Is that person into you or even interested (17)

Mar 16, 2016 2:07 PM CST Is that person into you or even interested
MsTammy
MsTammyMsTammyCambridge, Ontario Canada1 Threads 2 Posts
I am sure we have all gone through this in our lives, whether from aquaintances, friends, co-workers, etc..conversing You are on good terms with someone, that you flirt and joke around sexually.
When do you know that person is willing to go beyond friends? I am friends with this guy and we have lots in common, and each of us is what we are looking for in a serious relationship. But he does not make the first move, because he always gets turned down when he does, and I also have been turned down if I show interest. But he has said things that makes me wonder "Is it because we are comfortable with each other, he can say things, but yet seems to go out to do things that I find attracted to.(Eg,I like long hair, that he knew, and he decides to grow it out. Also now he says if I stay the night watching movies that he likes a hand job to wake him, or if I want to grab a shower, he'll wash my back.) Is this just in my head, innocent flirting or willing. But he had just had a bad "breakup"(?) with his roommate that he ditched our friendship for,scold Is it rebound, or what. I don't want to make the move in case I did assume wrong, scared if I did assume right, but don't want to be a rebound. He says he never had a one night stand, and doesn't want one, and I just don't know. If anyone can give me feedback, good and bad, I'd like to hear what you have to say and thinkprofessor frustrated
Mar 16, 2016 2:17 PM CST Is that person into you or even interested
Lilith10
Lilith10Lilith10unknown, Alberta Canada33 Threads 2,912 Posts
MsTammy: I am sure we have all gone through this in our lives, whether from aquaintances, friends, co-workers, etc.. You are on good terms with someone, that you flirt and joke around sexually.
When do you know that person is willing to go beyond friends? I am friends with this guy and we have lots in common, and each of us is what we are looking for in a serious relationship. But he does not make the first move, because he always gets turned down when he does, and I also have been turned down if I show interest. But he has said things that makes me wonder "Is it because we are comfortable with each other, he can say things, but yet seems to go out to do things that I find attracted to.(Eg,I like long hair, that he knew, and he decides to grow it out. Also now he says if I stay the night watching movies that he likes a hand job to wake him, or if I want to grab a shower, he'll wash my back.) Is this just in my head, innocent flirting or willing. But he had just had a bad "breakup"(?) with his roommate that he ditched our friendship for, Is it rebound, or what. I don't want to make the move in case I did assume wrong, scared if I did assume right, but don't want to be a rebound. He says he never had a one night stand, and doesn't want one, and I just don't know. If anyone can give me feedback, good and bad, I'd like to hear what you have to say and think


wave Hiya MsTammy grin
I think there's always a risk involved with new relationships.
If we don't take that risk we will never know.
I would ask outright what are the boundaries in the relationship and talk about where it is going..if its not what your looking for, I would run laugh
Doesn't sound to me like he respects you though, and its a huge possibility your the 'rebound' until he does his own healing inside.
Make the move..if that's what you want then you'll know for sure instead of wondering what if..dunno jmo
Good Luck to you and I wish you all the bestgrin canada
Mar 16, 2016 4:37 PM CST Is that person into you or even interested
MsTammy
MsTammyMsTammyCambridge, Ontario Canada1 Threads 2 Posts
Thanks for input..I'm unsure what or if I should make move and I have asked why he says things like this and he doesn't really reply.. just hedges around questions..and I am scared if I did it's because it's a rebound and ya...I feel like there is more bounderies need to be set...thank you
Mar 21, 2016 12:50 AM CST Is that person into you or even interested
musicfreak
musicfreakmusicfreakParadise City, British Columbia Canada25 Threads 1 Polls 946 Posts
@Tammy It sounds like this guy is playing games. I think if he was really interested in you he wouldn't have been with his roommate. If a guy is really interested he'll do whatever he can to be with you. I would move on. Good luck.
Mar 26, 2016 2:27 PM CST Is that person into you or even interested
pedalguy59
pedalguy59pedalguy59Burlington, Ontario Canada36 Threads 1 Polls 10,634 Posts
musicfreak: @Tammy It sounds like this guy is playing games. I think if he was really interested in you he wouldn't have been with his roommate. If a guy is really interested he'll do whatever he can to be with you. I would move on. Good luck.


Ah crap, where did she go?moping
Mar 27, 2016 4:16 PM CST Is that person into you or even interested
Corazon53
Corazon53Corazon53Fredericton, New Brunswick Canada4 Threads 1 Polls 55 Posts
I'm just happy that someone take's an intrest.Lotta people crave attention but yet are to shy to go after it.You're 1 lucky ladythumbs up
Apr 8, 2016 3:06 AM CST Is that person into you or even interested
musicfreak
musicfreakmusicfreakParadise City, British Columbia Canada25 Threads 1 Polls 946 Posts
pedalguy59: Ah crap, where did she go?


I'm still here Pedal. I turned my profile off so I wouldn't be distracted as I had some things to do! It was nice to have a break and not read the gibberish stuff on here. roll eyes One of these days I will delete it for good!doh

Hope you're well.
Apr 11, 2016 4:23 PM CST Is that person into you or even interested
pedalguy59
pedalguy59pedalguy59Burlington, Ontario Canada36 Threads 1 Polls 10,634 Posts
musicfreak: I'm still here Pedal. I turned my profile off so I wouldn't be distracted as I had some things to do! It was nice to have a break and not read the gibberish stuff on here. One of these days I will delete it for good!

Hope you're well.



cool keep on rockinhead banger Bloody shame about no Canadian teams
to fight for the cupmoping I don't know how long you have been
here, but a break is good.thumbs up I am not unwell thank you.laugh
Apr 12, 2016 3:24 AM CST Is that person into you or even interested
musicfreak
musicfreakmusicfreakParadise City, British Columbia Canada25 Threads 1 Polls 946 Posts
pedalguy59: keep on rockin Bloody shame about no Canadian teams
to fight for the cup I don't know how long you have been
here, but a break is good. I am not unwell thank you.


I don't know what I'm going to do with no Canadian teams in the playoffs!uh ohblues It sucks! I'll probably still watch though. I'm sure they'll be a few series I'll get into if not there's always the Blue Jays! I'm going to watch them more this year.

I'm always rockin! That'll never change!winkhead banger
Apr 15, 2016 5:48 PM CST Is that person into you or even interested
pedalguy59
pedalguy59pedalguy59Burlington, Ontario Canada36 Threads 1 Polls 10,634 Posts
musicfreak: I don't know what I'm going to do with no Canadian teams in the playoffs! It sucks! I'll probably still watch though. I'm sure they'll be a few series I'll get into if not there's always the Blue Jays! I'm going to watch them more this year.

I'm always rockin! That'll never change!


wave Rock n Roll Hoochie Coolaugh Lordy mamahead banger
May 25, 2016 1:55 AM CST Is that person into you or even interested
MintyFeet
MintyFeetMintyFeetLongchamps, Buenos Aires Argentina7 Threads 1 Polls 187 Posts
If a man is interested he will make the first move.

Don't fall for those who do not write unless you write first, do not fall for those who don't make the effort to pick up the phone or push the button on Skype to give you a call.

A real man doesn't leave a girl waiting.

A real man doesn't forget a b-day.

And if he does there is sth called a calendar. Use it.
May 26, 2016 2:26 PM CST Is that person into you or even interested
Kattte
KattteKattteVancouver, British Columbia Canada4 Threads 1,333 Posts
MintyFeet: If a man is interested he will make the first move.

Don't fall for those who do not write unless you write first, do not fall for those who don't make the effort to pick up the phone or push the button on Skype to give you a call.

A real man doesn't leave a girl waiting.

A real man doesn't forget a b-day.

And if he does there is sth called a calendar. Use it.



Does a 'real man' talk naked while on Skype? ( you mentioned that on a posting)rolling on the floor laughing
Apr 1, 2018 11:24 AM CST Is that person into you or even interested
SweetnFunnyChic
SweetnFunnyChicSweetnFunnyChicSharjah, United Arab Emirates10 Threads 5 Polls 516 Posts
Tammy I think this guy is not decent, if a man said those things to me I would never see him again, he comes across as sleazy and into games, and one more thing, if a guy is interested, no matter what his past, he will initiate talking about his feelings, or wanting to date you etc
Apr 6, 2018 11:17 AM CST Is that person into you or even interested
Ginx016x
Ginx016xGinx016xThunder Bay, Ontario Canada19 Posts
I would never go near such guys. Unfortunately, there be some guys who think life is a porno movie. You do not want to be with somebody who needs lots growing up and cares only about HIS needs and wants vs interested in yours too + not always about sex. Relationships are not an overnight sensation. Take your time not just for your safety but for your heart too.
Jun 4, 2018 8:22 PM CST Is that person into you or even interested
loveyDoveySamm
loveyDoveySammloveyDoveySammCape Town, South Africa4 Posts
Hmmmm,
Jun 8, 2018 5:35 PM CST Is that person into you or even interested
Most men know what they want, and they will show it without misleading the person
Jun 9, 2018 2:47 AM CST Is that person into you or even interested
Rachie14
Rachie14Rachie14Stafford, Staffordshire UK1 Threads 3,289 Posts
Simple answer, no they're not.

I will live.
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