marriage over (66)

May 15, 2015 8:49 AM CST marriage over
peadar
peadarpeadartipperary, Tipperary Ireland74 Threads 349 Posts
I married a Chineese lady last november twelve months.We saved 35k in twelve months and with a present from her parents of 35k we bought a house with a mortgage of 50k.She controls the money i dont know my bank number but i noticed recently from a statement 150 euro per week being taken from our account.Now suddenly this money from her parents wasnt a gift after all.Her son moved from china last May to live with us,lovely boy and i love him to bits,he is 14.She has caused a lot of problems with my family as she didnt get the wedding gifts she was expecting and the wedding ended up costing us a few quid.She has now taken a Solicitor and wants me to sign that in the case of a marriage breakdown that the 35k will be paid back in full,she keeps the house and i will get 10k paid weekly at 100 euro a time.I have been assaulted by her in the past and she has had social services and the guards at the house.The reason i am at home on the net today is i have a black eye from her at the weekend.I am a quiet man and rushed into something that i should have thought out a bit better.She has told my employer that i assaulted her and hit the child,i was reared in a large loving family and hitting women or kids is not who i am.If i walk i have no transport or money and really no where to go.
May 15, 2015 8:55 AM CST marriage over
stanley8m
stanley8mstanley8mkildare, Kildare Ireland156 Threads 7 Polls 5,341 Posts
peadar: I married a Chineese lady last november twelve months.We saved 35k in twelve months and with a present from her parents of 35k we bought a house with a mortgage of 50k.She controls the money i dont know my bank number but i noticed recently from a statement 150 euro per week being taken from our account.Now suddenly this money from her parents wasnt a gift after all.Her son moved from china last May to live with us,lovely boy and i love him to bits,he is 14.She has caused a lot of problems with my family as she didnt get the wedding gifts she was expecting and the wedding ended up costing us a few quid.She has now taken a Solicitor and wants me to sign that in the case of a marriage breakdown that the 35k will be paid back in full,she keeps the house and i will get 10k paid weekly at 100 euro a time.I have been assaulted by her in the past and she has had social services and the guards at the house.The reason i am at home on the net today is i have a black eye from her at the weekend.I am a quiet man and rushed into something that i should have thought out a bit better.She has told my employer that i assaulted her and hit the child,i was reared in a large loving family and hitting women or kids is not who i am.If i walk i have no transport or money and really no where to go.



Has she got Irish citizenship?
May 15, 2015 8:57 AM CST marriage over
peadar
peadarpeadartipperary, Tipperary Ireland74 Threads 349 Posts
She had it before i met her,.
May 15, 2015 8:58 AM CST marriage over
stanley8m
stanley8mstanley8mkildare, Kildare Ireland156 Threads 7 Polls 5,341 Posts
stanley8m: Has she got Irish citizenship?


Irish citizenship by marriage

As of 30 November 2005, citizenship must be acquired through the normal naturalisation process. The residence requirement is reduced from 5 to 3 years for the spouse of an Irish citizen.
May 15, 2015 9:00 AM CST marriage over
peadar
peadarpeadartipperary, Tipperary Ireland74 Threads 349 Posts
She was working in Ireland for 13 years before i met her.
May 15, 2015 9:07 AM CST marriage over
stanley8m
stanley8mstanley8mkildare, Kildare Ireland156 Threads 7 Polls 5,341 Posts
peadar: She was working in Ireland for 13 years before i met her.


Can you talk to the bank and access your joint account, or is everything in her name?
May 15, 2015 9:12 AM CST marriage over
peadar
peadarpeadartipperary, Tipperary Ireland74 Threads 349 Posts
Every thing is not in her name,Every thing is shared but as i have no access to my money,both our wages are paid into a joint account.i have never had ownership of my card.My mess.
May 15, 2015 9:29 AM CST marriage over
stanley8m
stanley8mstanley8mkildare, Kildare Ireland156 Threads 7 Polls 5,341 Posts
peadar: Every thing is not in her name,Every thing is shared but as i have no access to my money,both our wages are paid into a joint account.i have never had ownership of my card.My mess.



As I said, take legal advice, talk to the bank, play along with her until you get whatever you can. Forget the marriage, it is all about who wins the possessions game and she is playing hardball now, so you must do the same.

Think reptilian thoughts, be cold and calculating, but smile nicely. grin
May 15, 2015 9:35 AM CST marriage over
peadar
peadarpeadartipperary, Tipperary Ireland74 Threads 349 Posts
thanks .
May 15, 2015 9:42 AM CST marriage over
freeman65
freeman65freeman65Longford, Ireland373 Posts
peadar: I married a Chineese lady last november twelve months.We saved 35k in twelve months and with a present from her parents of 35k we bought a house with a mortgage of 50k.She controls the money i dont know my bank number but i noticed recently from a statement 150 euro per week being taken from our account.Now suddenly this money from her parents wasnt a gift after all.Her son moved from china last May to live with us,lovely boy and i love him to bits,he is 14.She has caused a lot of problems with my family as she didnt get the wedding gifts she was expecting and the wedding ended up costing us a few quid.She has now taken a Solicitor and wants me to sign that in the case of a marriage breakdown that the 35k will be paid back in full,she keeps the house and i will get 10k paid weekly at 100 euro a time.I have been assaulted by her in the past and she has had social services and the guards at the house.The reason i am at home on the net today is i have a black eye from her at the weekend.I am a quiet man and rushed into something that i should have thought out a bit better.She has told my employer that i assaulted her and hit the child,i was reared in a large loving family and hitting women or kids is not who i am.If i walk i have no transport or money and really no where to go.



The money part is easy, any citizen advice bureau. For the rest , its gonna be tough but start with Amen. Remember you control your destiny. Its gonna be tough Peader but the sooner you start. ....

Good luck .
May 15, 2015 10:44 AM CST marriage over
peadar: I married a Chineese lady last november twelve months.We saved 35k in twelve months and with a present from her parents of 35k we bought a house with a mortgage of 50k.She controls the money i dont know my bank number but i noticed recently from a statement 150 euro per week being taken from our account.Now suddenly this money from her parents wasnt a gift after all.Her son moved from china last May to live with us,lovely boy and i love him to bits,he is 14.She has caused a lot of problems with my family as she didnt get the wedding gifts she was expecting and the wedding ended up costing us a few quid.She has now taken a Solicitor and wants me to sign that in the case of a marriage breakdown that the 35k will be paid back in full,she keeps the house and i will get 10k paid weekly at 100 euro a time.I have been assaulted by her in the past and she has had social services and the guards at the house.The reason i am at home on the net today is i have a black eye from her at the weekend.I am a quiet man and rushed into something that i should have thought out a bit better.She has told my employer that i assaulted her and hit the child,i was reared in a large loving family and hitting women or kids is not who i am.If i walk i have no transport or money and really no where to go.


Is this another 1 of your jokes?help
May 15, 2015 11:03 AM CST marriage over
peadar
peadarpeadartipperary, Tipperary Ireland74 Threads 349 Posts
NO UNFORTUNATLY MATE.
May 15, 2015 11:17 AM CST marriage over
peadar
peadarpeadartipperary, Tipperary Ireland74 Threads 349 Posts
tHANKS .AND TO MAKE MATTERS WORSE,IM HER BOSS AT WORK.
May 15, 2015 11:42 AM CST marriage over
paperclip
paperclippaperclipdrogheda, Louth Ireland10 Posts
did u sign an agreement that the 35k would be paid back to her parents, if u didnt they can go diddly as there is no contract with u
u said u only noticed recently that 150 per week is going out of your account get good solictor and send her packing she appears to be a scammer
May 15, 2015 12:31 PM CST marriage over
moc1234
moc1234moc1234Tralee, Kerry Ireland2 Threads 148 Posts
peader sorry to hear about your trouble whatever you do dont move out of your home it weakens your case if you move out of the house its your plea bargain that you cannot afford and not go anywhere else its your home aswell play hard ball dont give an inchthumbs up
May 15, 2015 2:35 PM CST marriage over
Fraya
FrayaFrayaCork, Ireland1 Threads 3,762 Posts
peadar: I married a Chineese lady last november twelve months.We saved 35k in twelve months and with a present from her parents of 35k we bought a house with a mortgage of 50k.She controls the money i dont know my bank number but i noticed recently from a statement 150 euro per week being taken from our account.Now suddenly this money from her parents wasnt a gift after all.Her son moved from china last May to live with us,lovely boy and i love him to bits,he is 14.She has caused a lot of problems with my family as she didnt get the wedding gifts she was expecting and the wedding ended up costing us a few quid.She has now taken a Solicitor and wants me to sign that in the case of a marriage breakdown that the 35k will be paid back in full,she keeps the house and i will get 10k paid weekly at 100 euro a time.I have been assaulted by her in the past and she has had social services and the guards at the house.The reason i am at home on the net today is i have a black eye from her at the weekend.I am a quiet man and rushed into something that i should have thought out a bit better.She has told my employer that i assaulted her and hit the child,i was reared in a large loving family and hitting women or kids is not who i am.If i walk i have no transport or money and really no where to go.


She was working here for thirteen years before you met her and her fourteen year old son who was living in China came to live with you?
May 15, 2015 3:06 PM CST marriage over
freeman65
freeman65freeman65Longford, Ireland373 Posts
Fraya: She was working here for thirteen years before you met her and her fourteen year old son who was living in China came to live with you?

Jeez girl you think this hasn't crossed his mind?
No matter anyways what is "is".
May 15, 2015 3:10 PM CST marriage over
Fraya
FrayaFrayaCork, Ireland1 Threads 3,762 Posts
freeman65: Jeez girl you think this hasn't crossed his mind?
No matter anyways what is "is".


And doesn't have access to his own bank account? How does he put petrol in the car? And he is her boss at work?
May 15, 2015 3:15 PM CST marriage over
2Cute69
2Cute692Cute69dublin, Wexford Ireland3 Threads 213 Posts
Fraya: And doesn't have access to his own bank account? How does he put petrol in the car? And he is her boss at work?


trust has no boundary
May 15, 2015 3:16 PM CST marriage over
freeman65
freeman65freeman65Longford, Ireland373 Posts
Fraya: And doesn't have access to his own bank account? How does he put petrol in the car? And he is her boss at work?


Yeah hear ya but if you read again he's answered you already. Hope you're right but I've seen it and sadly worse.
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