123whisper: Thank you for sharing your enlightening thought. In regard to finding someone to blame... I personally find that discariging for my highest good...and when ever I feel like blaming other significant in my life, I feel it blurs out the centre of my attention,my focus,myself...because I believe,there has to be a middle truth, centre ...called balance...as without it,nothing can truly be whole...We have to try to centre ourself to hold everything together... I find a huge amount of freedom when I don't take anything personally. Nothing is easier than self deceit. Women who loved you tried to kill you with knife or slept with another man while women who didn't even know your name scrubbed your back when feeling itchy... and your best friend could try to rip you off for big $$$...and than again there might be a person who accidently crossed your path on the road when your car broken down in the middle of nowhere...and complete stranger does best for you to fix it ...coming as unexpected radiant star ...and you never see him/her again. At times we're traped ourself in an emotion that cannot communicate truth,beyond what we want to see or remember.Perhaps we see a flashlight of a truth where is easier to perceive error...while truth laughing at itself. We remain children all our lives...depending on reality that we're most endlessly betrayed... Does complete truth belong to any human discloser ? Can anyone take pride that all our actions always agree with words? We can only do best we can in our capability...not to deceive self and others...and we're all mortal imperfections.
keep in mind i'm discussing my experience here at cs.
again, there are times when someone is to blame. if their so caught up in their own false beliefs and are so stuck in themselves and the past anybody who has anything to do with them understand that they can't possibly deceive anybody who can see right through them. for example, i met someone here at cs that has endless use of different cs profiles and when called on it they decided it was more important for them to choose to continue their charade then develop a relationship. so one quickly understands that this person would rather play around and go on deceiving themselves and can't possibly be serious about a connection. that's just one example but blame has to be assigned.
i don't allow someone to knock me out of balance. they may try, but i'm to grounded for that ever to happen.
surprise, i'm different then you whisper, imagine that. i do take some things personally. i take personal relationships personal. i'm easy going and will tolerate a lot before the line is crossed. i'll give opportunities and chances for success, but there is a limit. you said you find freedom in not taking things personally. if you become "attached" to someone again, i suspect things will become personal for you again. until then, enjoy your freedom and all that that allows.
i'm honest with my words whisper so that is my truth. it is my life's experiences that have groomed my perception. yes, humans are mortal and not perfect. i do the best that i can with my experiences and hopefully learn from them if i choose to grow. i'm not trapped in half truths or a flashlight of truth. i see the truth of a 1000 watt metal halide when i crawl out of bed in the morning and have a look at whats going on in the world. i don't feel betrayal from anyone. i have chosen the experiences i wanted to experience and have accepted my condition in life.
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In regard to finding someone to blame...
I personally find that discariging for my highest good...and when ever I feel like blaming other significant in my life, I feel it blurs out the centre of my attention,my focus,myself...because I believe,there has to be a middle truth, centre ...called balance...as without it,nothing can truly be whole...We have to try to centre ourself to hold everything together...
I find a huge amount of freedom when I don't take anything personally.
Nothing is easier than self deceit.
Women who loved you tried to kill you with knife or slept with another man while women who didn't even know your name scrubbed your back when feeling itchy... and your best friend could try to rip you off for big $$$...and than again there might be a person who accidently crossed your path on the road when your car broken down in the middle of nowhere...and complete stranger does best for you to fix it ...coming as unexpected radiant star ...and you never see him/her again.
At times we're traped ourself in an emotion that cannot communicate truth,beyond what we want to see or remember.Perhaps we see a flashlight of a truth where is easier to perceive error...while truth laughing at itself. We remain children all our lives...depending on reality that we're most endlessly betrayed...
Does complete truth belong to any human discloser ? Can anyone take pride that all our actions always agree with words?
We can only do best we can in our capability...not to deceive self and others...and we're all mortal imperfections.
keep in mind i'm discussing my experience here at cs.
again, there are times when someone is to blame. if their so caught up in their own false beliefs and are so stuck in themselves and the past anybody who has anything to do with them understand that they can't possibly deceive anybody who can see right through them. for example, i met someone here at cs that has endless use of different cs profiles and when called on it they decided it was more important for them to choose to continue their charade then develop a relationship. so one quickly understands that this person would rather play around and go on deceiving themselves and can't possibly be serious about a connection. that's just one example but blame has to be assigned.
i don't allow someone to knock me out of balance. they may try, but i'm to grounded for that ever to happen.
surprise, i'm different then you whisper, imagine that. i do take some things personally. i take personal relationships personal. i'm easy going and will tolerate a lot before the line is crossed. i'll give opportunities and chances for success, but there is a limit. you said you find freedom in not taking things personally. if you become "attached" to someone again, i suspect things will become personal for you again. until then, enjoy your freedom and all that that allows.
i'm honest with my words whisper so that is my truth. it is my life's experiences that have groomed my perception. yes, humans are mortal and not perfect. i do the best that i can with my experiences and hopefully learn from them if i choose to grow. i'm not trapped in half truths or a flashlight of truth. i see the truth of a 1000 watt metal halide when i crawl out of bed in the morning and have a look at whats going on in the world. i don't feel betrayal from anyone. i have chosen the experiences i wanted to experience and have accepted my condition in life.