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SweetdragonSidoarjo, East Java Indonesia1 Threads 3 PostsI am a single mother, and I love my kids, but its not easy to find the right person that will accept them as his own kids, any other single mother that facing the same problem with me?
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Sweetdragon: I am a single mother, and I love my kids, but its not easy to find the right person that will accept them as his own kids, any other single mother that facing the same problem with me?
I'm having problems with guys knowing ive had to organise babysitter and not showing up and not caring that I've re organised my day /night to meet them so have messed babysitter around too it drives me mad.or guys with no kids jusy not getting that the kids have to come first they have read my profile which clearly states that I have children why do they think im free at the drop of a hat . or thinking they can stay over with kids in the house when i dont know them .getting more disollussioned by the day .grrr I could write an essay at this stage.
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fifi72: I'm having problems with guys knowing ive had to organise babysitter and not showing up and not caring that I've re organised my day /night to meet them so have messed babysitter around too it drives me mad.or guys with no kids jusy not getting that the kids have to come first they have read my profile which clearly states that I have children why do they think im free at the drop of a hat . or thinking they can stay over with kids in the house when i dont know them .getting more disollussioned by the day .grrr I could write an essay at this stage.
It is important to a man to carry on his own genes. More than women realise.
It is against a man's nature to invest in another man's children.
I know some do but it is against the grain. This may be the problem you're coming up against.
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Sweetdragon: I am a single mother, and I love my kids, but its not easy to find the right person that will accept them as his own kids, any other single mother that facing the same problem with me?
It would be difficult to find a woman of your maturity who hasn't had children. Most men will accept the fact , unless you have an "army" of them .
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Sweetdragon: I am a single mother, and I love my kids, but its not easy to find the right person that will accept them as his own kids, any other single mother that facing the same problem with me?
Maybe you should try to find a man who simply accepts that you have children, rather than trying to find one that will accept them as his own kids.
They are not his children. They are yours.
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But they are usually the ones looking to meet up ,why bother, if me having children is going to be an issue .no one is forcing them to make contact .
tomcatwarne: It is important to a man to carry on his own genes. More than women realise.
It is against a man's nature to invest in another man's children.
I know some do but it is against the grain. This may be the problem you're coming up against.
It is against a man's nature to invest in another man's children.
I know some do but it is against the grain. This may be the problem you're coming up against.
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fifi72: But they are usually the ones looking to meet up ,why bother, if me having children is going to be an issue .no one is forcing them to make contact .
Maybe they see single mothers as easy prey..
Not myself, of course.
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I will second that Emulsion!!
Another scammer here to see..........
Another scammer here to see..........
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Sweetdragon: I am a single mother, and I love my kids, but its not easy to find the right person that will accept them as his own kids, any other single mother that facing the same problem with me?
It's just as hard for us guys too.
It's not only a new dynamic for you or your partner, it's a new dynamic for your kids.
Bottom line is that your kids aren't biologically from your new found partner and never will be and your kids have an uncanny way of KNOWING this.
Take your time and if your partner or future partner realize this then so much the better but kids aren't dumb and most probably will show dislike for new comers.
Take it easy, it's no competition.
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Babettefr: It's a big responsility and a challenge,, depending on the age of the kids,, most young kids from a borken broken family have more or less passed a traumatic period of abandon,, no matter how they correct the line,,
but then,, there are men too have kids from their divorce,, just a joint force might work for some ,,, love defines everything.
but then,, there are men too have kids from their divorce,, just a joint force might work for some ,,, love defines everything.
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The thing I find amusing, when a woman has "must like kids" on her profile, and so I say thats no problem I have a few of my own... Then nothing.
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allthegoodnamest: It would be difficult to find a woman of your maturity who hasn't had children. Most men will accept the fact , unless you have an "army" of them .
Really? I have the same problems to find a man to accept my kids. I just need him to be my kids' friend, not a father.
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Phuongthanh: Really? I have the same problems to find a man to accept my kids. I just need him to be my kids' friend, not a father.
Why not find someone your kids accept?
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unlaoised: Why not find someone your kids accept?
Because I don't want to put responsibility on his shoulder, they are my kids not his. He just accepts the fact that Im having the kids, that's enough.
(maybe he can not take good role of a father as well hahaha)
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Sweetdragon: I am a single mother, and I love my kids, but its not easy to find the right person that will accept them as his own kids, any other single mother that facing the same problem with me?
Find a man who is also a babysitter
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I'd nail a single Mum no problems, but not if there are more than maybe 3 kids, all with the same father.
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mollybaby: Maybe you should try to find a man who simply accepts that you have children, rather than trying to find one that will accept them as his own kids.
They are not his children. They are yours.
They are not his children. They are yours.
yes, she comes as a package - meaning a woman with children.
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fifi72: I'm having problems with guys knowing ive had to organise babysitter and not showing up and not caring that I've re organised my day /night to meet them so have messed babysitter around too it drives me mad.or guys with no kids jusy not getting that the kids have to come first they have read my profile which clearly states that I have children why do they think im free at the drop of a hat . or thinking they can stay over with kids in the house when i dont know them .getting more disollussioned by the day .grrr I could write an essay at this stage.
this is probably what drives some guys away, yes the kids come first SOMETIMES but NOT ALWAYS
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tomcatwarne: It is important to a man to carry on his own genes. More than women realise.
It is against a man's nature to invest in another man's children.
I know some do but it is against the grain. This may be the problem you're coming up against.
It is against a man's nature to invest in another man's children.
I know some do but it is against the grain. This may be the problem you're coming up against.
n the wild, if a lion takes on a lioness who has kids, his first job is to kill them and replace them with his own, I'm not suggesting that this should happen in human society, but we all have remnants of the wild in us.
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tell me about it !!im a single dad ,,and likewise I have to drop everything just for a day out ...its impossible to meet someone on the same wavelenght
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