Maybe I am old fashioned ( Archived) (38)

Dec 22, 2015 1:28 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
rohaan: I'm not trying to be difficult, but , why get interested if you're not going to be interested?


Ro, I know you answered no to my question.

But we get men sending us their contact numbers every day. Sometimes after a 'hi', sometimes we don't even get that much beforehand.

I block and delete them on the spot.

Any decent man will not send him number before getting to know you in some way beforehand.
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Dec 22, 2015 1:30 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
johnjjm
johnjjmjohnjjmco westmeath0000, Westmeath Ireland562 Posts
well im old fashioned as well stone age is what im mtold just give me your address and I will be there pronto ha ha
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Dec 22, 2015 1:31 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
allthegoodnamest
allthegoodnamestallthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK40 Threads 4,697 Posts
rohaan: Tell me about your fiddle. I like fiddles.


There's plenty a good tune played on it.banana laugh
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Dec 22, 2015 1:47 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
allthegoodnamest: There's plenty a good tune played on it.
I'm thinkin'......thumbs up








ps u r a funny friend....handshake
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Dec 22, 2015 1:56 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
allthegoodnamest
allthegoodnamestallthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK40 Threads 4,697 Posts
rohaan: I'm thinkin'...... ps u r a funny friend....


Look Ro, I have a Hipower job, a mortgage , I'm a single dad whose paying for my daughters uni education singlehanded but you never hear me complaining.. I always try to stay positive whatever the situation.laugh
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Dec 22, 2015 2:04 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
johnjjm: well im old fashioned as well stone age is what im mtold just give me your address and I will be there pronto ha ha


But of course, JJ!


Anglesea Street,
Cork City,
T12 K244
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Dec 22, 2015 2:04 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
If I was looking in real life I wouldn't accept a guys phone number etc the first time.Nor would I agree to exchange personal info right off the bat.

I would want to get to know that person some
first.
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Dec 22, 2015 2:07 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
allthegoodnamest
allthegoodnamestallthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK40 Threads 4,697 Posts
Ccincy: If I was looking in real life I wouldn't accept a guys phone number etc the first time.Nor would I agree to exchange personal info right off the bat.

I would want to get to know that person some
first.

Not a fan of "love at first sight then"dunno laugh
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Dec 22, 2015 2:09 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
allthegoodnamest: Not a fan of "love at first sight then"




I've learned since I was old enough to date to be realistic.laugh laugh
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Dec 22, 2015 2:30 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
allthegoodnamest: Look Ro, I have a Hipower job, a mortgage , I'm a single dad whose paying for my daughters uni education singlehanded but you never hear me complaining.. I always try to stay positive whatever the situation.
Very cool. I admire you for all that. (I earned every single college credit doing backbreaking work. I "get" it). I also believe it's important to look on the bright side, and not complain. I like your energy/attitude. You seem like someone I would genuinely like to have for a good friend. Merry Christmas and a very, very happy new and productive New Year. santa waving reindeer cold
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Dec 22, 2015 2:33 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
allthegoodnamest
allthegoodnamestallthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK40 Threads 4,697 Posts
rohaan: Very cool. I admire you for all that. (I earned every single college credit doing backbreaking work. I "get" it). I also believe it's important to look on the bright side, and not complain. I like your energy/attitude. You seem like someone I would genuinely like to have for a good friend. Merry Christmas and a very, very happy new and productive New Year.


You have a good one too handshake buddies buddies santa waving
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Dec 22, 2015 11:35 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
Gidgmon
GidgmonGidgmonMelrose, Florida USA4 Posts
You're not old-fashioned at all. Yeah, eventually phone numbers need to be exchanged, but the first message is not the time. I've messaged this one man about nine times and he just asked if he could send me his number so that we could talk about meeting. He gets major points for that in my book.

Another way I am going to handle things is to insist on a quick coffee date before numbers are exchanged. That way you get to meet in a nice safe public place and then you can trust your instincts on whether or not you would like to give them your number.
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Dec 23, 2015 12:01 AM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
Anney525
Anney525Anney525St Albans, West Virginia USA2 Threads 1 Polls 11 Posts
rohaan: If someone, male or female, begins trying to find someone, how are the two going to really get to know each other if somewhere along the way they don't try to meet, or at least talk on a telephone? I am open to whatever you may think or feel--I've been in the world a few minutes, and understand one needing to feel safe, etc...What would YOU suggest? What is the "plan", per se? Just a thought--many people are concerned about getting to know a "stranger". Yet, significantly, the people who are frequently damaged are done so by people they have known and trusted , and/or been with, for decades. It's ALL kind of a big crap shoot, then, isn't it? What I'm saying, and I think you knew this, is that we can't go through life being eternally afraid of everything and everybody. That isn't healthy, either.
I agree rohaan, we do need to step out of our comfort zone sometimes. That's part of living. I'm just saying if your intuition is telling you to be cautious,you should. I loved the situation you related in your post. Sometimes there are those we are suppose to meet. When it's right,we feel it.
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Dec 23, 2015 1:15 AM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
pat8lanips
pat8lanipspat8lanipsbabinda, Queensland Australia67 Threads 14 Polls 6,372 Posts
I think its a bit of a balancing act. Give it out too soon, could be a scammer hassling you. Give it out too late, they may have already moved on. If there's some chemistry after a bit of back and forth chat, see how it goes.
My experience, over time I'd have given my number to about a dozen people without any major problems. Around half just want to text back and forth constantly, and wont answer if called, hot potato those ones.
The weirdest one was a girl that rang me up demanding to know where I was, so I told her how I was at my friends birthday party, and she demanded to know who else was there talking to me. Considering I was about 2000km away and had never actually met her in person, I decided she wasnt the one for me.
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Dec 23, 2015 4:53 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
allthegoodnamest
allthegoodnamestallthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK40 Threads 4,697 Posts
pat8lanips: I think its a bit of a balancing act. Give it out too soon, could be a scammer hassling you. Give it out too late, they may have already moved on. If there's some chemistry after a bit of back and forth chat, see how it goes.
My experience, over time I'd have given my number to about a dozen people without any major problems. Around half just want to text back and forth constantly, and wont answer if called, hot potato those ones.
The weirdest one was a girl that rang me up demanding to know where I was, so I told her how I was at my friends birthday party, and she demanded to know who else was there talking to me. Considering I was about 2000km away and had never actually met her in person, I decided she wasnt the one for me.
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Dec 24, 2015 2:16 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
moe7404
moe7404moe7404wichita, Kansas USA7 Threads 100 Posts
i think i have a good reason to exchange phone no. as i am VERY slow at typing. and in a chat thing i make LOTS of mistakes. not every one can touch type. i just got throu with an exchange this morning with a lady tring to get together to eat. after 6 exchanges on reg email i just told her call me. guess what that WORKED. and be cause i make a lot of mistakes i spend about 20% extra time correcting them.
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Dec 24, 2015 8:36 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
bohemianjack
bohemianjackbohemianjackEast Central, Minnesota USA6 Threads 2 Polls 2,699 Posts
nowuknowme: I want to know if anyone else finds it strange that a person you do not know wants to exchange numbers and talk when you do not even know anything about them? Don't get me wrong I know the ultimate goal is to find someone. Honestly, I just feel like it is a bit to fast when a guy sends me a message with his number and expects me to call. I have been off the market for a long while and I would like to know if this is the norm?


What would you like to know.. rose in teeth
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Dec 24, 2015 9:18 PM CST Maybe I am old fashioned
deairplaneguy48
deairplaneguy48deairplaneguy48Dover, Delaware USA3 Posts
There are a lot of scammers out on these sites. One just caught me off guard. They didn't get any money, but know there watching.
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