Would you stay in relationship only caring and good relationship with out love? (39)
TheRedSquirrel87: Up until a point the best thing to do with someone treating you like an option is to return the favour. When it's early doors there could and perhaps should be a rival on the scene - it should still feel like a challenge.
Eventually, however, the challenge should recede into the background and be replaced by a commitment. Not wholly replaced - ease can kill relationships when tranquility turns to boredom - but largely replaced.
Eventually, however, the challenge should recede into the background and be replaced by a commitment. Not wholly replaced - ease can kill relationships when tranquility turns to boredom - but largely replaced.
You'd think that ease and tranquility are things people like, but there's a limit. Think of how easy modern life is by comparison to anything which came before and then consider how weary, easily bored and depressed people are now. Easily bored and depressed come from tranquility: Have you ever met anyone from Iceland?
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tomcatwarne: Is that why you are alone???
I think you mean because I have many options and it's challenging to pick.
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TheRedSquirrel87: You'd think that ease and tranquility are things people like, but there's a limit. Think of how easy modern life is by comparison to anything which came before and then consider how weary, easily bored and depressed people are now. Easily bored and depressed come from tranquility: Have you ever met anyone from Iceland?
In an epicurean world(epicurean: the removal of pain and suffering)of welfare states and convenience culture people are crying out for a war and struggle. They want a challenge in romance that our ancestors didn't as our ancestors had enough challenge in staying alive. Modern people have moved the theatre of conflict from the open battlefield into the realms of romance. Love makes a lot of sense when you think of it like a war.
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123whisper: I think you mean because I have many options and it's challenging to pick.
I'm sure you have many options, and blond too
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tomcatwarne: I'm sure you have many options, and blond too
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TheRedSquirrel87: In an epicurean world(epicurean: the removal of pain and suffering)of welfare states and convenience culture people are crying out for a war and struggle. They want a challenge in romance that our ancestors didn't as our ancestors had enough challenge in staying alive. Modern people have moved the theatre of conflict from the open battlefield into the realms of romance. Love makes a lot of sense when you think of it like a war.
Or to put it another way warmongering turns inwards under matriarchy. Where women set the tone of the age the new battleground is the home and family and everything that leads to that, not the fields of Flanders.
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TheRedSquirrel87: Or to put it another way warmongering turns inwards under matriarchy. Where women set the tone of the age the new battleground is the home and family and everything that leads to that, not the fields of Flanders.
In the before time it was usual for the Englishmen to hate Blacks, in modern times it's different. Now he's much more likely to hate his kids or his parents or, simply put, himself. This demonstrates the change from the outward warmongering of world-interested masculinity to the inward warmongering of self-interested femininity.
Anyway, the point is if you want to date someone you have to acknowledge and understand their inner war and if you're not enough of a challenge and struggle for them then they will grow fickle and bored of you(especially women).
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TheRedSquirrel87: In the before time it was usual for the Englishmen to hate Blacks, in modern times it's different. Now he's much more likely to hate his kids or his parents or, simply put, himself. This demonstrates the change from the outward warmongering of world-interested masculinity to the inward warmongering of self-interested femininity.
Anyway, the point is if you want to date someone you have to acknowledge and understand their inner war and if you're not enough of a challenge and struggle for them then they will grow fickle and bored of you(especially women).
Anyway, the point is if you want to date someone you have to acknowledge and understand their inner war and if you're not enough of a challenge and struggle for them then they will grow fickle and bored of you(especially women).
Some say the AK47 is the most widely-used weapon in the modern world, but I'd say it's the child. Modern liberation has given to us the child as weapon and I believe this shows us to be more warmongering than ever before - it just comes out in a different way.
My strong advice to anyone is to consider all of this before playing happy families.
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marie75: So many good member here are good adviser so I thought I ask for one.
Here goes...
I met a nice man from here an hour flight away ( from UK) for 4months now and we tried to meet up every two weeks for few days (because of work that's only we can manage at the moment) and every time we have a lovely time together . He is a very caring and gentleman in every way but few months now I feel something is missing, I know maybe it's still early but I have to courage to ask him if he loves me, and he replied he knows how much I love him and care for him but he said his feeling is not as strong and same as that and only care very much for me and good friendship.
So I asked him what he wants to do carry on as we are now and see in few months what happen but he replied I don't know what we should do..
Now here is my dilemma , should I stay with this relationship hoping he will change but I doubt it or go now?? It's very hard to decide so please help... Thank you in advance xx
Here goes...
I met a nice man from here an hour flight away ( from UK) for 4months now and we tried to meet up every two weeks for few days (because of work that's only we can manage at the moment) and every time we have a lovely time together . He is a very caring and gentleman in every way but few months now I feel something is missing, I know maybe it's still early but I have to courage to ask him if he loves me, and he replied he knows how much I love him and care for him but he said his feeling is not as strong and same as that and only care very much for me and good friendship.
So I asked him what he wants to do carry on as we are now and see in few months what happen but he replied I don't know what we should do..
Now here is my dilemma , should I stay with this relationship hoping he will change but I doubt it or go now?? It's very hard to decide so please help... Thank you in advance xx
Love us something we have and share. Although we differ immensely on how we love and be loved. In your case if I were you, there's no reason to stay. That's because you're obviously not feeling complete. Your expectations are not met and it causes your confusion of whether to stay or not.
Molly's advice is a time filler and see where it goes. That's if no other choice and you have the patience.
All and his advice makes me assume he's a user.
Redsquirrel is logical.
My question to you is, are you feeling comfortable with the situation? Because some can love without being reciprocated as expected and if that's your case then I'd stay longer and see where it goes.
For me though, I was never un,a situation where the level of commitment or passion was ever in question. I wouldn't stay. But that's me. How you feel us inherently yours and I hope you'll be strong to change and move on when it's not fulfilling your expectations.
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marie75: So many good member here are good adviser so I thought I ask for one.
Here goes...
I met a nice man from here an hour flight away ( from UK) for 4months now and we tried to meet up every two weeks for few days (because of work that's only we can manage at the moment) and every time we have a lovely time together . He is a very caring and gentleman in every way but few months now I feel something is missing, I know maybe it's still early but I have to courage to ask him if he loves me, and he replied he knows how much I love him and care for him but he said his feeling is not as strong and same as that and only care very much for me and good friendship.
So I asked him what he wants to do carry on as we are now and see in few months what happen but he replied I don't know what we should do..
Now here is my dilemma , should I stay with this relationship hoping he will change but I doubt it or go now?? It's very hard to decide so please help... Thank you in advance xx
Here goes...
I met a nice man from here an hour flight away ( from UK) for 4months now and we tried to meet up every two weeks for few days (because of work that's only we can manage at the moment) and every time we have a lovely time together . He is a very caring and gentleman in every way but few months now I feel something is missing, I know maybe it's still early but I have to courage to ask him if he loves me, and he replied he knows how much I love him and care for him but he said his feeling is not as strong and same as that and only care very much for me and good friendship.
So I asked him what he wants to do carry on as we are now and see in few months what happen but he replied I don't know what we should do..
Now here is my dilemma , should I stay with this relationship hoping he will change but I doubt it or go now?? It's very hard to decide so please help... Thank you in advance xx
Considering the exclusivity raised on the title of your thread? No, I will never be with anyone without love. Love is all there's to it and as long as the foundation of a relationship is it, all the rest comes naturally.
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Simple answer, No I couldn't/wouldn't remain in a relationship that doesn't contain love.
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TheRedSquirrel87: Some say the AK47 is the most widely-used weapon in the modern world, but I'd say it's the child. Modern liberation has given to us the child as weapon and I believe this shows us to be more warmongering than ever before - it just comes out in a different way.
My strong advice to anyone is to consider all of this before playing happy families.
My strong advice to anyone is to consider all of this before playing happy families.
There's hope yet. Child soldiers are common under infant and primitive patriarchy and so perhaps the child as a weapon is only common during infant and primitive matriarchy. Perhaps one day we'll stop moulding our children into weapons in both senses.
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No, I wouldn't.
A loveless relationship is not really a relationship.
Unless you are Anna Nicole Smith or sth.
A loveless relationship is not really a relationship.
Unless you are Anna Nicole Smith or sth.
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HotHail: No, I wouldn't.
A loveless relationship is not really a relationship.
Unless you are Anna Nicole Smith or sth.
A loveless relationship is not really a relationship.
Unless you are Anna Nicole Smith or sth.
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Ccincy: Simple answer, No I couldn't/wouldn't remain in a relationship that doesn't contain love.
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No I wouldn't stay in a relationship without love. I don't trust myself and I wouldn't trust her to be cold and pragmatic enough to make that work. It'd be playing with fire, even more like playing with fire than love is.
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TheRedSquirrel87: No I wouldn't stay in a relationship without love. I don't trust myself and I wouldn't trust her to be cold and pragmatic enough to make that work. It'd be playing with fire, even more like playing with fire than love is.
No way you would Obs. And who can't love you anyways. On thecontrary you'd all be loved just your choice would prevail.
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sniga: what did u feel when u first met him??
this works for me... when you date someone long time, you get used to them and start to think you love them, but the first instinct and intuition always ends up to be the right one..
this works for me... when you date someone long time, you get used to them and start to think you love them, but the first instinct and intuition always ends up to be the right one..
Isnt it the truth, thats how you felt when you first met me !
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To be brutally honest I think he's not that into you and I don't believe you can do anything about that. It's nothing you've done.