What is Love (51)
AgentAjax: hello
I see you are picking on us poor men now
WHO would you say is the best source of referance? Would it be your ex wife or hubby, friends or the ex lovers?
I see you are picking on us poor men now
WHO would you say is the best source of referance? Would it be your ex wife or hubby, friends or the ex lovers?
My exwife virtually insisted she attend my 50th birthday get together ..
we split up when I was 30, so much time had passed .. I told her my girlfriend at the time would be there as well as my at that time group of friends ...
I suggested if anyone wanted the dirt on me to speak to her as we had one mother of a break up and a few years past this ...
I have had my ex wife 14 years, ex partner 13 years and my current lady the the time together at a family function in which I admit I felt a huge tension, though they all ended up sitting together and hopefully not talking about me ... It was a family members funeral that both my exes were very fond of ...
My point here is I had nothing to hide from my current chick or anything too dastardly with either of my exes ...
so here is my reference ...
AgentAjax: I hear this all the time people taking other people for a financial ride. I must be lame or something but how is this possible? I mean when it comes to a relationship breakdown whatever you acquired prior undertaking a relationship is yours without a pre nap, and the same law applies nationally.
It was possible because he had a house and sold it for little (when the prices were down) , and claims he invested the $$ into her house... via a garden with fancy large moss rocks, and built a pergola lean to thing.. and there you have it...
When they broke up, ( when the price was high) he got half of hers, but he had plenty dollars in his own account, which she did not know about... so there you have it... she lost, he won...
and it was very ugly...
and he married someone else, and managed to get a super beaut house ...
I don't know how his circumstances have panned out.. but I know hers went poorly for her..
nomoregoodnames: I suppose that depends how long you're together.
Also how much you believe what the other person tells you, people do things for love that they wouldn't normally do...give money for business ventures or simply because the other person persuades them, against their better judgement, that something is a good idea.
You don't go into a relationship assuming they're out to take you for everything you have.
Also how much you believe what the other person tells you, people do things for love that they wouldn't normally do...give money for business ventures or simply because the other person persuades them, against their better judgement, that something is a good idea.
You don't go into a relationship assuming they're out to take you for everything you have.
No, you don't go into a relationship assuming they're out to take you for everything you have, but for me,
at the back of my mind, I am aware that it could happen...has happened to many, and will happen again...
I am looking forward to semi retirement, not working forever because of a bad error of judgement...
I read somewhere that love is making yourself vulnerable and letting someone to hurt you but hoping she/he won't. You either get a friend for life or a lesson for life. So either way, it is worthwhile.
Theresa4tgl: Love is....
love is when a woman taps a man on the bum and says "you are in" my love
Love doesn't seek to hurt and seek revenge.....love seeks to renew and restore.
Love doesn't seek to justify or punish......love seeks forgiveness and to forgive.
Love doesn't seek to be liked or loved by others.....love seeks to like, understand and love others.
Love doesn't seek to deny.....love seeks to give.
Love doesn't seek to mock or make fun of others weaknesses....love seeks to protect and defend the weak.
Love doesn't seek lie, gossip, or destroy.....love seeks truth and builds upon truth.
Love doesn't seek to be pleased....love seeks to please.
Love doesn't seek excuses.....love seeks solutions.
What else is love.....what are the characteristics of love to you. I'm sure there's more than what I've listed
love is when a woman taps a man on the bum and says "you are in" my love
Love doesn't seek to hurt and seek revenge.....love seeks to renew and restore.
Love doesn't seek to justify or punish......love seeks forgiveness and to forgive.
Love doesn't seek to be liked or loved by others.....love seeks to like, understand and love others.
Love doesn't seek to deny.....love seeks to give.
Love doesn't seek to mock or make fun of others weaknesses....love seeks to protect and defend the weak.
Love doesn't seek lie, gossip, or destroy.....love seeks truth and builds upon truth.
Love doesn't seek to be pleased....love seeks to please.
Love doesn't seek excuses.....love seeks solutions.
What else is love.....what are the characteristics of love to you. I'm sure there's more than what I've listed
PrOwLeR__: My exwife virtually insisted she attend my 50th birthday get together ..
we split up when I was 30, so much time had passed .. I told her my girlfriend at the time would be there as well as my at that time group of friends ...
I suggested if anyone wanted the dirt on me to speak to her as we had one mother of a break up and a few years past this ...
I have had my ex wife 14 years, ex partner 13 years and my current lady the the time together at a family function in which I admit I felt a huge tension, though they all ended up sitting together and hopefully not talking about me ... It was a family members funeral that both my exes were very fond of ...
My point here is I had nothing to hide from my current chick or anything too dastardly with either of my exes ...
so here is my reference ...
we split up when I was 30, so much time had passed .. I told her my girlfriend at the time would be there as well as my at that time group of friends ...
I suggested if anyone wanted the dirt on me to speak to her as we had one mother of a break up and a few years past this ...
I have had my ex wife 14 years, ex partner 13 years and my current lady the the time together at a family function in which I admit I felt a huge tension, though they all ended up sitting together and hopefully not talking about me ... It was a family members funeral that both my exes were very fond of ...
My point here is I had nothing to hide from my current chick or anything too dastardly with either of my exes ...
so here is my reference ...
What? 2 ex's at YOUR birthday, and YOU let that happen? 
Why would you want your ex-wife to attend your function? What would be wrong with a "no"? Especially if it was not a particularly nice break-up, etc.
Personally, she would have been told in no uncertain terms to get out of my life, and get on with her own. Then I'd put a trespass order on her if she turned up....
Halv0: What? 2 ex's at YOUR birthday, and YOU let that happen?
Why would you want your ex-wife to attend your function? What would be wrong with a "no"? Especially if it was not a particularly nice break-up, etc.
Personally, she would have been told in no uncertain terms to get out of my life, and get on with her own. Then I'd put a trespass order on her if she turned up....
Why would you want your ex-wife to attend your function? What would be wrong with a "no"? Especially if it was not a particularly nice break-up, etc.
Personally, she would have been told in no uncertain terms to get out of my life, and get on with her own. Then I'd put a trespass order on her if she turned up....
It was a funeral.
AgentAjax: I hear this all the time people taking other people for a financial ride. I must be lame or something but how is this possible? I mean when it comes to a relationship breakdown whatever you acquired prior undertaking a relationship is yours without a pre nap, and the same law applies nationally.
so you live in Aus and don't know that a Pre-Nup agreement is not recognised in this country and has no validity in a family law court settlement hearing here in Australia?
Instead, they take into account assets prior to entering the relationship vs assets at the time of separation. I was very luck to get out of my nasty divorce with almost, but not quite, a half settlement.... they grossed up my wage, while reducing my ex-wife's wage (she earns approx 30% more than I did) because she whinged that I should only have gotten 5% of our joint assets.
Same as a will in this country. If a person has over approx $50,000 in assets, the will must first be validated through the fed court, via a probate. In other words, unless a person has less than $50,000 in assets, financial institutions, real estate, and other bodies will not honour will instructions without a probate from the courts.
Halv0: What? 2 ex's at YOUR birthday, and YOU let that happen?
Why would you want your ex-wife to attend your function? What would be wrong with a "no"? Especially if it was not a particularly nice break-up, etc.
Personally, she would have been told in no uncertain terms to get out of my life, and get on with her own. Then I'd put a trespass order on her if she turned up....
Why would you want your ex-wife to attend your function? What would be wrong with a "no"? Especially if it was not a particularly nice break-up, etc.
Personally, she would have been told in no uncertain terms to get out of my life, and get on with her own. Then I'd put a trespass order on her if she turned up....
Both my exes attended my fathers funeral Halvo ... back in 2000, it was the first time they had ever met ...
My ex wife and I had been divorced for over twenty years when I had my 50th Halvo ... she came along with my two daughters to the do ... she had asked me if it were ok, as most of my family were there along with friends ...
Yes we had a rough break up, though we have been friends for many years since then, we had kids together, so we had to communicate ... lol
My point of my ex-wife being there is I have nothing to hide, and anyone in my life back then was free to go and talk to her, including my lady at the time, if they wanted to do a reference check on me ...
.....I should point out that I married and divorced my ex wife twice .. both times well before my 50rh ......
mollybaby: I think dating when older can be made more difficult by people's negative experiences.
Many people have been hurt; betrayed; abused; damaged by former relationships.
If these issues are not dealt with, then future potential partners and relationships are going to suffer as a result.
The only way one can allow themselves to be happy again, is to allow the bitterness and negative feelings go, and see a new relationship as just that..brand new. Not one already damaged by past experiences, pre-doomed to failure.
We have to look after ourselves first, but that doesn't mean cutting ourselves off from future happiness, because that is counter-intuitive.
It just means choosing well, taking it slowly and being good to both our own heart and the other person's heart.
A little respect for both goes a long way.
Many people have been hurt; betrayed; abused; damaged by former relationships.
If these issues are not dealt with, then future potential partners and relationships are going to suffer as a result.
The only way one can allow themselves to be happy again, is to allow the bitterness and negative feelings go, and see a new relationship as just that..brand new. Not one already damaged by past experiences, pre-doomed to failure.
We have to look after ourselves first, but that doesn't mean cutting ourselves off from future happiness, because that is counter-intuitive.
It just means choosing well, taking it slowly and being good to both our own heart and the other person's heart.
A little respect for both goes a long way.
Love is definitely respect for yourself as well as your partner for sure...
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Also how much you believe what the other person tells you, people do things for love that they wouldn't normally do...give money for business ventures or simply because the other person persuades them, against their better judgement, that something is a good idea.
You don't go into a relationship assuming they're out to take you for everything you have.