Must be Financially Secure ( Archived) (33)

"Must be financially secure ... financially stable ... have his own money."

Oh boy! Could I have FUN with this one!


"Gee, Hon. You mean you don't want to "adopt"?"


I have never seen these requirements on a man's profile (not that I look at that many), only on women's.

Now, I know that there are some men who are predators and have been know to clean out the bank accounts of trusting women.
I've heard about the "pretty boys" that live off of women.
I have always assumed that women who put such stipulations on their profiles have either heard the stories also or have been victims.

When I came across all three variations on one profile, yesterday, it got me to wondering, "Do men put this on their profiles as well?"

Of course, that was after I stopped laughing. You see, when I asked my Mom if I could go shopping with her, she'd always say, "Bring your own money!"

So ...

Men ... (excluding "Donald Trump" types) Do you put this requirement on your profile?

Women ... Is this the "Now Value", that men expect you to pay for everything?

I'll start ... It's not on my profile because:

1. I don't look at the Dun & Bradstreet rating of my date before going to MacDonalds.

2. Money is not that important. If I have it, I pay; if not, I don't go out.

3. I'm not even comfortable with "Dutch Treat".

Hotstrawberries.
you said it all. Thats how to put it.

Thank you. I should say, though, that sometimes I get carried away. I feel very strongly about some things, so I don't always think long enough before I speak - and I type as fast as I talk, if you know what I mean. It is possible that OldSarge was just having a bit of fun (I find his whimsical commentaries incredibly amusing) and I should be more careful how I go about telling people about their "judgement" calls. No offense intended, OldSarge.

I believe if you are taking someone somewhere whether it be male or female the 1 taking should pay.. pretty simple..a cheap date might feel beter than a rich 1..be within means..and openminded..Remember the other person and make them feel comfortable people like to stay within there means..

I think it would be even better if the deadbeats would just post the truth on their profiles "Deadbeat looking for sugarmamma, looks would be nice, but it's what's in the wallet (or purse) that counts" ha! ha! That would be a perfect and honest world now wouldn't it? Personally, I think it is fine for women to specify that they desire someone financially secure and independant, if nothing else, for the sake of seeking integrity in a responsible man. And us guys should appreciate the fact that they know and tell us what they want with no hidden agenda in the long run. The more we know up front, the better.

I am a trusting woman but I also have that "radar" that women seem to have. However, I would never look at a profile and disregard it I can't see anything in it that looks like he's not financially stable. Perhaps he has a disability or a mental illness which he would prefer not to discuss until he's more comfortable chatting with someone. It would be a sad world if we were all gorgeous, rich, healthy and so on, and so on.

The one thing that makes me pass a profile by is the "want children" part. When I see a guy who's 65 and is unsure or want's children I just about fall off my chair. The only thing I'd like to respond and say is, Honey, your profile looks real good, but I passed you by cause my eggs are all dried up. :)

I don't think you should take the "Want's children"
part as definite and pass by a profile because of it.
If I guy sees your profile and sees you don't he might
still decide to get together with you, even if he filled out the form to say he wants children. I am, well, real real old, alright, I am 55, (and some), and
yet I usually fill out the box as either "wants children" or "not sure" depending on the choices the dating service gives me, because I would love to find a woman young enough to have a child and would love to have another child, but on the other hand I realize that is unlikely. If I find anyone at all it will probably be someone older, past childbearing age, and there will be no more children for me. So I would like, but do not expect children. If you and I turned out the very compatible, we could get together and the absence of children would be OK.

dpw

Way to make a point and plug your profile at the same time dpw!!!

On the subject I am with sassy.I 'm not a deadbeat why would I hook up with one? I don't care if you are poor just have some sense of responsibility.