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Katiko: So my ex and I talked about divorcing for some time already. Yet, it was always in the future and now it's now. I don't even know hoe i feel about it: sad, relieved, happy?
So this is it. I don't want to talk to any judge about our private stuff, don't want anyone messing in. We managed to agree about most of the things so far. Yet, there is my kid and the judge probably is going to ask how do we want to share the responsibility, etc. The division of retirement founds and bla, bla, bla…
Anyone divorced in Germany and can give me an idea how does it work here?
We are from two different countries from EU living almost 3 years in Germany so the international and German law applies as far as I know.
And how I should feel about it? I feel like dancing one moment and crying the other.
hi.katiko....i..felt the same...sorry i cant help you....pete.xxSo this is it. I don't want to talk to any judge about our private stuff, don't want anyone messing in. We managed to agree about most of the things so far. Yet, there is my kid and the judge probably is going to ask how do we want to share the responsibility, etc. The division of retirement founds and bla, bla, bla…
Anyone divorced in Germany and can give me an idea how does it work here?
We are from two different countries from EU living almost 3 years in Germany so the international and German law applies as far as I know.
And how I should feel about it? I feel like dancing one moment and crying the other.
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Katiko: So my ex and I talked about divorcing for some time already. Yet, it was always in the future and now it's now. I don't even know hoe i feel about it: sad, relieved, happy?
So this is it. I don't want to talk to any judge about our private stuff, don't want anyone messing in. We managed to agree about most of the things so far. Yet, there is my kid and the judge probably is going to ask how do we want to share the responsibility, etc. The division of retirement founds and bla, bla, bla…
Anyone divorced in Germany and can give me an idea how does it work here?
We are from two different countries from EU living almost 3 years in Germany so the international and German law applies as far as I know.
And how I should feel about it? I feel like dancing one moment and crying the other.
So this is it. I don't want to talk to any judge about our private stuff, don't want anyone messing in. We managed to agree about most of the things so far. Yet, there is my kid and the judge probably is going to ask how do we want to share the responsibility, etc. The division of retirement founds and bla, bla, bla…
Anyone divorced in Germany and can give me an idea how does it work here?
We are from two different countries from EU living almost 3 years in Germany so the international and German law applies as far as I know.
And how I should feel about it? I feel like dancing one moment and crying the other.
Which countries you come from???
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Katiko: So my ex and I talked about divorcing for some time already. Yet, it was always in the future and now it's now. I don't even know hoe i feel about it: sad, relieved, happy?
So this is it. I don't want to talk to any judge about our private stuff, don't want anyone messing in. We managed to agree about most of the things so far. Yet, there is my kid and the judge probably is going to ask how do we want to share the responsibility, etc. The division of retirement founds and bla, bla, bla…
Anyone divorced in Germany and can give me an idea how does it work here?
We are from two different countries from EU living almost 3 years in Germany so the international and German law applies as far as I know.
And how I should feel about it? I feel like dancing one moment and crying the other.
So this is it. I don't want to talk to any judge about our private stuff, don't want anyone messing in. We managed to agree about most of the things so far. Yet, there is my kid and the judge probably is going to ask how do we want to share the responsibility, etc. The division of retirement founds and bla, bla, bla…
Anyone divorced in Germany and can give me an idea how does it work here?
We are from two different countries from EU living almost 3 years in Germany so the international and German law applies as far as I know.
And how I should feel about it? I feel like dancing one moment and crying the other.
I walked away and never looked back from my only divorce/dissolution proceeding. Everything was settled among just us beforehand. The court simply asked us if we were sure this is what we wanted.
Our Independence Day is this Saturday. Maybe you can celebrate it with us.
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Katiko.
I'm going to tell you what my lawyer said when I divorced.... "Organise your assets & child sharing arrangements between you & you will save yourself a lot of time, money & heartache"
I'm going to tell you what my lawyer said when I divorced.... "Organise your assets & child sharing arrangements between you & you will save yourself a lot of time, money & heartache"
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Awww..reading the title thought this thread was gonna be about the blade runner film.no fair
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Don't you mean OUR kid? Or did you conceive all by yourself?
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Katiko: And how I should feel about it? I feel like dancing one moment and crying the other.
My divorce was about 10 years ago, I was pretty much your age.
The events leading up to our estrangement and subsequent divorce had left me completely emotionally disconnected from her. I was still both relieved, and devastated by our divorce.
I don't have children, so I can't help there. I can't imagine what it would be like going through a divorce with kids. I'm sorry you're experiencing that.
Oscillating between relief and sadness sound pretty normal to me though.
If you find yourself having trouble getting it out of your mind, you know to get to sleep and such. I found positive classical music helped. Look for stuff labelled "major" not "minor", during the day(think..."I Giorni" by Ludovico Einaudi), and white noise at night.
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;) thank's for the smile you gave me.
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CapNemo: Don't you mean OUR kid? Or did you conceive all by yourself?
Our, not! I dont't think we ever had together ;P.
Talking about my ex…. well, I always think that he is mine in minimum 50% and a little more. But that's a personal story. Of course my son is his son to, but I don't like the "our" word at the moment. It give the feeling of belonging together and that's not the case.
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allthegoodnamest: Katiko.
I'm going to tell you what my lawyer said when I divorced.... "Organise your assets & child sharing arrangements between you & you will save yourself a lot of time, money & heartache"
I'm going to tell you what my lawyer said when I divorced.... "Organise your assets & child sharing arrangements between you & you will save yourself a lot of time, money & heartache"
yes, you are right. we tried to do it already and I think we are more or less set here. Yet, I hear so many stories when people start to change their minds somewhere in between the process as it is so emotional.
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Ocee102: My divorce was about 10 years ago, I was pretty much your age. The events leading up to our estrangement and subsequent divorce had left me completely emotionally disconnected from her. I was still both relieved, and devastated by our divorce.
I don't have children, so I can't help there. I can't imagine what it would be like going through a divorce with kids. I'm sorry you're experiencing that. Oscillating between relief and sadness sound pretty normal to me though.If you find yourself having trouble getting it out of your mind, you know to get to sleep and such. I found positive classical music helped. Look for stuff labelled "major" not "minor", during the day(think..."I Giorni" by Ludovico Einaudi), and white noise at night.
I don't have children, so I can't help there. I can't imagine what it would be like going through a divorce with kids. I'm sorry you're experiencing that. Oscillating between relief and sadness sound pretty normal to me though.If you find yourself having trouble getting it out of your mind, you know to get to sleep and such. I found positive classical music helped. Look for stuff labelled "major" not "minor", during the day(think..."I Giorni" by Ludovico Einaudi), and white noise at night.
Yes, I guess all the feelings are allowed and normal in this case. Since we separated there are days I feel completely emotionally disconnected, but there are also days I think we may be doing the biggest mistake. Due to the kid we have we are going to be bounded no-matter the divorce. So I do think we should first try to fix the problems not escaping them.
From the other hand I was so relieved when he moved out. I remember I finally felt like I could breath. And I am so happy I moved myself too so it's a new place I live now.
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galrads: I walked away and never looked back from my only divorce/dissolution proceeding. Everything was settled among just us beforehand. The court simply asked us if we were sure this is what we wanted.
Our Independence Day is this Saturday. Maybe you can celebrate it with us.
Our Independence Day is this Saturday. Maybe you can celebrate it with us.
Independence Day. Maybe I should actually look at that this way. If not my (yes"our") son that would be the best: go away and never look back. Actually leaving the Germany would be for me really great.
But we are bounded due to this little sweet monster, who just turned 2 and I do want hum to have both parents present in his life. Not just one and other from birthday card or so.
I know so many families which divorced and the children got with time to the situation where they are either left behind by one of the parent or one of the parent tries to keep them just for himself not taking care of the child needs.
Both situations so destructive.
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Can not help you here. But Guten Tag und wie gehts, meine liebe.
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agman: Can not help you here. But Guten Tag und wie gehts, meine liebe.
Guten Tag. Ich bin gar nicht sicher wie es mir geht :) / :(
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Katiko: Guten Tag. Ich bin gar nicht sicher wie es mir geht :) / :(
So ist es. Eines Neues leben ist immer schwer. And I need to
go back to lerning to speak German again. I am German, but
born in America. Choa, meine liebschein.
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So this is it. I don't want to talk to any judge about our private stuff, don't want anyone messing in. We managed to agree about most of the things so far. Yet, there is my kid and the judge probably is going to ask how do we want to share the responsibility, etc. The division of retirement founds and bla, bla, bla…
Anyone divorced in Germany and can give me an idea how does it work here?
We are from two different countries from EU living almost 3 years in Germany so the international and German law applies as far as I know.
And how I should feel about it? I feel like dancing one moment and crying the other.