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Dec 22, 2015 2:52 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
zoeguevara
zoeguevarazoeguevaraNorte de Choco, Choco Colombia8 Threads 2 Polls 134 Posts
We have been friends for 2 years. On and Off not an exclusive relantionship for 1 year. When we are together we act like a couple. Intimacy and personal details about our lives.
He mentioned that he doesn't want to jump into a relantionship too quickly but it's been a YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He recently confessed his feelings for me. But he doesn't want to be exclusive yet.
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Dec 22, 2015 2:54 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
zoeguevara: We have been friends for 2 years. On and Off not an exclusive relantionship for 1 year. When we are together we act like a couple. Intimacy and personal details about our lives.
He mentioned that he doesn't want to jump into a relantionship too quickly but it's been a YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He recently confessed his feelings for me. But he doesn't want to be exclusive yet.


He is dragging his feet for a reason, whether he is involved with someone else or just wants the benefits without the obligations.

I would be careful.
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Dec 22, 2015 2:57 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
allthegoodnamest
allthegoodnamestallthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK40 Threads 4,697 Posts
zoeguevara: We have been friends for 2 years. On and Off not an exclusive relantionship for 1 year. When we are together we act like a couple. Intimacy and personal details about our lives.
He mentioned that he doesn't want to jump into a relantionship too quickly but it's been a YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He recently confessed his feelings for me. But he doesn't want to be exclusive yet.


One word. GAY.professor laugh
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Dec 22, 2015 2:58 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
zoeguevara
zoeguevarazoeguevaraNorte de Choco, Choco Colombia8 Threads 2 Polls 134 Posts
Track16: He is dragging his feet for a reason, whether he is involved with someone else or just wants the benefits without the obligations.

I would be careful.


He said he can't make up his mind. I know he sees other women on the side. Which kind of irks me but i love him.
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Dec 22, 2015 2:59 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
zoeguevara
zoeguevarazoeguevaraNorte de Choco, Choco Colombia8 Threads 2 Polls 134 Posts
allthegoodnamest: One word. GAY.


Ummm what?!
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Dec 22, 2015 3:01 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
kidatheart
kidatheartkidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada30 Threads 16,544 Posts
zoeguevara: Ummm what?!



He's making a public confession, it's about time he came out of the closet. laugh
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Dec 22, 2015 3:03 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
unlaoised
unlaoisedunlaoisedTwilight zone, Wicklow Ireland34 Threads 12,152 Posts
zoeguevara: He said he can't make up his mind. I know he sees other women on the side. Which kind of irks me but i love him.


Wait! Back up the train! So you're happy to sleep with him while he sleeping with other women?

Hooo boy, I'd be getting myself tested
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Dec 22, 2015 3:04 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
zoeguevara
zoeguevarazoeguevaraNorte de Choco, Choco Colombia8 Threads 2 Polls 134 Posts
kidatheart: He's making a public confession, it's about time he came out of the closet.


Ok, i didn't get the joke.

I would please ask this to stay on topic, thank you.
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Dec 22, 2015 3:05 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
zoeguevara: He said he can't make up his mind. I know he sees other women on the side. Which kind of irks me but i love him.




I'd move on.
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Dec 22, 2015 3:06 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
allthegoodnamest
allthegoodnamestallthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK40 Threads 4,697 Posts
zoeguevara: Ummm what?!


Come on girl, wake up & smell the coffee..
If he hasn't made a move after a year, it can mean two things..
He either doesn't fancy you or he's gay.
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Dec 22, 2015 3:07 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
zoeguevara
zoeguevarazoeguevaraNorte de Choco, Choco Colombia8 Threads 2 Polls 134 Posts
unlaoised: Wait! Back up the train! So you're happy to sleep with him while he sleeping with other women?

Hooo boy, I'd be getting myself tested


He wants to take our relantionship slow

But he is very open to see other people. :(
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Dec 22, 2015 3:09 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
allthegoodnamest
allthegoodnamestallthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK40 Threads 4,697 Posts
unlaoised: Wait! Back up the train! So you're happy to sleep with him while he sleeping with other women?

Hooo boy, I'd be getting myself tested


He's not banging her, I thinkconfused laugh
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Dec 22, 2015 3:09 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
zoeguevara
zoeguevarazoeguevaraNorte de Choco, Choco Colombia8 Threads 2 Polls 134 Posts
Ccincy: I'd move on.


Like i said i love the man.
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Dec 22, 2015 3:11 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
unlaoised
unlaoisedunlaoisedTwilight zone, Wicklow Ireland34 Threads 12,152 Posts
zoeguevara: He wants to take our relantionship slow

But he is very open to see other people. :(


Right, so he's not sleeping with you but he's sleeping with various other women.

Erm...is the penny dropping yet? confused
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Dec 22, 2015 3:12 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
kidatheart
kidatheartkidatheartFruitvale, British Columbia Canada30 Threads 16,544 Posts
zoeguevara: We have been friends for 2 years. On and Off not an exclusive relantionship for 1 year. When we are together we act like a couple. Intimacy and personal details about our lives.
He mentioned that he doesn't want to jump into a relantionship too quickly but it's been a YEAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! He recently confessed his feelings for me. But he doesn't want to be exclusive yet.


If you're not happy with the way things are, then the only thing you can do is remove yourself from the situation. No point in trying to force him to into something he's not willing to do. You're obviously fully aware of what he is thinking/doing. If you're happy with the way things are, then continue.

It really is that simple.
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Dec 22, 2015 3:13 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
I would,nt worry....to much....he just sowing his wild oats...before he settles down....may be a nice guy......dunno grin
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Dec 22, 2015 3:13 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
shell1964
shell1964shell1964Marion county, Florida USA7 Threads 1,184 Posts
unlaoised: Wait! Back up the train! So you're happy to sleep with him while he sleeping with other women?

Hooo boy, I'd be getting myself tested
thumbs down for sure I think he is enjoying all the attention what man wouldn't? He has his cake and eats it too..so to speak..why would he make a commitment? He got multiple woman..dunno
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Dec 22, 2015 3:15 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
Ccincy
CcincyCcincyCincinnati, Ohio USA77 Threads 20,535 Posts
zoeguevara: Like i said i love the man.



So you are willing to settle for less regardless of your own happiness.


You would rather put up with this situation.

If someone didn't commit to me by a certain number of time then I would just move on.
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Dec 22, 2015 3:16 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
zoeguevara
zoeguevarazoeguevaraNorte de Choco, Choco Colombia8 Threads 2 Polls 134 Posts
kidatheart: If you're not happy with the way things are, then the only thing you can do is remove yourself from the situation. No point in trying to force him to into something he's not willing to do. You're obviously fully aware of what he is thinking/doing. If you're happy with the way things are, then continue.

It really is that simple.


I'm just confused where do i stand with this man.
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Dec 22, 2015 3:16 PM CST Am I the backup girl for him???? Need feedback asap!!!!
mollybaby
mollybabymollybabyCork City, Cork Ireland56 Threads 8 Polls 23,608 Posts
zoeguevara: Every time he meets someone new it never lasts longer than a month
because every woman wants more from him. Maybe i should too.


That is for you, and only you, to decide.
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