Maybe I am old fashioned (38)
nowuknowmeSt. Paul, Minnesota USA3 Threads 1 Polls 10 Posts
I want to know if anyone else finds it strange that a person you do not know wants to exchange numbers and talk when you do not even know anything about them? Don't get me wrong I know the ultimate goal is to find someone. Honestly, I just feel like it is a bit to fast when a guy sends me a message with his number and expects me to call. I have been off the market for a long while and I would like to know if this is the norm?------ This thread is Archived ------
nowuknowme: I want to know if anyone else finds it strange that a person you do not know wants to exchange numbers and talk when you do not even know anything about them? Don't get me wrong I know the ultimate goal is to find someone. Honestly, I just feel like it is a bit to fast when a guy sends me a message with his number and expects me to call. I have been off the market for a long while and I would like to know if this is the norm?
You need to be careful about handing out a phone #, sometimes these people are scammers and once they have your number, you could start getting spam phone calls.
Those who are real won't be handing out numbers right away, and only hand out yours if your absolutely sure of the person.
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nowuknowme: I want to know if anyone else finds it strange that a person you do not know wants to exchange numbers and talk when you do not even know anything about them? Don't get me wrong I know the ultimate goal is to find someone. Honestly, I just feel like it is a bit to fast when a guy sends me a message with his number and expects me to call. I have been off the market for a long while and I would like to know if this is the norm?
No, it is not normal to exchange numbers and ask you to call them. That shows they aren't putting any thought and energy in getting to know you. I won't say its old fashioned but it shows how little their minds are into getting to know the person.
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Track16: You need to be careful about handing out a phone #, sometimes these people are scammers and once they have your number, you could start getting spam phone calls.
Those who are real won't be handing out numbers right away, and only hand out yours if your absolutely sure of the person.
Those who are real won't be handing out numbers right away, and only hand out yours if your absolutely sure of the person.
Thanks so much, how do tell the difference?
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HopeNMiracles: No, it is not normal to exchange numbers and ask you to call them. That shows they aren't putting any thought and energy in getting to know you. I won't say its old fashioned but it shows how little their minds are into getting to know the person.
Glad to know. I had guys tell me they want to go on skipe which I do not even know what that is
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nowuknowme: Thanks so much, how do tell the difference?
Scammers can have a poor handle on the english language, their messages tend to follow the same basic structure, usually includes a email address. Women tell me they say they are in the military.
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Track16: Scammers can have a poor handle on the english language, their messages tend to follow the same basic structure, usually includes a email address. Women tell me they say they are in the military.
So glad I asked and it is very kind of you guys to let me know that I am not that old fashioned after all.
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nowuknowme: So glad I asked and it is very kind of you guys to let me know that I am not that old fashioned after all.
Your not old fashion as all, your smart :)
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Track16: Your not old fashion as all, your smart :)
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On this site I'm sure, but on POF the norm is to exchange numbers as soon as possible, to save wasting time writing tons of messages back and forth, because people can communicate far easier by phone, than typed messages
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The part that always gets me is that these people manage to write on these sites but as soon as the first chat it's off to the phone. What's wrong with exchanging words on a site? It could be cheaper and you can put thought into each others responses. I guess I am old fashioned too.
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I've only been a member on the site for a few weeks and want to find someone special, but I am also cautious of scammers. So, when a guy's first message to me is a number or email, or request for my Facebook or Skype infor that can worry me quite a bit. Your not old fashion. You just have good common sense.
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nowuknowme: I want to know if anyone else finds it strange that a person you do not know wants to exchange numbers and talk when you do not even know anything about them? Don't get me wrong I know the ultimate goal is to find someone. Honestly, I just feel like it is a bit to fast when a guy sends me a message with his number and expects me to call. I have been off the market for a long while and I would like to know if this is the norm?
It doesn't matter what is considered normal. Whatever is normal for you is what matters. If you don't want to share your phone number with someone you hardly know, don't do it. Go with your first inclination for what makes you feel comfortable
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nowuknowme: I want to know if anyone else finds it strange that a person you do not know wants to exchange numbers and talk when you do not even know anything about them? Don't get me wrong I know the ultimate goal is to find someone. Honestly, I just feel like it is a bit to fast when a guy sends me a message with his number and expects me to call. I have been off the market for a long while and I would like to know if this is the norm?
It is very common, but not the way to a relationship.
Check out some of the DOs and DONTs on here::grin:
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nowuknowme: I want to know if anyone else finds it strange that a person you do not know wants to exchange numbers and talk when you do not even know anything about them? Don't get me wrong I know the ultimate goal is to find someone. Honestly, I just feel like it is a bit to fast when a guy sends me a message with his number and expects me to call. I have been off the market for a long while and I would like to know if this is the norm?
Your post is certainly one for the ages. Let me tell you a little (true) story about something that happened just a couple of days ago. I had opened my front door to take in the clear, warm day, as we had just gone through several days of high winds and rain torrents. (I live at the beach). A man walked by and stopped to talk a moment. We talked about folk music, and I mentioned instruments I play. He knew some about the topic, and had played a little, as well. I invited him in. Now, many people would find this too cavalier; it is not something I do all the time, as well. However, I don't want to get to a point in life where my first view of a person is one of suspicion and negativity. There really needs to be some positive and friendly spontaneity in life, or Its sweetness is gone. It turned out well, it seems I may have made a very good acquaintance, and this would not have happened had I been cynical or overly-cautious. What are we to do? America's warmth is cooling off too rapidly, and I for one am going to do all I can to recapture what we fought so bravely to have. The American community is unique to the world, and it is the kindness and friendliness of the citizens that help make it so. JMO------ This thread is Archived ------
rohaan: Your post is certainly one for the ages. Let me tell you a little (true) story about something that happened just a couple of days ago. I had opened my front door to take in the clear, warm day, as we had just gone through several days of high winds and rain torrents. (I live at the beach). A man walked by and stopped to talk a moment. We talked about folk music, and I mentioned instruments I play. He knew some about the topic, and had played a little, as well. I invited him in. Now, many people would find this too cavalier; it is not something I do all the time, as well. However, I don't want to get to a point in life where my first view of a person is one of suspicion and negativity. There really needs to be some positive and friendly spontaneity in life, or Its sweetness is gone. It turned out well, it seems I may have made a very good acquaintance, and this would not have happened had I been cynical or overly-cautious. What are we to do? America's warmth is cooling off too rapidly, and I for one am going to do all I can to recapture what we fought so bravely to have. The American community is unique to the world, and it is the kindness and friendliness of the citizens that help make it so. JMO
Hiya Ro
So are you saying she should ring these fellas who put their number on their first email?
I can nearly guarantee you they are laying on the bed ready for a tug
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I don't think you are old fashioned at all. Your using common sense and being cautious, just as you should. We have gut reactions for a reason..go with what your intuition tells you! I wish you the very best!
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mollybaby: Hiya Ro
So are you saying she should ring these fellas who put their number on their first email?
I can nearly guarantee you they are laying on the bed ready for a tug
No.So are you saying she should ring these fellas who put their number on their first email?
I can nearly guarantee you they are laying on the bed ready for a tug
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Anney525: I don't think you are old fashioned at all. Your using common sense and being cautious, just as you should. We have gut reactions for a reason..go with what your intuition tells you! I wish you the very best!
If someone, male or female, begins trying to find someone, how are the two going to really get to know each other if somewhere along the way they don't try to meet, or at least talk on a telephone? I am open to whatever you may think or feel--I've been in the world a few minutes, and understand one needing to feel safe, etc...What would YOU suggest? What is the "plan", per se? Just a thought--many people are concerned about getting to know a "stranger". Yet, significantly, the people who are frequently damaged are done so by people they have known and trusted , and/or been with, for decades. It's ALL kind of a big crap shoot, then, isn't it? What I'm saying, and I think you knew this, is that we can't go through life being eternally afraid of everything and everybody. That isn't healthy, either.------ This thread is Archived ------
nowuknowme: I want to know if anyone else finds it strange that a person you do not know wants to exchange numbers and talk when you do not even know anything about them? Don't get me wrong I know the ultimate goal is to find someone. Honestly, I just feel like it is a bit to fast when a guy sends me a message with his number and expects me to call. I have been off the market for a long while and I would like to know if this is the norm?
I'm not trying to be difficult, but , why get interested if you're not going to be interested? 
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