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Diversity of people and their cultures,in CS.
Responding,even in the "negative way",is not, in some people
culture.
Responding,even in the "negative way",is not, in some people
culture.
rhrinesp: I am just airing my view on the bad manners of many peolpe on dating sites.
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
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I agree you on that. I did ask some people about this years ago and someone said that, it´s their freedom to do that if they aren´t intrested, they just don´t reply and that´s a real killer for your self-esteem. I guess they have been trained that way
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Hi,
Well it seems on this forum any way many don't wont people to write them so they have a block in place as I,v been finding out only after I wrote a letter then had some words to the effect of not allowed ,
Now I will say I know a few and yes they reply and we can write each other , Im well known on many forums and don't have issues with others there , just seems some of us are treated as scammers and they don't wont any thing to do with us , so we are rejected any way ,
What I have done is wrote on some of my profiles im not interested in some people and if they ...READ...what I have written then they would know they wont get a reply for the reason I have said so from that they should understand well enough ,
Any one can contact me if they would like to and that's okay and if I think they are okay then I will write back and ask ? s. many wont answer so that's it I wont reply, they are scammers .
...noeleena...
Well it seems on this forum any way many don't wont people to write them so they have a block in place as I,v been finding out only after I wrote a letter then had some words to the effect of not allowed ,
Now I will say I know a few and yes they reply and we can write each other , Im well known on many forums and don't have issues with others there , just seems some of us are treated as scammers and they don't wont any thing to do with us , so we are rejected any way ,
What I have done is wrote on some of my profiles im not interested in some people and if they ...READ...what I have written then they would know they wont get a reply for the reason I have said so from that they should understand well enough ,
Any one can contact me if they would like to and that's okay and if I think they are okay then I will write back and ask ? s. many wont answer so that's it I wont reply, they are scammers .
...noeleena...
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rhrinesp: I am just airing my view on the bad manners of many peolpe on dating sites.
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
I don't see it that way, although I will write back if a girl says something interesting, I find it unnecessary and kinda vain to say 'thanks but no thanks' on a dating site. This feels like excess politeness which feels like charity, but she is not a beggar and I am not the King, so I'd rather say nothing than vainly talk down to her.
Anyway, are you sure you're not just upset because you're being rejected and the manner of rejection isn't really the point?
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I've never had a problem.. Every lady I've mailed or mailed me has been very polite and genuine.
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rhrinesp: I am just airing my view on the bad manners of many peolpe on dating sites.
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
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allthegoodnamest: I've never had a problem.. Every lady I've mailed or mailed me has been very polite and genuine.
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Judyst.
I don't know if that's a threat or a promise!!
I don't know if that's a threat or a promise!!
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rhrinesp: I am just airing my view on the bad manners of many peolpe on dating sites.
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
Trouble? Why?
You make the choice to send messages. Perhaps those you are emailing simply have no interest in you whatsoever. Recipients are not under any obligation to respond, they may read and think, "hell no, I am not going to all the trouble in replying to that kodgpot!
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rhrinesp: I am just airing my view on the bad manners of many peolpe on dating sites.
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
The most subtle way of rejecting someone is complete radio silence. And radio silence is not poor form on a dating site to a stranger.
To care about your image and reputation in the eyes of a complete stranger can be vain and pretentious. There are those who are sincerely polite in the mistaken belief that this softens the blow of rejection, but then there are those who will be polite because they want to be liked by you even though they don't even like you(which is narcissism).
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rhrinesp: I am just airing my view on the bad manners of many peolpe on dating sites.
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
some Women would probably spend all their time logged in answering inane Messages from Guys at the other side of the World!
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rhrinesp: I am just airing my view on the bad manners of many peolpe on dating sites.
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
don't bother asking you'll get dirty responses
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2 points could be against you in getting a reply.
What's on your profile and what you write in that first mail.
OP you are asking for a woman who likes Rock and Blues and specifically to accompany you to late gigs.
You mail a woman, she reads your profile, doesn't like Rock and Blues, game over.
It's far safer to ignore responding than respond and get an abusive reply back. Not that I'm suggesting you would be abusive, but why should they risk it.
What's on your profile and what you write in that first mail.
OP you are asking for a woman who likes Rock and Blues and specifically to accompany you to late gigs.
You mail a woman, she reads your profile, doesn't like Rock and Blues, game over.
It's far safer to ignore responding than respond and get an abusive reply back. Not that I'm suggesting you would be abusive, but why should they risk it.
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rhrinesp: I am just airing my view on the bad manners of many peolpe on dating sites.
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
How could you qualify the manners of those who infected dating sites?
If you're pleased to recieve a polite reply from somebody whom you can't even verify the authenticity behind his/her identity, then it's not too long you regret to have that politeness.
Dating sites can't/will never can live up to expectations of the members as a reliable source of sincerity beyond doubts specially free dating sites. No honeymoon in view guys, or maybe one in a million, just hang around. ,,
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I used to respond to every mail, even if I wasn't interested but what started to happen was if I responded that I was not interested, I would sometimes get "hate" mail and more than once, have gotten multiple hate mails. I decided that I was no longer going to respond if I was not interested and that policy has made life much simpler.
There are many others who had my experience and have done the same as I did.
There are many others who had my experience and have done the same as I did.
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Track16: I used to respond to every mail, even if I wasn't interested but what started to happen was if I responded that I was not interested, I would sometimes get "hate" mail and more than once, have gotten multiple hate mails. I decided that I was no longer going to respond if I was not interested and that policy has made life much simpler.
There are many others who had my experience and have done the same as I did.
There are many others who had my experience and have done the same as I did.
Exactly, it becomes the mode in a short span of time, some who have the time and the no good experience can keep it going and just play around, giving somewhat the impression of savoring the succulent sweetness of "copy/paste" declarations of ecstatic and the most romantic lines from books of romance.
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I used to reply and got back nasty responses, now even with my "I AM NOT LOOKING" still get nasty emails for not responding...DUH. Ignore and delete and sometimes block.
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Obviously no one is really obligated to reply back to someone if they don't choose to.
There is obviously bad manners as you say in real life too so how many return phone calls have you ever received in real life just because you may had called them?
There is obviously bad manners as you say in real life too so how many return phone calls have you ever received in real life just because you may had called them?
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In response to: I am just airing my view on the bad manners of many peolpe on dating sites.
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry
No response is a response.
Bad manners? on a dating site? okay....
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If somebody goes to the trouble to contact you the least you can do is respond even if it's in the negative.cry