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online today!online today!Track16Eastern, Newfoundland Canada1,005 Threads 11,174 PostsHow do you fix a life that is a mess?
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Track16: How do you fix a life that is a mess?
Whenever you figure that out, let me know.
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Track16: How do you fix a life that is a mess?
In small steps guv,nor....
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Track16: How do you fix a life that is a mess?
Part time solution
Alcohol.
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Track16: How do you fix a life that is a mess?
Start with the basics, or things closest to you and work your way out to larger and more complex things as you can. I think peace/contentment/happiness is not completely result dependent. I think there's an element of knowing you're doing what you can.
Are you familiar with Maslow's hierarchy of needs?
It's a pyramid style model of needs. The idea being if the needs at the base of the pyramid are not being met, it will be much harder to handle the needs further up the pyramid.
First you have your physiological needs...food, water, shelter...and such.
Then you have safety and security...reasonable health, a safe home environment, a reasonable expectation those thing will remain in place.
The you have love and belonging...friendship, family, shared emotional intimacy.
Then you have self esteem...confidence, and sense of achievment and such.
And lastly self actualization...your own moral code, acceptance of others, a feeling of purpose or value, creativity.
You can skip up the list and accomplish some things out of order, but if you're struggling with something look to the begining of the list, it's not that the early things will stop you from the others, it's that they can stop you from the others and are worth noting as possible obstructions. So don't beat you self up about not being a divine gift to the human race, if you're struggling with your basic needs.
I'd start with the basics....sleep, hydration, food, hygiene.
Then I'd expand out to my immediate environment, radiate out from myself.
So clean bedroom, then to kitchen and bathroom then to living room and exterior.
Then to general productivity.
Then to social interaction.
From the things you've described in your life once the basic things
are in place(if they're not), you need a peer group.
And cut your self a break man, you're a likeable guy, who values others enough to routinely to engage them with humor, and you crave human connection. You got the the bits that count about being a good person. We're not all efficient cogs in the wheel, be nice to your self.
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Cannabis.
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Ocee102: Start with the basics, or things closest to you and work your way out to larger and more complex things as you can. I think peace/contentment/happiness is not completely result dependent. I think there's an element of knowing you're doing what you can.Are you familiar with Maslow's hierarchy of needs?
It's a pyramid style model of needs. The idea being if the needs at the base of the pyramid are not being met, it will be much harder to handle the needs further up the pyramid.First you have your physiological needs...food, water, shelter...and such.
Then you have safety and security...reasonable health, a safe home environment, a reasonable expectation those thing will remain in place.
The you have love and belonging...friendship, family, shared emotional intimacy.
Then you have self esteem...confidence, and sense of achievment and such.
And lastly self actualization...your own moral code, acceptance of others, a feeling of purpose or value, creativity.
You can skip up the list and accomplish some things out of order, but if you're struggling with something look to the begining of the list, it's not that the early things will stop you from the others, it's that they can stop you from the others and are worth noting as possible obstructions. So don't beat you self up about not being a divine gift to the human race, if you're struggling with your basic needs.I'd start with the basics....sleep, hydration, food, hygiene.
Then I'd expand out to my immediate environment, radiate out from myself.
So clean bedroom, then to kitchen and bathroom then to living room and exterior.
Then to general productivity.
Then to social interaction.From the things you've described in your life once the basic things
are in place(if they're not), you need a peer group.And cut your self a break man, you're a likeable guy, who values others enough to routinely to engage them with humor, and you crave human connection. You got the the bits that count about being a good person. We're not all efficient cogs in the wheel, be nice to your self.
It's a pyramid style model of needs. The idea being if the needs at the base of the pyramid are not being met, it will be much harder to handle the needs further up the pyramid.First you have your physiological needs...food, water, shelter...and such.
Then you have safety and security...reasonable health, a safe home environment, a reasonable expectation those thing will remain in place.
The you have love and belonging...friendship, family, shared emotional intimacy.
Then you have self esteem...confidence, and sense of achievment and such.
And lastly self actualization...your own moral code, acceptance of others, a feeling of purpose or value, creativity.
You can skip up the list and accomplish some things out of order, but if you're struggling with something look to the begining of the list, it's not that the early things will stop you from the others, it's that they can stop you from the others and are worth noting as possible obstructions. So don't beat you self up about not being a divine gift to the human race, if you're struggling with your basic needs.I'd start with the basics....sleep, hydration, food, hygiene.
Then I'd expand out to my immediate environment, radiate out from myself.
So clean bedroom, then to kitchen and bathroom then to living room and exterior.
Then to general productivity.
Then to social interaction.From the things you've described in your life once the basic things
are in place(if they're not), you need a peer group.And cut your self a break man, you're a likeable guy, who values others enough to routinely to engage them with humor, and you crave human connection. You got the the bits that count about being a good person. We're not all efficient cogs in the wheel, be nice to your self.
Hiya Ocee....
Track...totally what he said
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Lillie49: Hiya Ocee....
Track...totally what he said
Track...totally what he said
Hi Lillie...
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Thanks everyone.
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Ocee102: Start with the basics, or things closest to you and work your way out to larger and more complex things as you can. I think peace/contentment/happiness is not completely result dependent. I think there's an element of knowing you're doing what you can.Are you familiar with Maslow's hierarchy of needs?
It's a pyramid style model of needs. The idea being if the needs at the base of the pyramid are not being met, it will be much harder to handle the needs further up the pyramid.First you have your physiological needs...food, water, shelter...and such.
Then you have safety and security...reasonable health, a safe home environment, a reasonable expectation those thing will remain in place.
The you have love and belonging...friendship, family, shared emotional intimacy.
Then you have self esteem...confidence, and sense of achievment and such.
And lastly self actualization...your own moral code, acceptance of others, a feeling of purpose or value, creativity.
You can skip up the list and accomplish some things out of order, but if you're struggling with something look to the begining of the list, it's not that the early things will stop you from the others, it's that they can stop you from the others and are worth noting as possible obstructions. So don't beat you self up about not being a divine gift to the human race, if you're struggling with your basic needs.I'd start with the basics....sleep, hydration, food, hygiene.
Then I'd expand out to my immediate environment, radiate out from myself.
So clean bedroom, then to kitchen and bathroom then to living room and exterior.
Then to general productivity.
Then to social interaction.From the things you've described in your life once the basic things
are in place(if they're not), you need a peer group.And cut your self a break man, you're a likeable guy, who values others enough to routinely to engage them with humor, and you crave human connection. You got the the bits that count about being a good person. We're not all efficient cogs in the wheel, be nice to your self.
It's a pyramid style model of needs. The idea being if the needs at the base of the pyramid are not being met, it will be much harder to handle the needs further up the pyramid.First you have your physiological needs...food, water, shelter...and such.
Then you have safety and security...reasonable health, a safe home environment, a reasonable expectation those thing will remain in place.
The you have love and belonging...friendship, family, shared emotional intimacy.
Then you have self esteem...confidence, and sense of achievment and such.
And lastly self actualization...your own moral code, acceptance of others, a feeling of purpose or value, creativity.
You can skip up the list and accomplish some things out of order, but if you're struggling with something look to the begining of the list, it's not that the early things will stop you from the others, it's that they can stop you from the others and are worth noting as possible obstructions. So don't beat you self up about not being a divine gift to the human race, if you're struggling with your basic needs.I'd start with the basics....sleep, hydration, food, hygiene.
Then I'd expand out to my immediate environment, radiate out from myself.
So clean bedroom, then to kitchen and bathroom then to living room and exterior.
Then to general productivity.
Then to social interaction.From the things you've described in your life once the basic things
are in place(if they're not), you need a peer group.And cut your self a break man, you're a likeable guy, who values others enough to routinely to engage them with humor, and you crave human connection. You got the the bits that count about being a good person. We're not all efficient cogs in the wheel, be nice to your self.
Excellent advice Ocee
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I too like what Ocee said, as far as how he explained it. That was great
For myself I ask myself some questions regularly: Am I living in accordance with my values? AM I making decisions that I am happy with? What is it that I really want (vs what others think I need or what others think I should decide). It's great to hear others ideas but the final choices about my life are mine.
I do this to keep myself on a path to clear thinking and happiness that is not defined by what others, or "society" tells me it is. In doing so I stay in touch with the concept that those who are different than I am may have their own set of questions and values.
So as related to your OP question, I would ask myself why do I think my life is a mess? what is a mess about it? what parts of that mess are under my control that I can actually do something about? Which fixable parts are important to me? Break those into small goals and objectives (the how and the when). Make the goals and objectives small enough so you experience a lot of success.
You m ay not change the world in one day but if your life really is in a mess (to be determined after asking your self some examining questions) it probably took it awhile to get that way.......
I love the old saying that goes something like, let go of the things that one really cannot control and consider those things you really have control of. It's one of my mantras along with "Question Everything."
I know you have heard some of this from me on here before probably so sorry if I chatted on too long
For myself I ask myself some questions regularly: Am I living in accordance with my values? AM I making decisions that I am happy with? What is it that I really want (vs what others think I need or what others think I should decide). It's great to hear others ideas but the final choices about my life are mine.
I do this to keep myself on a path to clear thinking and happiness that is not defined by what others, or "society" tells me it is. In doing so I stay in touch with the concept that those who are different than I am may have their own set of questions and values.
So as related to your OP question, I would ask myself why do I think my life is a mess? what is a mess about it? what parts of that mess are under my control that I can actually do something about? Which fixable parts are important to me? Break those into small goals and objectives (the how and the when). Make the goals and objectives small enough so you experience a lot of success.
You m ay not change the world in one day but if your life really is in a mess (to be determined after asking your self some examining questions) it probably took it awhile to get that way.......
I love the old saying that goes something like, let go of the things that one really cannot control and consider those things you really have control of. It's one of my mantras along with "Question Everything."
I know you have heard some of this from me on here before probably
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Start a new life
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Track16: How do you fix a life that is a mess?
One thing at a time,, define the priorities, do it in a pace that your pysical and mental capacity could stand, slowly but surely Track, wish you courage.
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Babettefr: One thing at a time,, define the priorities, do it in a pace that your pysical physical and mental capacity could stand, slowly but surely Track, wish you courage.
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well.....Track......your a good guy.....love your jokes/humour...and who can see that your present life style...needs sorting out...just forget past events.....start to enjoy your life.....you can do it...I know you can do it......and dont keep putting your self down...jmo........pete.
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truheart1941: well.....Track......your a good guy.....love your jokes/humour...and who can see that your present life style...needs sorting out...just forget past events.....start to enjoy your life.....you can do it...I know you can do it......and dont keep putting your self down...jmo........pete.
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