Phuongthanh: Are you happy to be a single Mom or Dad? Have you ever been sad, tired and feel lonely after a hard day and when your kids are sleeping?
Sometimes, I have all above feelings and cry at night, but next morning I get back to be a brave and good Mom.
Having help around the house is always good. Having another adult to talk with helps you mentally. Finding someone who accepts your children and your past is difficult. My advice is to stay strong. Keep positive, and keep moving forward. Time will bring you happiness.
Phuongthanh: Are you happy to be a single Mom or Dad? Have you ever been sad, tired and feel lonely after a hard day and when your kids are sleeping?
Sometimes, I have all above feelings and cry at night, but next morning I get back to be a brave and good Mom.
Having help around the house is always good. Having another adult to talk with helps you mentally. Finding someone who accepts your children and your past is difficult. My advice is to stay strong. Keep positive, and keep moving forward. Time will bring you happiness.
allthegoodnamestLondon, Essex, England UK4,697 posts
Phuongthanh: Are you happy to be a single Mom or Dad? Have you ever been sad, tired and feel lonely after a hard day and when your kids are sleeping?
Sometimes, I have all above feelings and cry at night, but next morning I get back to be a brave and good Mom.
Absolutely loved being a single dad.. Saying that, I did have a lot of support from family & friends & the odd relationship in-between but If the clocks turned back , I wouldn't hesitate to do it all again.
Yes, I am happy to be a single Mom, and I never had any help from family too (due to distance) but hey, we are talking about kids here, just give them love and don't forget they are the most important thing in your life...
When I look at my daughter I cannot describe how big my heart feels, and I could embrace the whole world for that I have her. So I am perfectly okay with being single mom.
At the same time there are moments in which I am so tired that I wish I could wake up the next day knowing that I have no responsibility at all, only for one day, that would be enough :-). Or I dream sometimes of how life would be if there was the other parent present and loving her and caring for her emotionally. Or in some moments I say to myself I have always to pay attention to that nothing happens to me, so that she never feels alone or lost.
But all these worries and thoughts become not important again and again because there is always happiness, too, in the daily life.
BerrySmoothieMy Retreat, Auckland New Zealand4,733 posts
KremaP: Yes, I am happy to be a single Mom, and I never had any help from family too (due to distance) but hey, we are talking about kids here, just give them love and don't forget they are the most important thing in your life...
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
My ex and myself didn't part company until the kids were grown up. They had a proper family, a mother and a father, unlike some of the single parents who take this stability away from their children through selfishness.
tomcatwarne: My ex and myself didn't part company until the kids were grown up. They had a proper family, a mother and a father, unlike some of the single parents who take this stability away from their children through selfishness.
So, you were just lucky to have a great and warm relationship with your ex then Tom... There is nothing worse for the kids to grow in a toxic atmosphere and unfortunately there are too many selfish parents doing it "for the children's sake"... I can not accept the term "stability" when two people don't want to live together and can not wait to part... Being a single parent doesn't mean your kid doesn't have two parents and have good relationship with both of them...
My ex and I even can not talk... He used to prevent me to meet the kids and my first son was stressful for many months until I could get the children to live with me. Tom, I want to keep stability for the children, how can I do it in this case?
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
Phuongthanh: My ex and I even can not talk... He used to prevent me to meet the kids and my first son was stressful for many months until I could get the children to live with me. Tom, I want to keep stability for the children, how can I do it in this case?
Sometimes there is no right solution to a problem, I can only tell you how me and my ex tackled it. The children grew up to be happy well balanced adults. Good luck with yours
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Have you ever been sad, tired and feel lonely after a hard day and when your kids are sleeping?
Sometimes, I have all above feelings and cry at night, but next morning I get back to be a brave and good Mom.