Maybe, He's Just Not That Into You? (56)
Dreamcatcher99: He gave a very good excuse for not turning up for a date and you bought the story.
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
ask him WTF is the problem and go with what you FEEL is the most productive outcome.
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purr4mance: ask him WTF is the problem and go with what you FEEL is the most productive outcome.
Hi Purr
I might end up believing what he said....
And I don't trust my own feelings...
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Dreamcatcher99: Hi Purr
I might end up believing what he said....
And I don't trust my own feelings...
I might end up believing what he said....
And I don't trust my own feelings...
don't trust them (feelings) now or ever?
perhaps you require more time to sort through why you feel this way.
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purr is right, feelings mess things up
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Dreamcatcher99: He gave a very good excuse for not turning up for a date and you bought the story.
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
Hi Mimi
It depends.
Have you met this person in real life previously?
I say that because I've recently HAD to cancel two pre-arranged meets with someone I very much want to meet, but due to legitimate reasons was not able to keep our plans. We recently "met" online. To cut a long story short, he says he's prepared to wait.
If, however,you and this man have been dating and he has had to cancel two consecutive dates, I would ask the question if he has lost interest in continuing?
It may also be, if this is your first meet, he has got cold feet over the whole idea. I would still ask him directly before you decide to cut him off completely. He could, like me, have perfectly justifiable reasons why he had to cancel.
Benefit of the doubt, but communicate your concerns. If you're unhappy with what he comes back with, then by all means give him the chop.
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Some people change their minds.
And don't have the guts to say so.
Forgive and forget,is the best,and more wise now,
you should be more careful in the future.
And don't have the guts to say so.
Forgive and forget,is the best,and more wise now,
you should be more careful in the future.
Dreamcatcher99: He gave a very good excuse for not turning up for a date and you bought the story.
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
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Dreamcatcher99: He gave a very good excuse for not turning up for a date and you bought the story.
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
I suspect you already know the answer here DC..
Go with your instincts
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Dreamcatcher99: He gave a very good excuse for not turning up for a date and you bought the story.
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
He may be legitimate, people do have unexpected commitments which they can't avoid..
I believe you are a mature person give him one more chance if he blows it again, then be the smart little girl with no heart, dump him, at least you will get his respect.
JMO.
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tomcatwarne: He may be legitimate, people do have unexpected commitments which they can't avoid..
I believe you are a mature person give him one more chance if he blows it again, then be the smart little girl with no heart, dump him, at least you will get his respect.
JMO.
I believe you are a mature person give him one more chance if he blows it again, then be the smart little girl with no heart, dump him, at least you will get his respect.
JMO.
We need to take good care of our hearts and protect our inner child as we would our own children..
This is how a man who is into us would make us feel, he would not leave us doubtful and asking questions
For you DC
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serene56: We need to take good care of our hearts and protect our inner child as we would our own children..
This is how a man who is into us would make us feel, he would not leave us doubtful and asking questions
For you DC
This is how a man who is into us would make us feel, he would not leave us doubtful and asking questions
For you DC
I agree you must look after the inner child. i know you're answer a
was for DC, but even men get hurt you know
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Dreamcatcher99: He gave a very good excuse for not turning up for a date and you bought the story.
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
I would stop wasting effort. But i would not condemn the person.
Or warn him that next time if he doesn't show up, you'll be hunting for some other men that night.
If your date has shaved her legs yesterday, it means she did it for another man and you're the back-up
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Suggestion:
Give him a taste of his own medicine. See how he reacts to that!
Or just tell him to sod off and find someone else to pfaff about with.
Give him a taste of his own medicine. See how he reacts to that!
Or just tell him to sod off and find someone else to pfaff about with.
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Dreamcatcher99: He gave a very good excuse for not turning up for a date and you bought the story.
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
Which one was it, DC?
A very good excuse, or two, or a feeble excuse, or two?
You're giving a mixed message and this is not a clear communication.
serene56: We need to take good care of our hearts and protect our inner child as we would our own children..
Yes, we can take care of ourselves and our emotions.
Yes, we can observe our inner child...but maybe to see if we're reacting as we did as a child, rather than taking responsibility for our thoughts, feelings and behaviours as an adult.
serene56: This is how a man who is into us would make us feel, he would not leave us doubtful and asking questions.
Nobody makes us feel anything, we can choose how we feel.
Any interaction with another person is not just about them, it's about how we each choose to partake and how each of our histories interact. For example, if someone has lied to us in the past, we might react as if the other person is lying - they might not be. They might have experienced insecurity from another in their history and react to that - but you might not be insecure.
All of a sudden we have a big thing about lying and insecurity, but actually the interaction may have nothing to do with either.
So, how might you find out what's really going on? How might you sort it out?
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Dreamcatcher99: He gave a very good excuse for not turning up for a date and you bought the story.
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
Hiya DC
A good excuse one time and perhaps two times...after that, the red flag pops up and you've gotta question it. Honest and open communication about what's going on and failing that, it's likely time to move on. I don't know about you but I'm getting too old to play those games. 
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I would cut him off completely.
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Dreamcatcher99: He gave a very good excuse for not turning up for a date and you bought the story.
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?
What I wouldn't do, is try to apply a policy
to such a thing.
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Dear all, thank you for your comments and suggestions.
He is someone I met here and have gone out on dates with him before.
I can safely say that we both thoroughly enjoyed ourselves and the chemistry was definitely there.
The first time up he didn't turn up, it was because of a serious ailment.
This time around I didn't give him the chance to explain himself, had him blocked. I'm afraid I might just believe whatever he comes up with....
Anyway, I hope I can think more clearly after this weekend....
He is someone I met here and have gone out on dates with him before.
I can safely say that we both thoroughly enjoyed ourselves and the chemistry was definitely there.
The first time up he didn't turn up, it was because of a serious ailment.
This time around I didn't give him the chance to explain himself, had him blocked. I'm afraid I might just believe whatever he comes up with....
Anyway, I hope I can think more clearly after this weekend....
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Dreamcatcher99: Dear all, thank you for your comments and suggestions.
He is someone I met here and have gone out on dates with him before.
I can safely say that we both thoroughly enjoyed ourselves and the chemistry was definitely there.
The first time up he didn't turn up, it was because of a serious ailment.
This time around I didn't give him the chance to explain himself, had him blocked. I'm afraid I might just believe whatever he comes up with....
Anyway, I hope I can think more clearly after this weekend....
He is someone I met here and have gone out on dates with him before.
I can safely say that we both thoroughly enjoyed ourselves and the chemistry was definitely there.
The first time up he didn't turn up, it was because of a serious ailment.
This time around I didn't give him the chance to explain himself, had him blocked. I'm afraid I might just believe whatever he comes up with....
Anyway, I hope I can think more clearly after this weekend....
I'm sorry DC.
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Dreamcatcher99: Dear all, thank you for your comments and suggestions.
He is someone I met here and have gone out on dates with him before.
I can safely say that we both thoroughly enjoyed ourselves and the chemistry was definitely there.
The first time up he didn't turn up, it was because of a serious ailment.
This time around I didn't give him the chance to explain himself, had him blocked. I'm afraid I might just believe whatever he comes up with....
Anyway, I hope I can think more clearly after this weekend....
He is someone I met here and have gone out on dates with him before.
I can safely say that we both thoroughly enjoyed ourselves and the chemistry was definitely there.
The first time up he didn't turn up, it was because of a serious ailment.
This time around I didn't give him the chance to explain himself, had him blocked. I'm afraid I might just believe whatever he comes up with....
Anyway, I hope I can think more clearly after this weekend....
Errr...this isn't the first time you've done this, is it?
I seem to remember you regretted doing it the last time.
I get the hiding behind the sofa when things get scary, but maybe you might find a less final way of doing it so you can give yourself some time to think things through.
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He then stood you up again. Would you give him the chance to come up with more feeble excuses or would you just cut him off completely?