: Have you ever heard of the eXpression 'Twin Souls' Halvo ..

It is where a Soul started as one, but split into two, one being female and the other male .. that are now two totally separate Souls that each have their own paths, journey's and lessons to learn ...

Once these lessons are learnt by both, they can coexist as a couple here on earth, and if you so believe, have no need to have to come back to earth after death, as these Souls have completed each their journeys.

I was 21 when I met this chick and she was just 17, and from that very first moment a life long friendship was born ... It is said if you can raise your hand and count just one true friend as you lie in your death bed, then you have had a blessed life ... Well I guess I am blessed when it comes to her ...

We have drifted in and out of each others lives for all these years, one of us always just turning up when the other needed a friend ...

I don't distrust her, and hey yeah I surely do love her, always have to be truthful, so I have no doubts here, and I know she would die to protect me, so again no doubting here ...

My cross is I don't trust people, I say I do and I try too, but people have always let me down in one way or another .. Hence me guarding myself and being prepared for the day that she may go ... because life has shown me, no matter what you do or how hard you try, for some people these efforts are not enough ...

I am at the point in my life that with or without someone, I always have me ... I can always rely on me, I guess this is what makes me wonder why I have been alone for so long, because I am someone who can be relied on ...


anyway enough of this from me, have a HaPPy .. HaPPy safe Easter ...







Mornin Mr P wave

That sounded/sounds like me since "1983"... my last 100% full-on give and take r/ship. I trusted her 100%, cared for her with all the loyalty, respect, generosity, being faithful etc...

I don't know if i loved her or not as i was only nineteen and i don't think i knew what love was. I have'nt experienced any of those feelings that i had for her again, maybe it was puppy love dunno

I do know back then that i could'nt stand being apart from her, she was gorgeous (sth efrican)laugh and had a great family and up bringing innocent

A long stoy short laugh grin sad flower As we both lived together and worked together... one morning we woke up yawn and she told me that she was'nt feeling well barf comfort . Sensitive me asked if she wanted me to stay home and be with her happy place

She said no you go to work i'll be fine and will see you when you get home wave kiss lips kiss lips I was feeling a bit uneasy about leaving her but went to work like a good ozzy australia

I could'nt stop thinking of her and if she was ok daydream so i phoned her once ok several times during the day. Everytime she said she was fine and feeling better each call.comfort

Part 1 laugh
Apr 3, 2015 5:07 PM CST What is Love
Lookin4missright
Lookin4missrightLookin4missrightmelbourne, Victoria Australia400 Threads 24,032 Posts
epirb: seriously , that's nothing . sun comes up each day . A lot people would have had far worse , years of it . Count yourself lucky .






After joining dating sites and lookinat all the stories over the years doh I'm thinking yep thumbs up rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing

Happy Easter Mr E hug newzealand wave
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