Living with an aspie (26)
LindziManama, Bahrain12 Threads 191 PostsAny advice?
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I was once bitten by one.
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Lindzi: Any advice?
I'm sure Jac will come on and give you plenty of advice
I think you'd have to be a very patient, good-humoured person , who can see outside the box and realise that not everybody sees the world in the same way.
It could be very frustrating, but also comes with its own rewards.
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Foxworth: I was once bitten by one.
Cleopatra, is that really you??
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mollybaby: Cleopatra, is that really you??
I read this thread as 'alsatian'
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mollybaby: I'm sure Jac will come on and give you plenty of advice I think you'd have to be a very patient, good-humoured person , who can see outside the box and realise that not everybody sees the world in the same way.
It could be very frustrating, but also comes with its own rewards.
It could be very frustrating, but also comes with its own rewards.
You nailed it. If I've not learned anything else, I've learned to be very patient! My son has aspergers. He is 29, and these people are not conformists, but do things their own way. "Outside the box" becomes a way of life. Frustration is daily life. Support groups are a lifesaver. People on special hotlines knew me by name when I called. Aspies are a square peg that won't be forced to fit in a round hole....learn what works and what doesn't. Rewards may be a necessity if you want to get them to accomplish a task.
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I want to add, that it is linked to genius. My son has his talents. Unfortunately, he has been afraid to leave the house (agoraphobia) for years.
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Thanks again sweetie.
It's frustrating living with it especially when you need them and they don't see it.
It's frustrating living with it especially when you need them and they don't see it.
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Foxworth: I was once bitten by one.
Like seriously?
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Lindzi: Any advice?
My ex-wife could give you advice although she refuses to believe that I am one. Who knows? It's just another label.
My advice is to watch "Big Bang Theory" as Sheldon is one, albeit an extreme example, perhaps.
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PrettyPrescious: You nailed it. If I've not learned anything else, I've learned to be very patient! My son has aspergers. He is 29, and these people are not conformists, but do things their own way. "Outside the box" becomes a way of life. Frustration is daily life. Support groups are a lifesaver. People on special hotlines knew me by name when I called. Aspies are a square peg that won't be forced to fit in a round hole....learn what works and what doesn't. Rewards may be a necessity if you want to get them to accomplish a task.
thank you for sharing. im dyslexic myself and can identify to some degree with your son. i wish you the best of luck with things. must be difficult for you and your family but thankfully he has a family that cares
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thelad2007: thank you for sharing. im dyslexic myself and can identify to some degree with your son. i wish you the best of luck with things. must be difficult for you and your family but thankfully he has a family that cares
He's Irish too but his family doesn't seem to care or support me. I don't think they know how or want to believe there is something not right with him.
I guess once we got married they think he is my problem now
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Lindzi: Harsh.
He's a narcisist you know
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Lindzi: Harsh.
I wouldn't be surprised if in 50 years time it becomes much less about accommodating asperger bheaviour and more about adapting asperger behaviour. When the trendiness of mental illness passes normalising the abnormal will replace abnormalising the normal. Making the autistics - aspergers is plain old autism now - more like the real world rather than making the real world more autistic.
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Obscuritan: My ex-wife could give you advice although she refuses to believe that I am one. Who knows? It's just another label.
My advice is to watch "Big Bang Theory" as Sheldon is one, albeit an extreme example, perhaps.
My advice is to watch "Big Bang Theory" as Sheldon is one, albeit an extreme example, perhaps.
I didn't even know it for the longest time. My friends kept telling me he was like every other man.
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Obstinance_Works: I wouldn't be surprised if in 50 years time it becomes much less about accommodating asperger bheaviour and more about adapting asperger behaviour. When the trendiness of mental illness passes normalising the abnormal will replace abnormalising the normal. Making the autistics - aspergers is plain old autism now - more like the real world rather than making the real world more autistic.
True but how do you 'normalize'. I've got a few tricks, like giving him time to make decisions, being appreciative of the small things he does but it's the " I'm having a fantastic time on holiday in India. When do you get out of hospital?" Incidents that are difficult to handle
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I had some friends at Uni who were high level autistics absolutely brilliant at computer programming and computer systems but had no real conception, feeling of human love.
They were in the genius iq range, and took lessons in human emotion recognition and appropriate responses.
I got on with them ok.
They were in the genius iq range, and took lessons in human emotion recognition and appropriate responses.
I got on with them ok.
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Lindzi: True but how do you 'normalize'. I've got a few tricks, like giving him time to make decisions, being appreciative of the small things he does but it's the " I'm having a fantastic time on holiday in India. When do you get out of hospital?" Incidents that are difficult to handle
The first thing to defeat is the idea that someone is special simply because they're different(weird). This is not an easy thing to do in a narcissistic world. I would say do this and break their routines and cycles from early childhood, force them to acknowledge and be more like other people, and natural socialisation will then take over.
Not all the time, however. Some people with autism, especially ones with low IQ, are beyond salvation. These are the ones you accommodate because there's no hope for them.
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Lindzi: Any advice?
It's also been shown that upper-middle class children display the behaviours and signs of autism 40% more often than working class children.
It's another reason to be skeptical about professional opinion when it's the clinical and professionalised parents making the autists. The parents most likely to hit their kids and tell/force them to stop being such nerds produce the least spergs.
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