I am sure so many of us joined this site looking for someone. So many are successful I suppose but my thread is about our frustrations we have encountered in that search including but not limited to being scammed.
In your experience, what challenges and or frustrations have you encountered if there is any and how did you handle it?
If you haven't found that love are you still hopeful?
(of course, that is why you are still here)maybe. I have to admit, I am not here looking anymore, rather I am here because of friends and all the writes.
I hope we can all learn from those experiences.
Thank you all for your participation and comments (if any).
Lack of commitment to actually trying to find someone on CS. This may be a major hurdle to overcome. Whereas I'm quite responsive in answering mail, I notice most messages come from different continents: chatting seems safe, while there is little chance ever to meet.
So far, I haven't had any answer to messages addressed to some local CS member. Are these ladies avoiding the risk ever to actually meet someone over this CS platform?
Another hurdle are inactive profiles: someone may draw your attention; yet if you notice your message still hasn't been read after several weeks, you realize your effort once more was in vain.
Finally the European problem: English only is the mothertongue on the British Islands. The cradle of Western civilisation is a patchwork of national and regional languages. This always has been a limiting factor for dating somebody and for migration.
Track16: Distance is a issue for me, barely anyone from my area uses this site.
Track I am sorry to hear that. But that is exactly what this international site is for, to bring the world closer for all of us to meet. So yes, if distance is a challenge, you do have to seek a different way of meeting people, like church maybe?
Hoolet, we all get challenged by that one way or another because of the fact that there is no personal foundation of establishing ourselves other than the basic level of introduction. But eventually we can get there to a point where in either we can trust someone or they can trust us. I took the leap and didn't take long to know that love flourished because trust and all that come with it were there. Be patient.
lindsyjones: I am sure so many of us joined this site looking for someone. So many are successful I suppose but my thread is about our frustrations we have encountered in that search including but not limited to being scammed.
In your experience, what challenges and or frustrations have you encountered if there is any and how did you handle it?
If you haven't found that love are you still hopeful?
(of course, that is why you are still here)maybe. I have to admit, I am not here looking anymore, rather I am here because of friends and all the writes.
I hope we can all learn from those experiences.
Thank you all for your participation and comments (if any).
Several times my contacts (for personal interest) start seemingly optimistic, then he stops writing after, say, the second or third time. I always wonder if it was something I did or said, or if the pic I provided wasn't acceptable or whatever. At this point in my life, it wouldn't bother me to hear SOMETHING, like, "I found someone else", or, "I don't think we connect the way I want to", I have big boy britches, but what I don't like at all is just a stop, with no explanation or comment or anything. Kind of puts a cloud over the whole process of it all. JMO
rohaan: Several times my contacts (for personal interest) start seemingly optimistic, then he stops writing after, say, the second or third time. I always wonder if it was something I did or said, or if the pic I provided wasn't acceptable or whatever. At this point in my life, it wouldn't bother me to hear SOMETHING, like, "I found someone else", or, "I don't think we connect the way I want to", I have big boy britches, but what I don't like at all is just a stop, with no explanation or comment or anything. Kind of puts a cloud over the whole process of it all. JMO
Perhaps they were deleted on the CS? And so my question is, did you established communication outside of CS? And then just disappear? That hurts and very discouraging but not all would be like that I presume.
sorry for that experience Rohaan. Abandonment hurts specially if both have built the blocks of good relationship..
lindsyjones: Perhaps they were deleted on the CS? And so my question is, did you established communication outside of CS? And then just disappear? That hurts and very discouraging but not all would be like that I presume.
sorry for that experience Rohaan. Abandonment hurts specially if both have built the blocks of good relationship..
Thanks for your input. I don't think they were deleted; plenty of pen-pall-y letters (not intimate-type) are not, so the system is "working", per se. No, in these instances, so far no communication outside of CS is established. We use the E-Mail system specific to CS. I have called one lady member who provided me with a #, and all is groovy as a movie with that. (Yes, I know CS doesn't recommend us exchanging phone numbers). I'm really not trying to internalize this too much, just saying it is annoying that it occurs. Perhaps some people just want to visit a little, and when it seems like there is a romantic interest sparking, they become a shrinking violet. I understand. Relationships can be costly, emotionally draining, and time-consuming. It's hard for folks. I just wish the people who want to step away, for whatever reason, would just say so, instead of just coming on like a good buddy and then disappearing.
rohaan: Thanks for your input. I don't think they were deleted; plenty of pen-pall-y letters (not intimate-type) are not, so the system is "working", per se. No, in these instances, so far no communication outside of CS is established. We use the E-Mail system specific to CS. I have called one lady member who provided me with a #, and all is groovy as a movie with that. (Yes, I know CS doesn't recommend us exchanging phone numbers). I'm really not trying to internalize this too much, just saying it is annoying that it occurs. Perhaps some people just want to visit a little, and when it seems like there is a romantic interest sparking, they become a shrinking violet. I understand. Relationships can be costly, emotionally draining, and time-consuming. It's hard for folks. I just wish the people who want to step away, for whatever reason, would just say so, instead of just coming on like a good buddy and then disappearing.
Yes rohaan, and that is one of the challenges we face on here on the web. The practice of discretion is wayward as accountability is very loose. But there are some very good ones that are here. Like I said I met my love 5 years ago from the Poetry corner, lasted for beautiful 18 months. I flew three times to Australia and he came twice to the US and planned on being together forever but of course when it is not meant to be, it isn't. But yes, being abandoned with no words just isn't right.
I seem to have trouble moving past the message stage. Isn't the goal on these sites is to eventually meet someone?
One person seemed really into me, but doesn't want to seem to put forth the effort to meet, but wants to text all the time. I'm fairly certain it wasn't a catfish situation. Regardless I moved on but it seems common that people are fine with just messaging.
I'm fairly new to this, but I'm frustrated that I haven't had a real date as of yet. I was in a really long relationship and was excited about the prospect of being able to date, but so far it sure hasn't been any fun.
One of the problems is that I am not someone that enjoys texting. It drives me nuts that first you message through the site, then they want to move the messaging to some other site or app and then maybe the phone. What's the difference?
For me the problem is distance and age. There are a fair number is men on CS in the surrounding towns but they don't really seem interested in me, and the men who have show interest unfortunately all live in another state or over seas. Secondly, a majority or the messages in my in box are always from men around my grandfather's age and are highly inappropriate. Sadly, I have a blocked list that continues to grow. All I want is a nice, funny, and loyal guy. Is that so much to ask for?
Gidgmon: I seem to have trouble moving past the message stage. Isn't the goal on these sites is to eventually meet someone?
One person seemed really into me, but doesn't want to seem to put forth the effort to meet, but wants to text all the time. I'm fairly certain it wasn't a catfish situation. Regardless I moved on but it seems common that people are fine with just messaging.
I'm fairly new to this, but I'm frustrated that I haven't had a real date as of yet. I was in a really long relationship and was excited about the prospect of being able to date, but so far it sure hasn't been any fun.
One of the problems is that I am not someone that enjoys texting. It drives me nuts that first you message through the site, then they want to move the messaging to some other site or app and then maybe the phone. What's the difference?
Gid, sorry about your struggle and I hope it will get better with you.
Gidgmon: I seem to have trouble moving past the message stage. Isn't the goal on these sites is to eventually meet someone?
One person seemed really into me, but doesn't want to seem to put forth the effort to meet, but wants to text all the time. I'm fairly certain it wasn't a catfish situation. Regardless I moved on but it seems common that people are fine with just messaging.
I'm fairly new to this, but I'm frustrated that I haven't had a real date as of yet. I was in a really long relationship and was excited about the prospect of being able to date, but so far it sure hasn't been any fun.
One of the problems is that I am not someone that enjoys texting. It drives me nuts that first you message through the site, then they want to move the messaging to some other site or app and then maybe the phone. What's the difference?
Gid, sorry about your struggle and I hope it will get better with you.
StarryNight24: For me the problem is distance and age. There are a fair number is men on CS in the surrounding towns but they don't really seem interested in me, and the men who have show interest unfortunately all live in another state or over seas. Secondly, a majority or the messages in my in box are always from men around my grandfather's age and are highly inappropriate. Sadly, I have a blocked list that continues to grow. All I want is a nice, funny, and loyal guy. Is that so much to ask for?
Good luck Starry and I hope and pray that you will find the right one for you as it is for him to find you, too.
lindsyjones: I am sure so many of us joined this site looking for someone. So many are successful I suppose but my thread is about our frustrations we have encountered in that search including but not limited to being scammed.
In your experience, what challenges and or frustrations have you encountered if there is any and how did you handle it?
If you haven't found that love are you still hopeful?
(of course, that is why you are still here)maybe. I have to admit, I am not here looking anymore, rather I am here because of friends and all the writes.
I hope we can all learn from those experiences.
Thank you all for your participation and comments (if any).
I am still hopeful to find and meet real friends on here
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In your experience, what challenges and or frustrations have you encountered if there is any and how did you handle it?
If you haven't found that love are you still hopeful?
(of course, that is why you are still here)maybe. I have to admit, I am not here looking anymore, rather I am here because of friends and all the writes.
I hope we can all learn from those experiences.
Thank you all for your participation and comments (if any).